Hard to make friends

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    Apr 01, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    Does anyone else on here find it hard to make straights friends? I'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.
    I just find it hard like at the gym to make friends with anyone there. Is it me?icon_question.gif
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    Apr 01, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    Yes I find it hard to make gay friends too. The reason being is because if I reject a man sexually he absolutely refuses to be friends. One even going as far to tell me that he has his established friend base so is only interested in a relationship. That being said it does happen and is not unheard of. Just keep trying. You gotta go through a lot of peeps to make it happen.
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    Apr 01, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    Chainers saidYes I find it hard to make gay friends too. The reason being is because if I reject a man sexually he absolutely refuses to be friends. One even going as far to tell me that he has his established friend base so is only interested in a relationship. That being said it does happen and is not unheard of. Just keep trying. You gotta go through a lot of peeps to make it happen.


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    Apr 01, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    Qbblitz22 saidIs it me?icon_question.gif
    If you have trouble making friends, yes.
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    jaysus, I wish I had some more GAY friends. 99.9% are straight...wanna trade a few?..................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Apr 01, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    I have trouble making male friends, straight or gay. Females on the other hand, I've got dozens haha. I think I come across as being too insecure at times, and thats a downfall for me. icon_confused.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 01, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    It can be challenging in a gym environment... but it will happen. You just have to remember that in a gym environment, there are some that aren't there to be "friends", they are there to do their workout and leave.

    It does help to have a very extroverted friend who seems to know everybody and that helps pave the way for you to get to know others. Some gay guys may still not really treat you as a friend unless you do some of the things they do, like get bombed, etc... LOL

    I consider me middle of the road, I can see both sides. I can develop friends reasonably easy, but I'm also a focused person and I can subordinate social norms and that probably doesn't help my cause. LOL
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Qbblitz22 saidIs it me?icon_question.gif
    If you have trouble making friends, yes.


    Funny.
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.


    Dont understand it either lol
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    snowboarder said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.


    Dont understand it either lol




    GAY MEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING THAT HE IS STRAIGHT.
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    Webster666 said
    snowboarder said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.


    Dont understand it either lol




    GAY MEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING THAT HE IS STRAIGHT.


    How hard was that? SHEESH. Some people are a little slow.
    Hang in there Qbblitz. Go check out the videos on that ''We Want You' thread and learn to get lispy with it or stick with the rest of us MEN and be gay without being queer. I think you'd be better off with the second choice and I bet you'd find better friends.
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    i have trouble making gay friends. whenever i go out, 4 times out of 5, i am usually out with my straight buddies. my experience with befriending gay men is that they see my interactions as coming on to them and i'm just thinking "no i'm friendly because i want to make friends for the sake of making friends". and i know for a fact i never send mix signals because when i am attracted to a guy, oh they will know it. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    I'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.




    Well I think this a sort of compliment. They're telling you (and perhaps rather happily) that you're not the stereotype displayed by the media.

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    Apr 01, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    Webster666 said
    snowboarder said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.


    Dont understand it either lol




    GAY MEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING THAT HE IS STRAIGHT.


    Well he starts out with "Does anyone else on here find it hard to make straights friends?" You would assume the next sentence referring to bars would be referring to straight bars.... because why would you go to gay bars to make straight friends?
  • needleninja

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    Apr 01, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    hmmmmm.....well i would say that i havnt really made any progress as i thought i did, but mabey thats cause im 20 and not 21 XP
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    Qbblitz22 said
    paulflexes said
    Qbblitz22 saidIs it me?icon_question.gif
    If you have trouble making friends, yes.


    Funny.
    Truth.
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:58 AM GMT
    Obnoxious92 saidi have trouble making gay friends. whenever i go out, 4 times out of 5, i am usually out with my straight buddies. my experience with befriending gay men is that they see my interactions as coming on to them and i'm just thinking "no i'm friendly because i want to make friends for the sake of making friends". and i know for a fact i never send mix signals because when i am attracted to a guy, oh they will know it. icon_wink.gif


    You summed me up. Every time I'm friendly with a gay guy, they assume I'm hitting on them, hit on me hardcore as a way of "reciprocating", or most recently give me an awkward surprise-attack blowjob. uh..
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    Apr 01, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    I have trouble making my friends gay.
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    Apr 01, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    iCowboy said
    Webster666 said
    snowboarder said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.


    Dont understand it either lol




    GAY MEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING THAT HE IS STRAIGHT.


    How hard was that? SHEESH. Some people are a little slow.
    Hang in there Qbblitz. Go check out the videos on that ''We Want You' thread and learn to get lispy with it or stick with the rest of us MEN and be gay without being queer. I think you'd be better off with the second choice and I bet you'd find better friends.


    This chick is going around being all butt hurt because she got called out for being a dumbass bitch. What a bitter queen trying to be masculine.
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    Apr 01, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    Qbblitz22 saidDoes anyone else on here find it hard to make straights friends? I'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.
    I just find it hard like at the gym to make friends with anyone there. Is it me?icon_question.gif


    UMMMM straight people are really easy to make friends with. I find the homos to be particualrly difficult to establish lasting friendships with.
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    Apr 01, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    iCowboy said
    Webster666 said
    snowboarder said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.


    Dont understand it either lol




    GAY MEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING THAT HE IS STRAIGHT.


    How hard was that? SHEESH. Some people are a little slow.
    Hang in there Qbblitz. Go check out the videos on that ''We Want You' thread and learn to get lispy with it or stick with the rest of us MEN and be gay without being queer. I think you'd be better off with the second choice and I bet you'd find better friends.


    This chick is going around being all butt hurt because she got called out for being a dumbass bitch. What a bitter queen trying to be masculine.


    +1, post is far too full of douche.
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    Apr 01, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    camfer saidI have trouble making my friends gay.
    You can make me gay......
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    Apr 01, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    It is not hard to make friends... it is hard to find friends... in the sense that most people who you meet at gay bars are not looking for friendship most of the time.

    At the gym I attend, I found many men who were open towards giving advice on my weight lifting. We talked, went out for a coffee, and became best buds. We have rollerblading and going to the gym together ever since.

    So it is definitely possible to make friends.


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    Apr 01, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    iCowboy said
    Webster666 said
    snowboarder said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Qbblitz22 saidI'm masc and even when I go to the bars guys will all the time come up and ask me if I am gay, or after I have befriended someone they will tell of how he and his buddy thought I was straight.


    I've read this sentence like three times and still have no idea what this mean.


    Dont understand it either lol




    GAY MEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING THAT HE IS STRAIGHT.


    How hard was that? SHEESH. Some people are a little slow.
    Hang in there Qbblitz. Go check out the videos on that ''We Want You' thread and learn to get lispy with it or stick with the rest of us MEN and be gay without being queer. I think you'd be better off with the second choice and I bet you'd find better friends.


    This chick is going around being all butt hurt because she got called out for being a dumbass bitch. What a bitter queen trying to be masculine.


    Poor little fruit. All hurt over being stupid and ugly.