Word matters. Words Matter. Thoughts on Sexual ORIENTATION vs PREFERENCE

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    Mar 30, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    Earlier today someone mentioned their "sexual PREFERENCE". He was probably just repeating a phrase he's heard without thinking about it. So let's think about it together:

    "Sexual preference", other than for bisexuals who have a "choice" (if it can really be called that), is dangerous. As if it is just a phase, or as if a "preference" for the opposite sex can be developed. In other, more vulgar, terms, that we can be "cured".

    Consider further that haters have argued that if it is a "preference", then it is not wrong to discriminate against us (just as we discriminate, in some respects, against people with a preference for smoking).

    It is "sexual ORIENTATION".
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    Mar 30, 2011 8:57 PM GMT
    I prefer 'sexual orientation'. 'Preference' can give the idea to homophobes that we can be changed through religious therapy.
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    Mar 30, 2011 9:00 PM GMT
    The word "preference" can only be used when speaking of bisexuality, because if they ever want to settle down with one partner, they will have to choose.

    For the rest of us, the choice is already made...it's an orientation.
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    Mar 30, 2011 9:07 PM GMT
    It drives me crazy when I hear people on talk shows and such use the term "preferences" rather than "orientation." However, the general masses seem to not able to understand the distinction -- or don't seem to care. icon_evil.gif
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    Mar 30, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
    spiffy saidIt drives me crazy when I hear people on talk shows and such use the term "preferences" rather than "orientation." However, the general masses seem to not able to understand the distinction -- or don't seem to care. icon_evil.gif
    The "general masses" still think high fructose corn syrup is good for you because it's made from corn.
    In other words, people are stupid.
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    Mar 30, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
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    spiffy saidIt drives me crazy when I hear people on talk shows and such use the term "preferences" rather than "orientation." However, the general masses seem to not able to understand the distinction -- or don't seem to care. icon_evil.gif
    The "general masses" still think high fructose corn syrup is good for you because it's made from corn.
    In other words, people are stupid.


    They have now changed the name to 'corn sugar'.
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    Mar 30, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    Caesarea4 saidEarlier today someone mentioned their "sexual PREFERENCE". He was probably just repeating a phrase he's heard without thinking about it. So let's think about it together:

    "Sexual preference", other than for bisexuals who have a "choice" (it it can really be calle that), is dangerous. As if it is just a phase, or as if a "preference" for the opposite sex can be developed. In other, more vulgar, terms, that we can be "cured".

    Consider further that haters have argued that if it is a "preference", then it is not wrong to discriminate against us (just as we discriminate, in some respects, against people with a preference for smoking).

    It is "sexual ORIENTATION".


    Orientation or preference can be properly understood either way. Many people have preferences for many things and they always had those preferences from the day they were born. I prefer dogs over cats for pets and that's just the way I am. Our preferences are not evil . Many of our preferences were not caused or developed by anyone, but are just a part of who we are. I think people are getting a little over sensitive, if they think the term "preference" is derogatory. So should I refer to it as my pet orientation instead of pet preference. Who really gives a fuck? I like dogs better than cats, not for sex. lol