What do you guys think of this guy?

  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 27, 2011 10:53 PM GMT
    I'll try and make this short and any info you want you can ask.
    This guy I'm attracted to I have been flirting with for about a month-&-half. He's got this awesome smile and these piercing bluish-gray eyes along with this jet black hair. He's cute is all I can say. I can only flirt with him when I go order take-out so it's not a lot of time. He's very chatty and asks me questions and he seems to be interested.

    Alright guys, so if you were in this situation and he says to you, "see you next time," with this huge smile on his face and looks at you and winks! What would you think of this? Is it nothing? Cause I think most straight guys would not wink at another guy right?
  • DCEric

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    Mar 28, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    Without being offensive, it sounds more like lust than anything else. You listed all physical properties, even though it sounds like you interact with him regularly, even if for only short periods of time. To find out if there is more of a connection, give him your phone number (or as for his) and let him know you would like to grab coffee/lunch/etc sometime.
  • ivanuri97

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    Mar 28, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    So wink back and since he has your # already from calling in your take out, say call me some time. If he does, then you'll know for sure!
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    Mar 28, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    if he winked then yes, he is attracted to you... but in what way I am not sure.

    Exchange numbers and go out for a coffee after he is done his shift.
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    Mar 28, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    Take your number written on a card next time and hand it to him, he will call if interested or not if he is not, that way you don't have to say anything out loud and next time you go will not be super awkard, just a little, and then not at all.
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 28, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    Yeah, I get so confused when a "straight" guy winks at me. Like, wtf?

    You should tell him "you're the only reason I come here.".
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    DCEric saidWithout being offensive, it sounds more like lust than anything else. You listed all physical properties, even though it sounds like you interact with him regularly, even if for only short periods of time. To find out if there is more of a connection, give him your phone number (or as for his) and let him know you would like to grab coffee/lunch/etc sometime.


    Hey there. It is a combo of lust (story of our lives huh,lol) and me thinking we could develop something more. I dont think just sex when it comes to him. I think more about possibility. He seems like a great guy. One night I was eating with the fam and I so happen to look up and he said, hey! And he held out his hand for me to shake it. I did but I couldn't look him in the eye, lol. He seemed happy to see me there.
    I think that eventually I will take your advice. I just need something more from him, 1 more sign. Nothing too abrupt. Thanks DCEric.
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    redroverdog saidSo wink back and since he has your # already from calling in your take out, say call me some time. If he does, then you'll know for sure!


    I have winked at guys before, no problem, but at the moment Josh has me shying a bit. I can't look him in the eye for more than a couple seconds let alone flirt with him, lol. It's driving me crazy at times. What's going on with me, haha. Thanks for your advice and I'll try to keep it in mind next timeicon_smile.gif

    Oh yeah, he doesn't have my number. I order it there and I patiently wait on it there, hehe.
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidif he winked then yes, he is attracted to you... but in what way I am not sure.

    Exchange numbers and go out for a coffee after he is done his shift.


    Hey Mohammed, He always asks me what I did that day and what my plans are later so I guess I had perfect opportunity to ask just that.
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    Simon78928 saidTake your number written on a card next time and hand it to him, he will call if interested or not if he is not, that way you don't have to say anything out loud and next time you go will not be super awkard, just a little, and then not at all.

    For once I agree with ginge.
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    Simon78928 saidTake your number written on a card next time and hand it to him, he will call if interested or not if he is not, that way you don't have to say anything out loud and next time you go will not be super awkard, just a little, and then not at all.


    Then he will know right. I'll be fine once it's out in the open. Most guys these days are cool with other guys flirting with them. Thanks Simon!
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    _ADA said
    Simon78928 saidTake your number written on a card next time and hand it to him, he will call if interested or not if he is not, that way you don't have to say anything out loud and next time you go will not be super awkard, just a little, and then not at all.

    For once I agree with ginge.

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  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    Celticmusl saidYeah, I get so confused when a "straight" guy winks at me. Like, wtf?

    You should tell him "you're the only reason I come here.".


    Lol, yes! I was gonna say this last night after he said, "you can't get enough of this place can you." another perfectly failed opportunity. I swear. Thank you, thank you Celtic.
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    If I were you in conversation next time you're there I'd find out things that interest him or that you have in common and just ask if he'd be up for doing one or more of those things w/ you! The weathers getting warmer so plenty of outdoor activity is rt around the corner.....

    GOOD LUCK!
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    FRISCOJANSEN said
    _Mohammed_ saidif he winked then yes, he is attracted to you... but in what way I am not sure.

