Sex procedure?

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    Mar 29, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    Ok it might be immatured to ask. But still i'm very curious!

    I have never tried sex with a guy, and anal sex is quite a really big concern for me. I'm always curious if it's dirty if a dick is put inside the ass. I asked a friend and he said before 2 guys fuck, they would go through a "cleaning procedure" so that the asshole is clean and safe to put whatever inside.

    Well the "cleaning procedure" he told me was quite complicated to hear (maybe only complicated to me) so i could not remember, but then what about sex stuffs that happen instantly and unexpectedly? Like in a club or gym or something, it's still fine without cleaning?
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    Mar 29, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    1. Sex with another gay guy doesn't have to involve anal. Lots of guys just do oral or mutual masturbation.

    2. You're describing a cleansing enema before anal. Not all guys do this. If you're fastidious, wear a condom if you're the top, which you should do anyway as a safe sex practice. That way no fecal matter gets on your dick.

    In fact, if you're the bottom, ABSOLUTELY insist your top wear a condom, because you're the one most at risk of HIV infection if he doesn't wear one. And tell him to use tons of lube, especially if you've never done this before, go slowly, and take it real easy.

    An experienced top will finger you first, inserting lube, to loosen you up & prep you. And he should enter a virgin VERY slowly & gently, going by stages. Insist that he does.

    If he's the bottom, do as he says. But still wear a condom and use lube.
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    Mar 29, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    Remember the Boy Scouts motto: Always be prepared!

    Bottoms should clean and "prepare" themselves if they expect sex is going to happen.

    And as for the second scenario where it happens unexpectedly... just don't. You don't need to be gettin all skanky up in the locker room anyway.
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    Mar 29, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
    irishmobster saidRemember the Boy Scouts motto: Always be prepared!

    Bottoms should clean and "prepare" themselves if they expect sex is going to happen.

    And as for the second scenario where it happens unexpectedly... just don't. You don't need to be gettin all skanky up in the locker room anyway.


    What if your boyfriend, who is the top, decides he wants to fuck NOW, pushes you down, and goes at it (safely)?
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    Mar 29, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    irishmobster saidRemember the Boy Scouts motto: Always be prepared!

    Bottoms should clean and "prepare" themselves if they expect sex is going to happen.

    And as for the second scenario where it happens unexpectedly... just don't. You don't need to be gettin all skanky up in the locker room anyway.


    What if your boyfriend, who is the top, decides he wants to fuck NOW, pushes you down, and goes at it (safely)?


    I wouldn't complain if I had a boyfriend like that as long as he doesn't mind if I didn't get to prep beforehand. icon_razz.gif

    In addition to the cleansing methods, you, if you're planning to bottom, can take a warm bath to just ease yourself and calm down before doing the deed. Right before having sex, make sure to lube up A LOT. If you're bottoming for the first time and have never had anything bigger than your fingers in your ass, you should ask to get fingered first. Foreplay is very very good for preparation.
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    Mar 29, 2011 10:04 PM GMT
    Chainers said

    What if your boyfriend, who is the top, decides he wants to fuck NOW, pushes you down, and goes at it (safely)?


    Is it just me, or is this post really boner-inducing?
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    Mar 30, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    What if your boyfriend, who is the top, decides he wants to fuck NOW, pushes you down, and goes at it (safely)?


    lol... you tell him "Gurl this ain't a fuckin drive-thru... you need a reservation!"
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    Mar 30, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    So the tip is about lube and fingering for the first time :-? (plus an experienced top or bottom). Thank you!

    The fecal problem doesn't matter at all? It still sounds quite dirty :p
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    Mar 30, 2011 9:56 AM GMT
    It isn't always dirty. In my experience, for most younger guys, it is clean most of the time. But if you want to be sure, a cleansing enema is your best bet.

    A condom definitely makes the top feel more secure about this issue. But yes, you should use a condom anyways!
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 30, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    As Dan Savage says, "You don't give a blow job when you have a mouth full of food for the same reason as so you don't have anal sex with an ass full of shit."

    Your rectum is not full of fecal matter all the time. If you eat your leafy greens, lots of fiber, stay away from the coke, caffeine drinks, coffee and cigarettes, chances are when you don't have the urge to poop you don't have much in there.
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    Mar 30, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
    So it sounds to me that it's ok for most of the guys, and it will be better if you're clean and safe to enter. mmm
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    Mar 31, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    tyklong saidSo it sounds to me that it's ok for most of the guys, and it will be better if you're clean and safe to enter. mmm


    obviously...