have you been called a faggot before?

  • sbwlguy

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    Mar 30, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    i was for the first time in my life today, at the age of 30, called a faggot, and it affected me more than i thought it would. been feeling really down for the last few hours. you know, it is really really awful being called such a thing. i wish those who say it would know how hurtful it really is.

    is it just me or has anyone who has been called this also felt down because of it?
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    Mar 30, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    If I had a nickle for every time I was called a faggot...
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 30, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    sbwlguy saidi was for the first time in my life today, at the age of 30, called a faggot, and it affected me more than i thought it would. been feeling really down for the last few hours. you know, it is really really awful being called such a thing. i wish those who say it would know how hurtful it really is.

    is it just me or has anyone who has been called this also felt down because of it?


    Was this person gay or straight? Apparently this makes all the deference. If the person calling you faggot is gay themselves, then this is OK. If they were straight, then they need a good ass kicking. Apparently icon_rolleyes.gif
  • stee99

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    Mar 30, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    one of the guys at my work who i thought was cool started whispering it behind my back a while ago..
    mentioned it to my supervisor who without my knowleage told the boss and the guy got called into the office and torn a new one..
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    Mar 30, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    MikePhilPerez saidWas this person gay or straight?
    I have this firm belief that 100% of male homophobes are gay.
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    Mar 30, 2011 10:13 PM GMT
    Offensively back in school even before I "knew knew"... but now if anything it's Fag and I laugh it off.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 30, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MikePhilPerez saidWas this person gay or straight?
    I have this firm belief that 100% of male homophobes are gay.


    Sadly, I have to agree.
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    Mar 30, 2011 10:31 PM GMT
    I suppose I've heard it quite a few times in my life...but just recently, it was out loud and VERY public.
    My roommate and I were standing in the check out line at a large local grocery store and while we were waiting (we were number two in line), my roommate was looking at the trash-tabloids one usually finds in that area. I turned to see what he was looking and a woman in her 40's, tank top, short-shorts with her pony tail sticking out of the back of her baseball cap, just walked in front of us and laid her stuff on the belt.
    I said loudly enough for her to hear: "I guess she didn't know we were in line."
    She said: "Well, I couldn't tell if you were or not"
    I said: "And you didn't ask, either"
    Nothing more was said UNTIL she was walking away from the register and I said: "Have a nice day"
    She YELLED out loud: "Yeah, you too asshole. Why do we have to have so many of you faggots here in Palm Springs"
    I started for her...but my roommate held me back. There were about a dozen people standing nearby who heard her. Even the cashier said: "That is SOOO wrong!!" Several others made comments like: She's just an angry, ugly person. Don't let it bother you...she's not worth it.
    She's a damn lucky bitch!! If my roommate hadn't have stopped me, I would probably have clocked her. But it was great to hear the support of all of the witnesses to this ugly, uncalled for event.
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    Mar 30, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    For about 12 years or so. Always felt like a lovely kick in your stomach. Also made it hard to embrace being gay when it was systematically used as a weapon against me for so long.
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    Mar 30, 2011 10:35 PM GMT
    Just about every day while in the service, but we were all straight so it was cool.
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    Mar 30, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidJust about every day while in the service, but we were all straight so it was cool.


    I love this.........and as a policeman, I spent 20 years being called pig and every other name under the sun, so faggot doesn't really phase me - just think of it as straight talk for "I'd really love to drop to my knees and suck your dick".......gives it a whole new meaning, n'est ce pas?...........Keithicon_wink.gif
  • neon4u

