Bottom4Bottom, Top4Top

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    Mar 28, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    Okay so I'm talking to this guy whose sexual preference is bttm and I never topped before.. Everything about him is great hes funny caring has a great personality (theworks!). Sex isnt everything but I do believe its enough to make or break a relationship. He wants to take things to the next level but I feel I have to be realistic how can two bttms make it work?
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    Mar 28, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    newbie26 said how can two bttms make it work?


    3 words for you -

    Double.

    Ended.

    Dildo.
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    Mar 28, 2011 6:48 PM GMT
    Pure said
    newbie26 said how can two bttms make it work?


    3 words for you -

    Double.

    Ended.

    Dildo.


    LOL that could be a temporary solution but not for the long run... I don't know maybe I'm just putting too much thought into it. I just don't wanna go with it and end up feelin like a lesbian going down on a guy lol
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    Mar 28, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    2 bots can't, and won't, work if you're talking about a serious, long-term relationship. Short-term, yes, perhaps. But a bot will not be happy sexually if he doesn't get it from a top once in a while. That's just the way it is. Two bots wanting to get it from a top once in a while is a clear recipe for a disaster if you believe in monogamy. That being said, 2 bots can structure their relationship so that they're able to have fun with a top when they need a good pounding, but that requires an open relationship which is not something that many bots are willing to accept.
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    Mar 28, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    You guys will have to be versatile if you really want it to work.

    ...and by that I mean you love him to the point where you feel like sacrificing your favourite role once in a while is necessary so he can be pleased and same thing goes to him.

    so, if what you say is true about how much you like this man, then top him one day, and then let him top you the other day.


    Basically, what DOM said is exactly right... two bottoms won't work.... one needs to top once in a while and therefore you would be classified as vers.


    get what I mean?

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    and if he still insists that he does not want to take turns then he doesn't know the meaning of sacrifice and MAY be considered stubborn... which, in that case, I would not want to be with him.
    just saying...
  • rnch

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    Mar 28, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidYou guys will have to be versatile if you really want it to work.

    ...and by that I mean you love him to the point where you feel like sacrificing your favourite role once in a while is necessary so he can be pleased and same thing goes to him...


    yup! my long term bf and I both considered outselves "tops" when we met.

    now we both consider ourselves "versatile".


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  • Beeftastic

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    Mar 29, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    Anything can work, anything can break. What matters is what you have in common (which is going to be much more than who puts their weiner into who) and love and respect.

    I think it might be hard to make work, but there are greater challenges out there.