    Exchange numbers and go out for a coffee after he is done his shift.


    Hey Mohammed, He always asks me what I did that day and what my plans are later so I guess I had perfect opportunity to ask just that.


    yea, take things slow for sure... next time you see him ask him to go bowling or something.
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    Just ask him out and get it out of the way.

    The guy I am currently dating came right up to me at the gym and asked me out. Although, I do goto a gay filled gym but I doubt that I am obviously gay. I gave him a lot of credit for this since it takes a lot of courage to just go up to someone and ask them out particularly when you are not sure if they are gay. I agreed to go out with him and we've been dating since. If he never came up to me I would've never known he existed.

    You gotta take the risk. He has already given you tons of signs. The worst he can do is say no.

  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    The first day I ordered there I was a bit naughty. I ordered my food then I asked about the Size of the fries but i asked, "how long is it?" lol. Nothing even remotely close to what a normal person would ask.lol. Anyhow, he held up his hands and gave me the dimensions casually. I said "eh, that's kinda too big." I was referring to the fries then. I did not want a huge container of fries, haha. I'm so bad but after that, after realizing he seems to be returning my advances I can't seem to focus. I get shy.
    I love it when he gets close and shows me my order;). He's so fine y'all I wish you could see him.
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    Hillie saidIf I were you in conversation next time you're there I'd find out things that interest him or that you have in common and just ask if he'd be up for doing one or more of those things w/ you! The weathers getting warmer so plenty of outdoor activity is rt around the corner.....

    GOOD LUCK!


    I know what you mean Hillie, thanks. He asks me lots of questions but all I can seem to do right now is answer his questions and ask him how he's doing. I know that he's working, I guess I don't wanna keep him too long. I guess that may be in the back of my head. Idk, Time will tell if I can work up the nerve to further this. Thanks againicon_smile.gif
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidJust ask him out and get it out of the way.

    The guy I am currently dating came right up to me at the gym and asked me out. Although, I do goto a gay filled gym but I doubt that I am obviously gay. I gave him a lot of credit for this since it takes a lot of courage to just go up to someone and ask them out particularly when you are not sure if they are gay. I agreed to go out with him and we've been dating since. If he never came up to me I would've never known he existed.

    You gotta take the risk. He has already given you tons of signs. The worst he can do is say no.



    Oh wow that's a nice story there Avada. I'm glad you told me. I'm sure he's a lucky guy too. Thanks for the encouragement.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
    FRISCOJANSEN saidThe first day I ordered there I was a bit naughty. I ordered my food then I asked about the Size of the fries but i asked, "how long is it?" lol. Nothing even remotely close to what a normal person would ask.lol. Anyhow, he held up his hands and gave me the dimensions casually. I said "eh, that's kinda too big." I was referring to the fries then. I did not want a huge container of fries, haha. I'm so bad but after that, after realizing he seems to be returning my advances I can't seem to focus. I get shy.
    I love it when he gets close and shows me my order;). He's so fine y'all I wish you could see him.


    Well, if the two of you go out, I'll expect you to take a pic of him and post it, so we can see just how fine he is! icon_wink.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 28, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    maybe he wants a better tip??icon_idea.gif
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    sashaman said
    FRISCOJANSEN saidThe first day I ordered there I was a bit naughty. I ordered my food then I asked about the Size of the fries but i asked, "how long is it?" lol. Nothing even remotely close to what a normal person would ask.lol. Anyhow, he held up his hands and gave me the dimensions casually. I said "eh, that's kinda too big." I was referring to the fries then. I did not want a huge container of fries, haha. I'm so bad but after that, after realizing he seems to be returning my advances I can't seem to focus. I get shy.
    I love it when he gets close and shows me my order;). He's so fine y'all I wish you could see him.


    Well, if the two of you go out, I'll expect you to take a pic of him and post it, so we can see just how fine he is! icon_wink.gif


    If I can get a pic of him I would be in heaven. icon_smile.gif
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 28, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidmaybe he wants a better tip??icon_idea.gif


    It's possible. I thought about that. Money CAN make some people do outrageous things. I'm doubting it though with him. Thanks Mike.icon_smile.gif
  • starboard5

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    Mar 28, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    They don't come any straighter than my trainer and he winks at me all the time. I'm not sure you can base much on that. This guy might just be very friendly, or he might be interested. You're going to have to take a chance if you want to know.
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    Mar 28, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    He may just know you're gay and enjoy flirting with you or may be interested. Guess next time you order take out you'll have to ask him if you can take him out too.