Monogamy and SEX

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    Mar 28, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    How long does one have to wait before having sex with their potential partner in order to avoid being branded a "slut?"

    Shouldn't you get to check the pumping before you buy the house?

    I ask because- I'm curious.
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    Mar 28, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    3 months of dating - NO SEX.
    once we have declared, I will drag him to the clinic and we will BOTH get tested for everything.

    If we are clean, we proceed to the next stage which is basically fucking each other.
    OF COURSE, condoms are ALWAYS used!!!
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    Mar 28, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
    Hell I went three years in a relationship without sex, so for me now it is at least important to know that sex will be a part of the relationship now beforehand.

    As for how long before having sex, I've been seeing a guy for about a month now and don't really know how long before we'll have sex(not counting oral, since thats out the window icon_rolleyes.gif ). I don't have a preset amount of dates, or time spent with someone that must be reached before having sex. I think it's more about going with the flow of things rather than having a check-list that must be gone through prior to.
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    Well in any case it's nice to read that not all monogamist insist on barebacking.

    So is this the sequence people take:
    Mutual Masturbation
    Fellatio
    Anal
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    A1EX saidWell in any case it's nice to read that not all monogamist insist on barebacking.

    So is this the sequence people take:
    Mutual Masturbation
    Fellatio
    Anal


    As for the order of things, I tend to skip part one quite often myself and usually head for step two; of course theres usually foreplay of a hj but usually ends with oral. Not a fan of mutual masturbation, I've never liked the way it feels when another guy is jerking me off. So if that is the way it goes I usually have him kiss my neck/ears while I finish the job.
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    Mar 28, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    The joys of being in a 20+ year LTR. and finding a partner has not been an issue in my life now for so long. But there was a respectable time before we did the deed, and this gave us time too build foundations of friendship; look like it's going to be until death do us part.icon_razz.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gif
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    Mar 28, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    I plan on being nothing other than monogamous once I find a guy to settle down with. Honestly though, I am going to wait as long as possible to have sex, but I don't know how long I can wait. Personally, if I am going to be doing oral with a guy, I figure I might as well just go all the way . But of course, always safely.

    I definitely don't think barebacking is a thing that needs to happen in a monogamous relationship.
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    Mar 28, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    yourname2000Personally, I wouldn't last 3 months (and 3 years, are you fucking kidding me??? ...I want a boyfriend, not a f'ing roommate!)


    Haha yeh...was his choice not mine, he of course cheated on me and said I didn't give him enough attention lol icon_rolleyes.gif.
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    Mar 28, 2011 5:00 AM GMT
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    I'll take water sports over anal any day. Although... I might have to take some swimming lessons first- so I don't drown.
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    Mar 28, 2011 5:11 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    True_Blue_Aussie saidThe joys of being in a 20+ year LTR. has not been an issue in my life now for so long. But there was a respectable time before we did the deed, and this gave us time too build foundations of friendship; look like it's going to be until death do us part.icon_razz.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gif

    Thanks for proving my point, TBA. icon_wink.gif

    yourname2000 said....I don't want to get into too much of a sexless routine before hand...there will be plenty of time in year 20 to be old maids together, lol.


    Dear half brother, one only proved a point in your mind. By the time you got to celebrate a 20+ year union, you would already be an old maid anyhow, as you are almost one now, that stament would be better suited to your mate red; giggles.

    Dear half brother, you do have an ability I do not, you can kiss my arse.
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    Apr 13, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    A1EX saidHow long does one have to wait before having sex with their potential partner in order to avoid being branded a "slut?"


    You have to wait until the partner consents. You should wait until you're both ready and willing.

    It's only the haters who will call you a slut, and life's too short and too wonderful to bother with what they say anyways.


    A1EX said
    Shouldn't you get to check the pumping before you buy the house?

    Yes, sexual comparability is important.
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    Apr 13, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    A1EX saidHow long does one have to wait before having sex with their potential partner in order to avoid being branded a "slut?"
    At least wait till you're both naked.
    Living in a warm climate and going commando regularly will greatly reduce the time it takes to get naked.
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    Apr 13, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    wow, lots of saints here. i say live for the moment. what difference does it make to wait 3 months?? he would probably leave anyways :d



    just fucking kidding...kinda :i
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    Apr 13, 2011 6:20 AM GMT
    i_VAN saidwow, lots of saints here. i say live for the moment. what difference does it make to wait 3 months?? he would probably leave anyways :d



    just fucking kidding...kinda :i


    he didn't leave me after 3 months I left him after 18 months... and we had sex on the first week of the third month...

    I feel special now! I must be an exception! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 13, 2011 6:42 AM GMT
    I've got lube stains on my pillow older than some of you boys on here, but let me say that chastity for the sake of some imagined virgin-like honor worked for me when I was younger. But nothing in those days lasted, so I wish I would have just had fun and maybe not missed so many chances.

    Gore Vidal had it right; never miss a (worthwhile) chance to have sex or be on TV. Life is short.
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    Apr 13, 2011 1:41 PM GMT
    I hit it when I'm feeling it. Of course it has to be mutual. I don't buy the forced "waiting period" bullshit-- to me it's pathetic, hypocritical, and inauthentic.
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    Apr 13, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI hit it when I'm feeling it. Of course it has to be mutual. I don't buy the forced "waiting period" bullshit-- to me it's pathetic, hypocritical, and inauthentic.


    Agreed. You should do it when you both feel it's right to do it, whether that it 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days, 5 weeks...
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 13, 2011 8:39 PM GMT
    When the ring is on my finger.....then we have sex. 33.gif
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    Apr 14, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    i've been all over the map on this one. the only advice i can give is:

    make sure you know enough about someone to ensure you're not accidentally fucking a politician, priest or someone whose bullshit can consume your life if their life blows up.

    people tend to treat you how you present yourself. so if you both present yourselves as being almost NSA-easy...., it may be easier to imagine them doing the same things with others if you are away from each other.

    i don't like to wait for too long for physical affection, and i want it regularly, but i can wait quite a while for getting each other off. i can give myself great pleasure, but not shared intimacy. so if you parse out what you really need, it can sort itself out. of course, not everyone really knows how to do more than "make do" when left to their own devices, because nothing has required them to grow in that skillset.
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    Apr 14, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    A1EX saidHow long does one have to wait before having sex with their potential partner in order to avoid being branded a "slut?"

    Shouldn't you get to check the pumping before you buy the house?

    I ask because- I'm curious.

    Approximately three hours.