You know that moment....

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    Apr 02, 2011 7:13 AM GMT
    When you're finished a date & know he's lying about calling you tomorrow? Makes you feel like this big. Are you polite about it and say "Alright, We'll I'll hear from ya", or do you call em' out? How are you supposed to handle a situation like that?

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    Apr 02, 2011 7:17 AM GMT
    If you absolutely know it's a lie... then just play it off. Be like, "Hope to hear from you!" and then don't mind it.

    I know it's easier said than done... but seriously, if you already know... then it's actually IS easier to put a coin into that bank.
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    Apr 02, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    Get back at him the only way that counts. Forget him immediately and move on yourself.
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    Apr 02, 2011 8:51 AM GMT
    Just say OK!
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    Apr 02, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    I call him and call him and text him and wait outside where he works and send him letters and flowers and I cry and cry until he calls.

    What else can you do? Move on and live your life? Go on a date with someone else?
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    Apr 02, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    mmm, I know that feeling. Just brush it off.


    I can't imagine some guy lying to you. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 03, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
    Nope, because I'm generally to naive and I believe people mean what they say icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 04, 2011 12:26 AM GMT
    staple_ saidWhen you're finished a date & know he's lying about calling you tomorrow? Makes you feel like this big. Are you polite about it and say "Alright, We'll I'll hear from ya", or do you call em' out? How are you supposed to handle a situation like that?

    That's what ropes, chains, red ball gags, and basements are for. icon_twisted.gif
  • Neon_Dreams

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    Apr 04, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    I would just say "Good night".
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    Apr 04, 2011 7:33 AM GMT
    If there was no chemistry, then just saying "thanks for a pleasant date" and making sure that you don't make any plans for the future is usually enough.

    If you like him but you're sure that he's not going to call you, then, yes, you can call him out on it. It could be fun to make him squirm.
    Some guys think that they're doing something noble by not being direct.
    Saying that you'll/he'll call or some vague plan for a future date is not a plan. "Let's do this again" is not a date.

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    Apr 05, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    I would give him a finger.

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    Apr 05, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    just happened to me today. just ignore it there are lots of guys out there ;)
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    Apr 05, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    howser_hunter saidjust happened to me today. just ignore it there are lots of guys out there ;)


    hah no way :/ you sure?

    Yeah, I suppose, just take it for what it is...

    I'm in somewhat of a similar situation. I've been talking to a pretty cool guy for two weeks or so, and I've been looking forward to meeting him and so has he (he said he'd love to). When the day came that I asked if he wants to meet, he said to give him a couple of weeks to deal with issues/family. I guess I'll wait a bit and see if that's true.
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    Apr 05, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    MuscleLuke said
    howser_hunter saidjust happened to me today. just ignore it there are lots of guys out there ;)


    hah no way :/ you sure?




    yup! its either he was too shy to talk or i was such a bore -_-
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    Apr 05, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    oh...im awful for this, haha.

    I tend to treat dates like interviews, and i love instant feedback... So i find myself asking how the date went, did they like it, did they not, is this going somewhere? It probably scares some off, but its worked for me ad it really gets me the guy i want, blunt and truthful icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 05, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    I don't like leading people on, especially if I know 100% that I'm not looking to continue things. I will, however, avoid telling them to their face.
    I would rather send them a message afterward explaining the situation. Or better yet, respond to the message they send me which questions anything further actually happening.
    Either way, when you know, you know, and it's unfair to both parties to drag it out longer. I don't think I (guys I date) should take it personally, since really, how personal have you become after one date?
  • neosyllogy

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    Apr 05, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    First: *Big Hug*
    Second: You be polite and civilized. (Which generally involves something like smiling and noding, a friendly chuckle or the like would also do.) Then move on. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 05, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    I met a dude from this site several months back.

    I had a couple of aussie friends visiting so we went into Soho for some beers. After about 7 I got the text asking if we could meet that night, I said where I was and that we could meet in about an hour.

    One of the aussies had a friend with her, this guy that went outside for a quick joint. I thought "hmmm... not a good idea to partake, Im drunk, and I dont need it". So I go outside with him and smoke a bit anyway - not very smart.

    So then I was left alone at my friends bar when the aussies left, I sat by myself on this stool by the counter and started feeling REALLY paranoid, I kept just looking left and right then straight ahead for a few seconds and so forth thinking "wtf, you bloody idiot, now you are drunk AND stoned and meeting a guy from the internet in who knows how many seconds/minutes"

    So X turns up, I am too out of it to even get off the stool to greet him and stuff... I made it super awkward by being the WORST date ever... basicly I was making too much small talk, asking basic questions, then forgetting the answers and asking the questions again. That went on for about 40 minutes before he "got tired all of a sudden and had to go home" (I dont bame him at all!)

    I never fessed up about being stoned, just drunk, and I knew he wouldnt wanna meet again, so I made it easy for him when he said "right well I will speak to ya tomorrow". I go "well its up to you man, you can call or you dont have to, its all good seriously", but he was too polite and said he would anyway - he never did though, haha!! So I just messaged him here to say somehting along the lines of "yeah dude sorry, I dont think either of us were in our prime that night - all good icon_smile.gif"

    The lesson is - be completely sobre when you have a little date kinda thing - do NOT smoke a joint... jesus fucking christ! hahaha!
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    Apr 05, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    We were going to meet at the Denny's for breakfast at 10am .
    I had worked the Red-Eye was tired and had a bad cold .. So i decided to take Nyquil PM ,and sleep 2 hours before heading to the date .
    I woke up so screwed up , but didn't want to stood him up , as he had driven a hour to meet me by the airport , What a bloody mess that date turned out , I knew right there that he wasn't going to call me , as he was saying , he was not dating druggies .........
    I did text him the next day , and explained him what had happened , but to no avail , never heard of him again .....