Developing Feelings for a Second Guy While Being in a Relationship

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    Apr 01, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    First off, thanks for reading this topic.
    I am sorta caught up in a mess right now.
    I have been in a relationship for a few years now (6) and I can honestly say they've been the happiest years in my life.
    Everything is beyond perfect when me and my bf are together... we really dont have any major issues.
    HOWEVER, I ended up meeting someone as a friend, also in a LTR, and we've been spending a lot of time together, having a lot of fun hanging out, talking about very personal stuff, and there's obviously sexual chemistry... I feel like I am some feelings towards him... I can't speak about his feelings towards me, but he insists of being around me all the time; he's made it clear he likes me and wants me to be his 'friend'.
    This is really confusing... It's never cross my mind to break up with my bf... that's not an option for me... I really love him!
    I have no clue how to deal with this stuff.... has anyone ever been developed feelings for two people at the same time?
  • mybud

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    Apr 01, 2011 7:13 PM GMT
    Your thinkin the grass is greener under this new guys nuts...You end by sayin you love your current bf...Dude...when true love exists ....your head isn't turned by another...Either way your fucked so my advice is this...follow your heart...I've always followed mine and I never regretted it....BUD
  • shiningstar

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    Apr 04, 2011 10:00 AM GMT
    I think at one time,there is attraction for one person only not two or more
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    Apr 04, 2011 10:14 AM GMT
    Sounds like you are tempted while being in relationship.

    You have options.

    1). You handle this own your own as in your cut your existence off with this other guy on your own.

    2). You talk toy our BF and explain what's going on in your heart.

    3). you break up with your BF.

    I say break up with your BF because from the way you are talking it sounds like you would be tempted to cheat on him if situation happened like say you and this new guy were alone and both feeling "heated". Don't fuck up your relationship with your BF by doing something stupid.

    Either have some self control and respectful end your friendship this new guy or have some self control and end the relationship with your bf.
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    Apr 04, 2011 10:34 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidSounds like you are tempted while being in relationship.

    You have options.

    1). You handle this own your own as in your cut your existence off with this other guy on your own.

    2). You talk toy our BF and explain what's going on in your heart.

    3). you break up with your BF.

    I say break up with your BF because from the way you are talking it sounds like you would be tempted to cheat on him if situation happened like say you and this new guy were alone and both feeling "heated". Don't fuck up your relationship with your BF by doing something stupid.

    Either have some self control and respectful end your friendship this new guy or have some self control and end the relationship with your bf.


    Good answer.

    You are not responsible of your feelings, but responsible of your actions.
    Whatever you do, you partner deserve to be treated with dignity and honesty, out of all you shared together.
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    Apr 04, 2011 10:44 AM GMT
    just be cautious as the last thing you want to be is duplicitous and hurt 3 people and I say as I include yourself! I have been in this situation before and ended the relationship as I felt that having feelings for the other guy who started off as a friend was such an issue and I knew I would end up being unfaithful. best of luck and make the right decision :-)