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    Apr 01, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    Yeah, I was out running on a nice summer day last year... I was wearing shorts and no shirt.... then a car came by me and a guy shouted, "hey, put a shirt on you faggot!".... I was like what the f*ck... then I wanted to catch up to him at an intersection but then settled down and thought the guy was a real assh*le!
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Yeah and it sucks. I had some rough times growing up but whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger (or stranger).
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    My little nephew called me a faggot once.. it stung like a bitch. I whooped his little ass though, so it's ok, we're even now. icon_razz.gif lol
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Yeah but never because I was gay haha. The people who called me faggot were back in the day when I would get in a fight with them at school or something and faggot was the automatic insult. But I am sure it will happen someday.
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    yeah, by my dad. I told him if he ever used that word against me again I would kill him. I wasnt kidding,
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter saidI suppose I've heard it quite a few times in my life...but just recently, it was out loud and VERY public.
    My roommate and I were standing in the check out line at a large local grocery store and while we were waiting (we were number two in line), my roommate was looking at the trash-tabloids one usually finds in that area. I turned to see what he was looking and a woman in her 40's, tank top, short-shorts with her pony tail sticking out of the back of her baseball cap, just walked in front of us and laid her stuff on the belt.
    I said loudly enough for her to hear: "I guess she didn't know we were in line."
    She said: "Well, I couldn't tell if you were or not"
    I said: "And you didn't ask, either"
    Nothing more was said UNTIL she was walking away from the register and I said: "Have a nice day"
    She YELLED out loud: "Yeah, you too asshole. Why do we have to have so many of you faggots here in Palm Springs"
    I started for her...but my roommate held me back. There were about a dozen people standing nearby who heard her. Even the cashier said: "That is SOOO wrong!!" Several others made comments like: She's just an angry, ugly person. Don't let it bother you...she's not worth it.
    She's a damn lucky bitch!! If my roommate hadn't have stopped me, I would probably have clocked her. But it was great to hear the support of all of the witnesses to this ugly, uncalled for event.


    She was probably just angry because she was playing blood spout that day.
  • Chunner

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    Apr 01, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    It's just a word and you're giving it too much power. Anyone who is so rude and mean spirited to yell that doesn't deserve the time that you've thought over their mean spiritedness.

    Do you get mad when you are flipped off? I don't because I think, that person must be an angry person and most angry people I know aren't having great lives. And I'm happy and have a pretty good life, so I don't let it bother me and you shouldn't let it bother you.
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    MikePhilPerez said
    sbwlguy saidi was for the first time in my life today, at the age of 30, called a faggot, and it affected me more than i thought it would. been feeling really down for the last few hours. you know, it is really really awful being called such a thing. i wish those who say it would know how hurtful it really is.

    is it just me or has anyone who has been called this also felt down because of it?


    Was this person gay or straight? Apparently this makes all the deference. If the person calling you faggot is gay themselves, then this is OK. If they were straight, then they need a good ass kicking. Apparently icon_rolleyes.gif


    I dont agree really, i mean, there are some words that just shouldnt be used. this is one of them in my opinion. i think it makes the person, gay or straight, look classless and trashy.
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:47 AM GMT
    no. not once. I know it sounds weird but i cant think of a single time.
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    chunner saidIt's just a word and you're giving it too much power. Anyone who is so rude and mean spirited to yell that doesn't deserve the time that you've thought over their mean spiritedness.

    Do you get mad when you are flipped off? I don't because I think, that person must be an angry person and most angry people I know aren't having great lives. And I'm happy and have a pretty good life, so I don't let it bother me and you shouldn't let it bother you.


    I agree. I actually crack up laughing when someone gets so mad at me that they flip me off. Its hilarious to me
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    I've heard it, been called it and even dealt with it being graffitied on some of my things as I was growing up. I never once felt put down. In fact (and this might sound a bit weird) the word actually gave me power (to a degree).

    I don't use the word myself but I always get a kick out of hearing it.
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    Yes. Specifically, "you scumbag, you maggot, you cheap lousy faggot."
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    Yep. Some assholes in a truck yelled that at me and my friends as we were walking on the street.... and I was kinda tipsy, so I immediately yelled back, FUCK YOU, ASSHOLES! And.... if you heard me when I yell, it doesnt sound like a 'flaming' gay guy.... so. I'm sure they were a little shocked. haha. icon_smile.gif

    People called me fag or faggot a lot before that.... ie, in High School. It would upset me but I would just try to ignore them. Let them all go to hell, seriously.
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    chunner saidIt's just a word and you're giving it too much power. Anyone who is so rude and mean spirited to yell that doesn't deserve the time that you've thought over their mean spiritedness.

    Do you get mad when you are flipped off? I don't because I think, that person must be an angry person and most angry people I know aren't having great lives. And I'm happy and have a pretty good life, so I don't let it bother me and you shouldn't let it bother you.


    Wow. That is tearfully inspiring. icon_smile.gif

    Very good perspective!