how to overcome obsession !!

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    Mar 26, 2011 11:25 AM GMT
    well been in a relationship for a while and i feel like its really become an obsession from the time i wake up to the time i sleep i find myself thinking bout him !! i would lie and miss school just to spend time with him ?? i do think it has become unhealthy !!how do i deal with it please help !! i do want to continue the relationship but i am scared if i act the way i do it will be to my harm and mostly the harm of the relationship !! and please do not say have sex with someone !!! thanks guyzzz
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    Mar 26, 2011 11:34 AM GMT
    obsession is a very hard thing. also, very destructive. rather than sex with someone else, i'd focus on something that is neither you nor him. like some sort of volunteer work. not to make yourself feel better. not to make yourself more appealing to him or others, but just to take yourself out of your own head and relate to the rest of the world. it won't make you less obsessed, but for the time that you are outside your own head, you can realize perhaps a bit more objectively what you have. also, the fires that burn the hottest tend to burn out faster.
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    Mar 26, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    Maintain a lifestyle that is separate and apart from your boyfriend.
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    Mar 26, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    Looks like you have an addictive personality? When you find something good, you want too much of it.

    I used to do the same thing as you. I'd miss class sometimes to spend more time with my guy. It didn't hurt my grades all that much in the end, but judge how much can you bend before you lose the balance in your life.

    There's nothing wrong to spend time with him but just remember that he'll still be there after you're done class/homework. As long as you both like each other, it's OK to spend time apart, I am assuming that he is reasonable enough and that he's not just going to run away because you didn't spend time.
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    Mar 27, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    Yes you guys are right but I do need to find something elso to do to stop the obsession !!maybe community work !its just I'm scared that my feelings for him now are the obsession am I really in love with this guy?? Or is it just the addiction !I just hope I can sort it out asap as I think I would lose him as I'm beginning to get clingy and demanding too! Just wish me luck don't wanna lose this guy at all
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    Mar 27, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    "well been in a relationship for a while and i feel like its really become an obsession from the time i wake up to the time i sleep i find myself thinking bout him !!"

    Can't help you here because we've been living this for 21 years and enjoying every minute of it. What's the issue? Is it because he doesn't feel that way, only you?

    -Doug
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    Mar 27, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    Oh give it time for the luster to wear off. You'll soon tire of his farting while holding your head under the covers
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    Mar 27, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    Do you have access to a counselor at your school? They may be able to give you some techniques to help you redirect your thinking and also your actions. I think you'll be ok, you realize there's a problem and that's a very good thing.
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    Mar 27, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
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    Mar 30, 2011 4:56 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidOh give it time for the luster to wear off. You'll soon tire of his farting while holding your head under the covers


    hehe yeah i wish he would be next to me so that he could do tht ! but it is an addiction but hes gone on holiday now so hopefully it will give me a bit of a break !!
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    Mar 30, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    Just kind of think of the mind as an out of control horse and you're the rider. Let it go crazy, let is obsess, let it do all those things, till it just can't anymore. The horse will get tired and then, you can focus on whatever you want, you can lead the horse anywhere you like.
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    Mar 31, 2011 12:28 PM GMT
    xKorix saidJust kind of think of the mind as an out of control horse and you're the rider. Let it go crazy, let is obsess, let it do all those things, till it just can't anymore. The horse will get tired and then, you can focus on whatever you want, you can lead the horse anywhere you like.

    sounds like an excellent idea!!just apprehensive if i do not stop soon it will end !! then i will be in crap ;(