Bartenders...

  • aquariumkid

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    Mar 26, 2011 11:58 PM GMT

    In your experiences, do bartenders usually flirt out of Genuine interest, or do they flirt just to get more tips?

    I was at a gay club last night and i went to go get a drink at their bar. this is how it went...

    bartender: excuse me, have i seen you somewhere before
    me: oh, i came here a couple of weeks ago.
    Bartender: no, you just look really firmiliar... Were you on hannah montana?

    Then he hands me my drink and has to go help someone else, (it was getting a bit busy)

    so was he interested, or faking it?
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    Mar 27, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    Some are genuine; some aren't.
    If he fucks you, he's genuine.
    If not...
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 27, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    aquariumkid said
    In your experiences, do bartenders usually flirt out of Genuine interest, or do they flirt just to get more tips?

    I was at a gay club last night and i went to go get a drink at their bar. this is how it went...

    bartender: excuse me, have i seen you somewhere before
    me: oh, i came here a couple of weeks ago.
    Bartender: no, you just look really firmiliar... Were you on hannah montana?

    Then he hands me my drink and has to go help someone else, (it was getting a bit busy)

    so was he interested, or faking it?


    Or maybe he had seen you somewhere before. Just a thought.
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    Mar 27, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidSome are genuine; some aren't.
    If he fucks you, he's genuine.
    If not...


    LOL! But Paul, what if he's just trying to promote his escort side job, or porn stardom, is he still being genuine then?
  • swedeinusa

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    Mar 27, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    Tips. Always tips. Unless he specifically asks for you to wait till his shift his over, he wants you to place a nice solid Jackson in his tip till.

    He was faking it.
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    Mar 27, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidTips. Always tips. Unless he specifically asks for you to wait till his shift his over, he wants you to place a nice solid Jackson in his tip till.

    He was faking it.

    Pretty much this. You will KNOW if it's real.
    A bartender is there for their job and maybe their latest fuck, but not trying to mix pleasure and business MOST of the time. Deal with them like you would any other server unless they give you their number. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 27, 2011 6:37 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidSome are genuine; some aren't.
    If he fucks you, he's genuine.
    If not...


    True. If they offer to meet you at quitting time, go take a disco nap, clean out, and meet him when he gets of and see if you both get off.
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    Gosh, that was a memory from way in the past!
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    Mar 27, 2011 6:40 AM GMT
    What if a bartender buys YOU a drink?
  • alphatop

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    Mar 27, 2011 6:46 AM GMT
    At some point in my life, I was bartender. And I pull trick like -Oh, u look familiar- more than I can remember, even if I see a guy for the first time in my life...As some guys said before, it's all because of tips. Period. Every bartender who is not a complete asshole will tell u the same...
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:14 AM GMT
    Flirting should never involve a Hannah Montana reference. Never.
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    I bartend in a straight sports bar... I definitely flirt with a lot of women to help with the tips. Since I'm gay, it's obviously all fake. I think most bartenders do it. It's fun, and it gets you extra money. I don't know how the bartenders at gay bars feel... I'd personally never work at one, but I'm sure they're looking for money too.
  • alphatop

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    Mar 27, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    Vigorousinfact saidFlirting should never involve a Hannah Montana reference. Never.



    Ahahhahahahahahahahahahah, u r so right!
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    No, he wasn't interested. He is just interested in getting a cameo on the show and maybe you could hook him up. Bartender/waiter = wanna be actor!

    j/k

    yeah, he wasn't interested.
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:23 AM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidTips. Always tips. Unless he specifically asks for you to wait till his shift his over, he wants you to place a nice solid Jackson in his tip till.

    He was faking it.


    Not always true, I've made a bartender friend from someone who I thought just wanted tips, he genuinely wanted to hang out, which we do.
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:29 AM GMT
    Im actually a bartender right now (just got back from work and a little pissed as I type this).

