Dating with No Talking

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    Mar 24, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    Imagine going on a first date and both agreeing that you will not talk. You can only signify things with your hands and gestures. You've already exchanged pictures beforehand, so you know you're into each other. Just think how much small talk and small insecurities you can do away with.

    You can only talk with your hands, and I don't mean sign language. Ah, this would be awesome. Like to tell a guy you like his eyes, or his pecs, or his legs.

    OK, just a sexy thought. Never mind me, unless, you agree it would be fun.
  • swedeinusa

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    Mar 24, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    Done it before with a deaf guy, except without the agreed-before-terms thing. It was a blind date and I he seemed like a cute and interesting guy. My sign language was pitiful and we ate it relative silence. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 24, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidDone it before with a deaf guy, except without the agreed-before-terms thing. It was a blind date and I he seemed like a cute and interesting guy. My sign language was pitiful and we ate it relative silence. icon_sad.gif



    Mine was worse. I only know how to sign the alphabet so everything I wanted to say took the entire night.. When he wanted to respond all I could do was ask him to slo his signage dwn... I laugh now but at the time I was embarrassed and frustrated.
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    Mar 24, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidImagine going on a first date and both agreeing that you will not talk. You can only signify things with your hands and gestures. You've already exchanged pictures beforehand, so you know you're into each other. Just think how much small talk and small insecurities you can do away with.

    You can only talk with your hands, and I don't mean sign language. Ah, this would be awesome. Like to tell a guy you like his eyes, or his pecs, or his legs.

    OK, just a sexy thought. Never mind me, unless, you agree it would be fun.


    The deepest experience I had never turned into sex...

    I traced his contours like a statue in Rome... I was so inspired by the moment that I even kissed his torso and what happened next was all I ever needed... He hugged me so strong that all that came out were the tears I never knew needed to be cried. He became such an icon and still is... I was only blessed with the beauty of the human body and how it was only destroyed by my being so naive as a child. He gave that back to me and I still remember every shadow of touching... It was not wrong... IT WAS NEVER WRONG. I just wanted to touch a piece of God's artwork because I always thought it was evil and it was only an introduction to Philosophy for me.... I love only like a brother ever would...
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    Mar 24, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    I would hate that! I think I like talking too much and getting to know people. It would drive me nuts. I feel like it would be even more awkward than the usual small talk.

    Then again, I always was the first to fail at the silent game.
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    Mar 25, 2011 12:23 AM GMT
    *gropes Vic's biceps* icon_biggrin.gif
  • BardBear

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    Mar 25, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    I work and live with the Deaf and in the Deaf culture. Not an issue. In fact, it's happened before, and, well, I guess I didn't really say it was any different than a regular date. But then again, I've been signing since I was a kid.

    Peace,
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    Mar 25, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    That is a rather awesome concept; they always say that actions speak louder than words (no pun intended).

    I think that I will remember this idea, and purpose to use it on the next date I have. Putting yourself in different situations is easily one of the best ways to learn different things.
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    Mar 25, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    As appealing as it sounds, I value conversation way too much to do something like that.
  • alphatop

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    Mar 25, 2011 4:52 AM GMT
    Only in case that we are both deaf muteicon_eek.gif
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    Mar 25, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    Didn't it feel good? We were sitting there talking ... Or lying there, not talking---didn't it feel good?

    (Name that tune)
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Mar 25, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    I thought that's already what guys do when they hook up.
  • geebus

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    Mar 25, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    It'd be awesome, but at the same time very frustrating!
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    Mar 25, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    heybreaux saidI spent a weekend with a guy that knew no English and I no Spanish; we spoke the international language of love. icon_biggrin.gif


    I did that once at Heaven. Except it only lasted about 17 minutes, he ruined my sweater because I wasn't about to swallow, and I at least got a beer afterwards.

    Regardless, I have an affinity for deaf guysicon_smile.gif
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    Mar 25, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    this sounds like a pretty amazing idea for a date.
    wonder if people would acutally be able to do it though. It would be hard to set soemthing like this up.
  • activeboy90

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    Mar 25, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    Im not sure I become a chatty cathy usually

    BUT if the guy wasn't a dud and was fun and exciting I bet we could have a blast! It'd be like charades icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 25, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidDone it before with a deaf guy, except without the agreed-before-terms thing. It was a blind date and I he seemed like a cute and interesting guy. My sign language was pitiful and we ate it relative silence. icon_sad.gif

    I grabbed a pen and paper. We had a fantastic time, but he moved away.
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    Mar 25, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    I'd done it before with a super hot deaf-mute jock who didn't disclose his physical "limitation" until he's 2 minutes away from the hotel where I was staying (which was interesting because his physical situation would not have mattered to me in the first place). We started talking through an electronic notepad, passing the notepad back and forth between us, but I kept making all kinds of keystroke errors and got tired of it so we just communicated through our eyes, hands, and other body parts. It was a fascinating interpersonal experience, and an awesome sexual experience. He had a voracious appetite and was extremely tactile. I'd definitely do it again.
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    Mar 25, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidDone it before with a deaf guy, except without the agreed-before-terms thing. It was a blind date and I he seemed like a cute and interesting guy. My sign language was pitiful and we ate it relative silence. icon_sad.gif


    I would have asked the waiter for a pen and paper maybe ? icon_smile.gif

    I think eating comfortably in silence takes a while to get to .... that's how I know who I click with, friends or sthin sthing more..... when I feel I don't need to talk unless I have something to say without pressure ... feels good but takes a while icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 25, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    No... if he's going to say something dumb I'd like to hear it asap.