I am Old in Young Body

  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 29, 2011 7:59 AM GMT
    I had an interesting convo w/ a co-worker of mine the other day. Him and another girl were talking about getting phone calls at like 4am or so and I said that I don't even have my phone on at that time. He looked shocked and asked me why. I told him that if there was an emergency, my family would not call in the middle of the night. Anyways, what could I do? Most of my family is thousands of miles away!!

    He said he keeps his phone all the time and answers it ALL the time. He answers it when he is in the shower and even at restaurants, etc. He is about my age, but I told him we are really from different generations because I would never answer my phone when I am with someone, no matter what we are doing. I would only answer if there was an emergency. Normally, my mother leaves messages and I think if there was an emergency, she would call more than once and maybe even text me.

    What are your habits or what do you see?

    I don't even text when I am with a friend. It's just so rude to me. I know this has been talked about before, but I feel like it's a major social change going on. I didn't have a cell until I was about 15/16 years old. Now, I play with it on pub trans but never in front of someone ESPECIALLY AT A RESTAURANT!! Even if it's McDONALDS! icon_razz.gif

    It's like, why does someone who isn't even there have more importance than the person standing in front or next to you?
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    Mar 29, 2011 8:00 AM GMT
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  • shiningstar

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    Mar 29, 2011 10:11 AM GMT
    yeah,u r right social norms are changing and the person who is in front of u is more important than who is calling u or sending u text u but to know whether the call or text is important or emergency u have to see the mobile and then u will respond accordingly
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    Mar 29, 2011 11:56 AM GMT
    My ex obviously doesn't regard others very high. I had a relationship with the back of a macbook pro and a blackberry. That's all that I saw for the last 2 years of our relationship.

    Just like on here, and the forum regarding texting, he said, O...M....G.. it's only 12 days into my bill cycle and i'm already at like 3000 texts.
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    Mar 29, 2011 12:29 PM GMT
    So am I, so am I.icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 29, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    My phone has never been attached to me by an umbilical cord, I can live without it. Not sure it even knows what my bedroom looks like as i never take it ti bed, or answer it all the time. ther are other ways for people to contact me.
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    Mar 29, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    No, I'm old in a young body, you are young and wise. You can still be energetic a youthful without being a slave to technology.

    Do you like to be alone with your thoughts? Isn't the shower the perfect sanctuary to do just that? Why would anyone want to give that up?
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    Mar 29, 2011 1:41 PM GMT
    I think texting is fine sometimes... but I never answer my phone when I'm with people .. especially at restaurants lol and NO not even McDonald.. because 1 . it is rude.. and 2. I don't want grease or the oils all over my phone .. lol

    I usually don't pick up my phone after 10:30pm or so I like to think of it as a house phone and common courtesy.. you wouldn't call someones house phone at 11:30 pm.. would you? well some would.. but its just really rude .. lol
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    Mar 29, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    For the most part I'm with the OP on this one. The social skills of the new technology generation have evolved to a very selfish level. I have no issues with texting or phone calls but a little consideration for the person you're with is very important AND displays, in my opinion, the type of person you are and upbringing you've had.

    Hang up the phone when you're with someone. Actually talk to that person. Turn off the phone at night and get some well deserved sleep. If a friend of mine called me late at night and it wasn't an emergency, I would NOT be happy and they would know it.

    If you got hit by a bus tomorrow, your friends would quickly find another person to text or call and your number would be deleted. Back away from the keyboard (large or small).
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    Mar 29, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    It all boils to good or bad manners.

    When I was growing up, pre-cellular, I was taught that if the phone rings, you answer (pre-answering machines), tell the you'll call the back. You would never carry on a conversation while you had a guest.

    I apply the same to cell phones. I think it is extremely rude to answer the phone, text, or email while with someone.

    It is a simple difference between good and bad manners and obviously the OP was raised with good manners.

    When I'm with someone, I silence my cell phone until I'm alone or in a place where I can return the call.

    A well mannered man will give his undivided attention to his guest, date, lunch partner, etc....
  • tazzari

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    Mar 29, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    keep it turned off a LOT of the time. The way I see it, no one has the right to interrupt me at any time, no matter what I may be doing.

    I'll call back. And 99.99% of the calls you get aren't really that urgent. Remember, people actually survived before instant communications became necessary.

