alphatrigger saidHow are/did/will you handle/-ing the "August" years of your life and beyond, once the coveted freshness of outer youth has passed away?
Your being on this gay health site is already a help to you. Exercise, good diet, using sun protection, regular doctor visits, moderate alcohol, little drug use, and not smoking (aside from health issues, smoking gives you "smoker's face" and so I have no idea why so many gay guys do it, ruins your looks).
I also got good genes from my parents, at least in terms of appearance (but I got their arthritis & heart problems, too). I knew I'd stay relatively young looking until my late 50s, just like they both had, and then take a quick downturn, which is exactly what happened. I've aged 10 years in less than 5, just like they did
But in the last few decades many people in the US got a 10-year "bonus" which is why we talk about "40 being the new 30" and so forth. Better understanding of diet, better health care, exercising, just a healthier lifestyle overall than our parents or grandparents had. We do have a recent national problem in the US with being overweight, though, and that may begin to reverse some of those gains.
Hell, I'm riding a bicycle all the way down to Key West again in a few months. Do you think my Father could have done that at 62? In fact, do you think he could have EVER done that? He thought gyms and bicycles and exercise were for school kids, not for "adults." And he ate the greasiest, fattest food. He'd be 100 this September, though he did live to be 85, thanks to genes alone, a generation who saw things differently than we do today. Had he taken better care of himself I swear he'd still be alive right now.
And speaking of 80s, just Saturday we had dinner with a couple visiting from Boston. She's 82, and he's 87! When I was a kid there practically wasn't anybody ALIVE that old, or else they were in a wheelchair or a vegetable in a nursing home. She looked like 60s used to be, and he was doing pretty good too, as sharp & lively to chat with as anyone I know. Now that was inspirational to me.
As for your specific question, alpha, now that the last vestiges of youth & vigor have left me I've begun to do other things within my abilities, including lots of gay community charity work. I have a partner as old as me, who's not a chicken hawk and so not repelled by my aging (nor me him). I know we want to admire ourselves in the mirror, but it's more important we have a lover who admires us for what we really are.
And as I always say here, my goal is to "thrive where I'm planted." Well, now I'm planted in my 60s. Not my first choice, I can promise you, but it's one thing over which I have no control, no options. And so I intend to enjoy it as best I can. And if I manage to make it into my 70s I intend to thrive there, too, and beyond.