Todays FB: to the family

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    Mar 27, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    To the Family: I'm posting this on FB for the family to see. My extended family, aunts, cousins, all the like. I'm GAY!. I am also dealing with an un-accpeting mother for the 3rd time now in 17 years. That day she wished something upon me that was cruel, directed, and hurt to the core. The last 17 years have been a mixture of intense confusion and lies. I am not even able to get a simple acknowledgement for what has been done. No apology or anything. I have been accused of doing absolutely nothing for the family.

    Those of you that wish to delete me from your facebook links, your mobile phone contact list, feel free. It will not change me, I am still the person that I was when we were all running through the corn fields back home and doing the chores when we were spending summer weeks at one another's houses. I'm still the same Benjamin, Ben, Benji. All of those.

    You may know other gay people in your lives. I hope that their parents treat them better. And you can be a shoulder to listen.

    I feel bullied to be someone that I do not fit the mold in their eyes.

    I am me, I am going to live my dreams. Gays and Lesbians are not second class citizens. We are forced to live by second class rules / rights / laws / fears. Why? Ignorance? Un-knowing? Un-acceptance. All of the above.

    I can say the word never. And here I do. I will NEVER associate with people that chose lie to me and make me change for their betterment. I'm not perfect, and being Gay is not a flaw.
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    Mar 27, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    Best of luck with this post.....Not sure what response you are wanting vs expected from you family and friends.....the "atom bomb" approach can have some intense reactions, so be ready......your frustration with the inequities and 2nd class status is clearly obvious....and I AGREE WITH YOU! I am not a "FLAW" or a "MISTAKE" and if god is so perfect and personally involved in everybody's personal daily life, how dare you assume that he doesn't know that I am gay, since he made your perfect god needs you to tell him that he made a mistake? Don't play that Religion BS card.....
    Take Care, let us know what happens! Please!
    Gary aka SPORTY_G
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    Mar 27, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    Im not seeking any validation. I'm just completely finished with my parents. 17 years is enough and what is done is done.

    I'm not going to let her feel like she can keep me under her thumb.

    My mom has been writing emails to my sister and I through my dads account. thinking that we'll believe that it's him.

    My dad doesn't have the vocabulary as my mom. She thinks she is smarter.

    I just wished I knew I was not accepted then, and my feelings may have been different. It was all lies for the last 17 years and I do not have any room left or wasted breath on the lies.

    I'm done.