    Things can wait. They usually do. And you've got a life to live while everyone else is busily communicating that often don't need to be said.
  • matt13226

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    Mar 29, 2011 3:06 PM GMT
    it depends on the person like if im out with my family ill answer if not i might answer but probably not
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    Mar 29, 2011 3:10 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidI told him we are really from different generations because I would never answer my phone when I am with someone, no matter what we are doing. I would only answer if there was an emergency...I don't even text when I am with a friend. It's just so rude to me...I feel like it's a major social change going on. I didn't have a cell until I was about 15/16 years old. Now, I play with it on pub trans but never in front of someone ESPECIALLY AT A RESTAURANT!!...It's like, why does someone who isn't even there have more importance than the person standing in front or next to you?

    You are an old soul.
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    Mar 29, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    I feel its a matter of respect for the people you are currently with. Many friendships are casual now-a-days, so its just expected or understood that we all are going to be using our phones all day. For me, when I'm with friends, it depends on what is going on. If I feel I am being rude by using my phone during a face to face conversation then I won't use it. However, if get a message and ignore it, ususally someone will ask "aren't you going to see who that is?" I can't win, lol.

    Its all mindset and respect and a matter of opinion.
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    Mar 29, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidFor the most part I'm with the OP on this one. The social skills of the new technology generation have evolved to a very selfish level. I have no issues with texting or phone calls but a little consideration for the person you're with is very important AND displays, in my opinion, the type of person you are and upbringing you've had.

    Hang up the phone when you're with someone. Actually talk to that person. Turn off the phone at night and get some well deserved sleep. If a friend of mine called me late at night and it wasn't an emergency, I would NOT be happy and they would know it.

    If you got hit by a bus tomorrow, your friends would quickly find another person to text or call and your number would be deleted. Back away from the keyboard (large or small).


    I wouldnt say it has evolved to a selfish level, but a less personable level. People dont go out to meet others anymore, they just stick with their friends. It is weird, ya know?

    I find it funny how some of my friends will meet others off of Grindr, yet they say that they refuse to go to a bar by themselves because thats what losers do. I mean, how the fuck are you supposed to meet people?
  • musicdude

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    Mar 29, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    that's another draw back from the technology generation. the process in which we meet people now has completely changed. with 411 and Grindr and all these other sites, the search to meet someone new has become like shopping at a meat market. And it is true that people don't go out to meet new people anymore. they go out with their friends, act like snobs towards every one else and wouldn't be caught dead at a club or bar alone.

    I also had a past relationship where the guy was constantly on his iphone or macbook. i do mean ALL the time. we would go to restaurants and he would be texting, checking his FB, going on youtube, answering emails, playing games, etc. the only way i could get him acknowledge me was if i got him to play a two player game with me. it was the most frustrating thing ever.
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    Mar 29, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    When I'm alone with someone, I don't check until the morning. But with my friends, my hands have a mind of their own. icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 29, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    Could never live without my cellphone!!! And yah like if a friend drunk bbm at 4am ill answer just because its fun icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 29, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Yeah, I will ignore incoming calls if I'm with someone. Hell, if I don't know the number that's calling, I won't even answer if I'm alone. They can leave a message. I much prefer receiving texts anyway. Talking on the phone freaks me out...

    I used to turn my phone off every night because the waves supposedly disrupt your brainwaves and prevent you from entering deep sleep, but nowadays it's my only alarm.
  • sea_buddy

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    Mar 29, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    I wouldn't flat label it as rude. I think that we're definitely experiencing generational differences, but I really think it's more about social customs. I know plenty of folk older than me that keep their phone on in the middle of the night and are willing to answer it. I'd be willing to text someone late at night if I knew their habits and whether or not it would wake them. I'd only call them if I knew they were awake or needed them to be awake, such as an emergency.

    I do think it's disrespectful to gab on the phone when you're with a single friend and you're doing something planned like going out to eat or going some place. If it's leisurely hang out and you're watching a flick, then who cares? My friends aren't that uptight.
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    Mar 29, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    No, you're not old . . . you have manners, you're polite, you understansd the importance of the people who are around you. May your tribe increase!!
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    Mar 30, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidCan I um...have sex with you? icon_biggrin.gif


    Ha ha ha! My sentiments exactly...
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 30, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    You're not from another generation. You just have manners. That's a foreign concept in today's world. Be proud, well doubly proud. Gay and young and mannered is as rare as .....I can't even come up with a comparison. Nonradioactive plutonium?