I Came Out, I Changed my look, my online profiles, my attitude, I went out to club/bar and I've Been Working Out and Eating Right, BUT no boyfriend?

  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 27, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Not necessarily relating to me icon_razz.gif but have you guys felt this way?
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    Mar 27, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    It will happen when you are not expecting it.... or looking for it

    Just relax
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    Mar 27, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    jbinchlt saidIt will happen when you are not expecting it.... or looking for it

    Just relax


    I have to agree with this, it always happens that way.
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    Agree with the other two posters- it will happen. And then when you do have a boyfriend you'll find a lot of guys want to date you/ come on to you. You'll wonder "where were you guys when I was single?"

    It happens like that to a lot of guys. The world works in mysterious ways.icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 27, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    Like the others are saying, don't worry, it'll happen. Personally, I think you're great looking with a great body and I can't imagine a guy not wanting to date you. You're hot!
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    Mar 27, 2011 8:32 PM GMT

    Nah, you're cursed.... you never acknowledged the harmless compliment I sent to you last August, so I put a hex on you......icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    Just kidding....BUT, as I mentioned in my message to you, your goals are to be admired...and it WILL happen WHEN you're open and ready for it.
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    Mar 27, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    You look good so maybe you're too picky? Btw who said that if you do all those things it will bring you a BF? You shouldn't do all those because you want a BF. You should do those things because you want to do it.
  • BardBear

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    So, ah, where did you get this checklist for getting a boyfriend? I mean, was it proven in theory or on various test subjects? I'm thinking you made it up.

    Ever see When Harry Met Sally? They have these couples on that talk about getting married and how they met. Each one was wildly different. Did they follow the same path? Nope.

    And neither do we. Love finds you. You don't find it. Yeah, idealist, perhaps, but it happens. When it is meant to happen.

    I didn't meet the man I'm married to in the manner you described.

    Don't shortchange yourself. Hang in there.

    Peace,
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  • alby

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    just let it play out...you are who you are! there will be always someone when you least expect it! that's the best one! be patient and it will happen trust me! icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI think the "right" reason to recreate yourself is to serve you, not someone else.

    I agree.


    And I'm not convinced of all this BS about it happening when you least expect it. People saying that doesn't make it true. I think you have to be willing to put yourself out, and unafraid of rejection. Maybe go on a few dates with guys that aren't exactly your type. It's a trial and error kind of thing, I think. And simply because you find a boyfriend doesn't mean you're going to be happy. Plenty of people are in unsatisfying relationships.
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    I want some pie.
  • ja89

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    Best way to find someone is to be yourself and don't change for anyone but yourself. Still figuring me out and know that it will take awhile for me to completely know what/who I am. So for me I know I'm not ready for a relationship even though the thought of being loved for you is thing I long for in someone else. Hopefully figuring you out first before figuring someone else out will help. Also, like everone else said, wait and don't search for it let it come to you
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    What's the RUSH? enjoy you.. The new you and embrace your independence. Just think, someone is waiting for you to show up as well!
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    bf dont happen in a matter of weeks...then again wtf do i know right?....
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidNot necessarily relating to me icon_razz.gif but have you guys felt this way?



    Lol, I've been doing that for about 8 yrs and almost 99% of that time I've been single. The other choice is being fat and lazy and still being single. It doesn't really matter.
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    tomcat89 said
    jbinchlt saidIt will happen when you are not expecting it.... or looking for it

    Just relax


    I have to agree with this, it always happens that way.


    Everyone tells me this.

    Everyone. I don't understand it though. It takes one person to be the go-getter, right? Both parties cannot just sit by and wait...
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    There are no rules, rhymes or reasons - but rest assured... the only time people are interested in where you're at is when YOU'RE interested in where you're at. Be the most sincere, fun and interesting person you can be... it puts a "magic scent" out there that will draw similarly minded/oriented people to you.

    Oh - and join okcupid. Just in case... icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    This is exactly the reason why something called "patience" exists...

    Just because you prepped yourself up well to expect someone to take notice of you doesn't mean it will happen right away.

    Things that last take time to develop.
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 28, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    BlakeJ said
    Everyone tells me this.

    Everyone. I don't understand it though. It takes one person to be the go-getter, right? Both parties cannot just sit by and wait...



    To "sit by and wait" does not mean to stay at home and wait for the doorbell to ring. It does take a certain amount of "getting-out there" on your part also.icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
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    Nah, you're cursed.... you never acknowledged the harmless compliment I sent to you last August, so I put a hex on you......icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    Just kidding....BUT, as I mentioned in my message to you, your goals are to be admired...and it WILL happen WHEN you're open and ready for it.

    The last damn thing you want is a harmless compliment from his idiot. He whines about them for years afterwards. I thought people like him were supposed to be jolly
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidThis is exactly the reason why something called "patience" exists...

    Just because you prepped yourself up well to expect someone to take notice of you doesn't mean it will happen right away.

    Things that last take time to develop.

    No, dont sit patiently waiting. Dont live your life expecting a bf is appear. He might take forever, if he shows at all.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
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    _Mohammed_ saidThis is exactly the reason why something called "patience" exists...

    Just because you prepped yourself up well to expect someone to take notice of you doesn't mean it will happen right away.

    Things that last take time to develop.

    The last damn thing you want to do is patiently wait. Dont live your life expecting a bf is appear. He might take forever, if he shows at all.


    You did not get my point at all...

    I did not say he has to wait... I said things that LAST take time to develop.

    In other words, if you see a man and you ask him out, and he goes on a date with you, in order for a relationship to last between you both, you will need to invest time in the period where you date so you get to know each other longer.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    For me in many ways I did the opposite, and I am now in a 20+ year relasionship. But there is more to life than being in a relasionship too.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    ur hot ill be ur bf
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    I think a lot of us have felt that way at one time or another. Some of us maybe more than our share, but until we all become assertive enough to go for what we want, we may never get it.