Should I help or should I forget

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    Mar 30, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    I'll try to make the story short.

    Until last week I lived in the campus and I had 4 roommates. One of them became a very good friend of mine. I always thought he was gay also but at the end of the first year of college he made a girlfriend.
    But, I and everyone can tell by the way he kisses her that he doesn't love her.

    So, this guy, was always tickling me, hugging me and talking unusual things for a straight guy.
    One time, in the club, he even groped my ass. Then, one night he asked my lesbian friend when will she take him to the gay club and I told him the next day that if he wants to talk some thing to me he shouldn't be ashamed.

    He said: "What do you think I am..."

    After a while I came out and after knowing I am gay he started tickling me and hugging me even more. Whenever I was sick he took care of me, he was always nice. He kept asking If i was passive or active but I took it as a joke.

    Last week when I was getting ready to move out he was very sad. We started playing and he threw me on the bed and staid on top of me and he tried to kiss me. But I turned my head and all he got was my cheek...

    I always knew that he cared about me and somehow he loved me but not like this...And I always knew that he was at least bi-curious.

    The question is: Should I try to talk to him and make him confess things or should I wait for him but with the possibility of never finding out what was inside his head.

    I don't wanna ruin my friendship with him, I care about him very much, he is a very good friend but I wanna help him. Even his girlfriend told me that he misses me since I moved away. icon_cry.gif

    I don't want him to carry this all by himself... icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 30, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
    I think he'd bust the hinges off his closet door if you seriously asked him to be yours.
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    Mar 30, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    The problem is I'm not available and he doesn't attract me anyway. And I'm afraid that he could suffer more if he comes out and wants me and I turn him down.

    Damn...
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    Mar 30, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    He'll suffer more if he doesn't come out.
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    Mar 30, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    I guess you are right. I was in a similar situation few years ago. Only after I confessed my feelings for him I was able to move on