What would you do?

  • gymrat1

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    Apr 01, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    Ok, so here's the deal. I'm a college professor, for the military. Was teaching in a class out of state yesterday. The majority of the class, approximately 55 total- are mostly guys. We had the students working in groups. Several really hot girls in the class as well.

    During a group exercise, a girl (who had chatted me up the previous day), came up again. She was really interested in where we were going to dinner (myself, along with the other 3 professors), wines, the band, etc.

    She continued on, then asked me if I was seeing anyone. I said no. She kept going...and said I looked like I was into "drama"...meaning "theater". She said she was in a play w/ a "friend" of hers, and asked if I would like to meet him. He used to live in LA, and was in the Michael Jackson video (the one where MJs hair caught fire). Her friend was really into fitness, and went to the gym alot. I always put up a fitness slide at the beginning of class; which has nothing to do with the lecture...Just the Presidents fitness initiatives.

    It was kind of embarassing, because there were so many folks around. All the other profs thought she was giving me her number. She finally returned again, with her cell phone, and wanted to friend me on facebook.

    I will probably never return to this part of the country...comments...suggestions on how to handle this situation?

    THANKS!
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    Apr 01, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    I would say that its probably wise to not add her on facebook etc.. from an ethical point of view, as you are a teacher. even tho youre gay and would have no interest in her sexually... but I do think its about ethics ultimately.

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    Apr 01, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    Sounds like another,
    "I have a GAY friend. I think you guys would like each other."

    Since all the homos have to be friends?.?.?
  • gymrat1

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    Apr 01, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    blactor saidI would say that its probably wise to not add her on facebook etc.. from an ethical point of view, as you are a teacher. even tho youre gay and would have no interest in her sexually... but I do think its about ethics ultimately.



    thanks very much.........excellent feedback icon_smile.gif
  • gymrat1

    Posts: 132

    Apr 01, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    hauptstimme saidSounds like another,
    "I have a GAY friend. I think you guys would like each other."

    Since all the homos have to be friends?.?.?


    ahhhhh, yes, all the proverbial stereotypes....thanks for the response!
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

    Posts: 480

    Apr 01, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    I used to teach high school.

    Granted, high schoolers (minors) versus adult education is a little different in terms of what's acceptable on a relationship level.

    I had a strict "don't friend me policy" even though some of the kids were mature enough to be my friend. (My Facebook is pretty straight-laced save a pic or two of me in a speedo.)

    Today, I have my own business, and I maintain the strict "don't friend me policy" with clients.

    It's just easier.
  • gymrat1

    Posts: 132

    Apr 02, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidI used to teach high school.

    Granted, high schoolers (minors) versus adult education is a little different in terms of what's acceptable on a relationship level.

    I had a strict "don't friend me policy" even though some of the kids were mature enough to be my friend. (My Facebook is pretty straight-laced save a pic or two of me in a speedo.)

    Today, I have my own business, and I maintain the strict "don't friend me policy" with clients.

    It's just easier.


    Yes, excellent advice.........thanks!