    I dont flirt for tips, I just make that quick bond so that I feel like the people I am serving are not just customers, but people i actually like... that way, when i fuck up, I know they will tolerate it - none of the stuff I do is contrived behaviour to help me get tips, its just the way i behave.

    aaaanyways, bartending can be super awesome fun, but at the same time you have to just be yourself, and if you are likeable, people feel obligated to give you money for keeping your cool and treating them well. thats all it is.
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:44 AM GMT
    Aquariumkid, from your conversation, it sound pretty hard to tell what his intentions were. I'd just take it at face value that he thought you looked familiar.

    You need to remember, bartenders want people to feel relaxed and having a good time, the better time you have the more likely you will spend money? Is it fake? Well it depends. If he says "buy a drink, and I'll fuck you" but then doesn't, that would be fake.
    But I think to be friendly and flirty is a part of their job. There's a difference between flirty and actually hitting on someone.

    aquariumkid said
    In your experiences, do bartenders usually flirt out of Genuine interest, or do they flirt just to get more tips?

    I was at a gay club last night and i went to go get a drink at their bar. this is how it went...

    bartender: excuse me, have i seen you somewhere before
    me: oh, i came here a couple of weeks ago.
    Bartender: no, you just look really firmiliar... Were you on hannah montana?

    Then he hands me my drink and has to go help someone else, (it was getting a bit busy)

    so was he interested, or faking it?
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    Mar 27, 2011 8:57 AM GMT
    This is one of the reasons I don't want to hook up with a bartender... EVERYBODY wants the bartender!!!
  • Avron88

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    Mar 27, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Somerandom saidIm actually a bartender right now (just got back from work and a little pissed as I type this).

    I dont flirt for tips, I just make that quick bond so that I feel like the people I am serving are not just customers, but people i actually like... that way, when i fuck up, I know they will tolerate it - none of the stuff I do is contrived behaviour to help me get tips, its just the way i behave.

    aaaanyways, bartending can be super awesome fun, but at the same time you have to just be yourself, and if you are likeable, people feel obligated to give you money for keeping your cool and treating them well. thats all it is.


    As a bartender as well, I agree with most of what you say.

    Once in a while I just flirt to make extra tips (i.e. tourists!) but usually I just like starting conversation to be nice..... but please keep in mind.... just because a bartender is being nice doesn't mean he wants to get in your pants. You'll definitely KNOW it if he does... I just give people my number when I am.

    Either way I love my job and all the people I get to meet.

    The bartender also could have been straight. Many straight guys work at my bar.
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    Mar 27, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    i think they do it for the tips.. i flirt with my customers (when the time arises)(i wait tables) a lot of the times it usually means more money.
    Bartender last night specifically called me out, asked my name, bought me a drink and told me how hed never seen me before.
    now, he may have been genuinely interested.. but, i didnt see anything solid haha, he was cute though.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidTips. Always tips. Unless he specifically asks for you to wait till his shift his over, he wants you to place a nice solid Jackson in his tip till.

    He was faking it.


    Yup! Pretty much.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    Sometimes, but not normally... if its not for tips, we'll not really flirt on the job so much..

    for example, if its for the job, we flirt and ask you to come back when we work... if its genuine, we'll ask to meet elsewhere some other time
  • DrobUA

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    Mar 28, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidTips. Always tips. Unless he specifically asks for you to wait till his shift his over, he wants you to place a nice solid Jackson in his tip till.

    He was faking it.


    This. I'm friends with a lot of bartenders and like any job, it's about the money. They even have them come in on their nights off and let them and their friends drink free so they can " get to know" the customers. Flirting makes them a lot of money.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    It doesnt even sound like flirting to me to ask if someone was in hannah montana wtf?????
    Id be like wtf you talking about gimme my beer
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    I'm a bartender at (name withheld) in Philly and it depends on the customer. I've flirted with few customers but never say anything that "leads them on". Humorous or professional rapport is what its all about.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    Usually tips, notice which are straight, which are gay, and which are well know whores that will tell you.