Has anyone else loved with all their heart?

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    Mar 28, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    For 2 years of my 44 year life, I have love with all my heart. It has been 2 years since he has left and yet I still have trouble looking at another man. Why can I not move on? Why do I compare everyone to him? I did what I was suposed to do and loved with all my heart. I have had so many great guys ask me out and yet, I cant move on. What is wrong with me? icon_cry.gif
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    Mar 28, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
    So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.icon_wink.gif

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    Mar 28, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    He left you.

    There is someone out there that wouldn't. So, choose. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Mar 28, 2011 5:54 AM GMT
    I ALWAYS LOVE WITH ALL MY HEART ALL THE TIME <3 iTS FUN!!

    sorry caps

    edit: too lazy to retype, sorry for the inconvenience
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    Mar 28, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    Since my soul mate come into my life, absolutly, and then some; I have been so blessed in love.
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    Mar 28, 2011 6:00 AM GMT
    i have, i did, i do, i love everyone with all my heart.. the guy that comes into my life, will be showered with that same love icon_smile.gif got nothing but love to give.
  • alphatop

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    Mar 28, 2011 8:52 AM GMT
    U need to move on. But, nobody can tell u how...We r all different, u have to find ur own way of letting go....and when u let go, u will be free to look for something else....maybe better, maybe not, but life is full of surprises, isn't it?
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    Mar 28, 2011 9:28 AM GMT
    Man im going thru the same thing but its only been 3 months for me. My heart goes out to you man. You must have really loved him.

    Everyone tells me, it takes time, & etc but to be honest I get tired of hearing that....but the sad part is, its the truth.

    I try to remember a scene from shawshank redemption that says...."get busy living, or get busy dying" I think the best advice ive heard so far is that its ok that we still love our exs. We cant just turn it off.

    We do have to accept the fact that our lives go on without them though.

    I have to say that i'll never love anyone like i did my ex, but why should we? We are all different so our loves will be different....now that im thinking about it, im glad, because it gives us a chance to start all over, fresh and new.
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    Mar 28, 2011 9:43 AM GMT
    Well even though i am only 23 i can 100% without a shadow of a doubt say nope and never will wouldnt it have to be whole to start with as kelly clarkson so lovely put it u cant us it all if its not all there
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    Mar 28, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    Nothing is wrong with you. You're still in love with him, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Your time will come and you will know when you're ready to move on. Meanwhile, be good to your self.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 28, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    I don't really know any other way to love other than with all my heart.
  • wellwell

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    Mar 28, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    Yes, no 1/2 way measures here; just looking forward to achieving it again!
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    Mar 28, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    I'm going through the exact same thing - I loved with all my heart for four years and then he left me. I still wonder if I'll ever be able to love a human being the same way/as much as I loved him. I guess time will tell for us
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    Mar 28, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    Yes... completely. You will love again with your whole heart. I feel that way about my partner. If I didn't love with my whole being, I couldn't be a partner.

    I had one short term partner before and loved him with all my heart. When he left me, I lost 20 pounds in a very short time. I grieved for too long. I still care about him even though I haven't seen him in almost 20 years, but we do email once in awhile.

    When you have completed your grieving process, you will begin to heal and move on. Then you will find another to love just as much. It just takes longer for some of us to heal than others.

    In my opinion, you're an incredibly handsome man and will find the right one when you have healed from the last one.

    Good luck. My heart goes out to you.
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    Mar 28, 2011 4:39 PM GMT
    uwonaniceguy saidFor 2 years of my 44 year life, I have love with all my heart. It has been 2 years since he has left and yet I still have trouble looking at another man. Why can I not move on? Why do I compare everyone to him? I did what I was suposed to do and loved with all my heart. I have had so many great guys ask me out and yet, I cant move on. What is wrong with me? icon_cry.gif


    Nothing is wrong with you. Take as long as you want to heal your wounds. When you ready you'll be able to love with all your heart again. Time heals all wounds. Good luck and I know in the (hopefully near) future you'll love again, perhaps even deeper and more meaningful than the one before.

    (edit) That goes same for you too heartofthewest. Sorry didn't see your post when I posted.icon_smile.gif
  • joselitoo

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    Mar 28, 2011 10:17 PM GMT
    i do and i love my soulmate more than everything else in this world
    i have the unbelievable desire to protect him and i would risk my life for his health.
  • hdurdinr

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    Mar 28, 2011 11:18 PM GMT
    I've learned and continue to learn that when when you love with all your heart you set yourself up for lots of pain and heartache but you also give yourself the opportunity to feel more amazing than you ever thought you could feel. It's high risk with your emotions, but I for one would still rather give it my all than live life constantly holding back. Pain is awful, but it also reminds us we are alive and feeling emotion - think of all the people out there who feel numb and are apathetic - surely that's no alternative. I'm saying this to myself as well as to anyone else and that old cliché about time is generally true, you just need to work through it. All the best to you.
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    Mar 28, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
    I am a robot. Love does not compute.

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    In all seriousness, though, you answered your own question. You don't know how to let go and move on. You are still stuck on your ex. I personally think you are scared because you don't wanna be put in whatever situation it is you are in now again with someone else. If you are fine being single then that won't be a problem but it seems like you want to move on and just can't and don't know how.

    Gotta break a few eggs to make an omelet so if you go out with these supposedly nice guys just be ready to accept the fact that things might not work out. You're a big boy. You can handle it and if not then being in relationship might not be for you especially if you can't get over an ex because I'm sure your ex has gotten over you or at the very least is dating again and trying to get over you. You should follow suit.



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    Mar 28, 2011 11:57 PM GMT
    I have. ...but.......................................................................
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    Mar 28, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    no i havent
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    Mar 29, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    Yep, every day of my life. And whenever I see a guy I like I think to myself: "Damn dude, I just wanna love you like you've never been loved before." but it never happens icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 29, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    Lotsa nice replies.. very cool.

    I have, specifically on two occasions. One passed away last year, but I did speak to him before I moved away and we had a great conversation... the other? We're not on bad terms, but it wouldn't break my heart if I never ran into him again....sigh.

    That said, there is no better feeling than to be in love and I hope to have that feeling again. Its worth it.
  • monet

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    Mar 29, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    There is no such thing as love. Get over it and get over yourself.
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    Mar 29, 2011 1:03 PM GMT
    I just saw a scene in a movie where the couple loved each other very much but it wasnt working emotionally for the woman. She told the guy they needed to break up.

    He said. "dont you love me anymore"?

    She saus "yes, but I love me more"

    I loved this honesty & approach. How often we get so caught up in other people, making them happy & loving them then once it ends we dont know what to do with the love.

    Society puts so much pressure on people loving each other its to bad we dont spend more time on how to love ourselves & be ok with that......myself included.
  • Ironman4U

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    Mar 29, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    For me, it's all or nothing...so love is with your whole heart if you're doing it right. Yes, that makes you more vulnerable to the pain and emotion, but it also gives you a life without regrets. You don't need to second-guess yourself and wonder "what if..." What if I had given more, what if I had done this...

    Life is full of joy and pain. We embrace the joy and it fills us with life and happiness. But the pain has it's place to...it makes us appreciate the good, causes us to grow and see things differently and often, more clearly. Rather feel the pain, than feel nothing at all.