Can't get away from my Ex

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    Apr 02, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    OK guys, my Ex broke it off with me a little more than 3 months ago. I am seriously doing my best to try to forget him and move on, but I run into him every f 'ing week. I run into him at the same bars, events, restaurants, and have 30 mutual friends on facebook. I want to forget this bastard but seeing him every week is prolonging that. At the same time I also don't want to stop doing the things I've always done. I don't want to lock myself at home. And yeah, I am still not over him but heck i want to be. I wanted to get away so badly that I even planned a 5 week trip to Barcelona this summer just to clear my head and forget houston for a while.

    Here's an example of how I run into him...tomorrow my friend is having his bday brunch but of course my ex is also invited cause this friend is our mutual friend...

    Anyone ever been in this situation?
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    Apr 02, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    Both of my bosses were married for almost 20 years before getting their divorce.
    They still each own half the company.
    Can you even begin to imagine what it's like when they're around each other? icon_lol.gif

    PS. They both have balls of steel. That's what it takes to be in close quarters with your ex on a daily basis.
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    Apr 03, 2011 1:01 AM GMT
    I run into exs of mine, some whom I've had a respectable breakup with and some whom I wish I'd never have to see again. You just have to be the bigger person, walk past nod or say hello and move along. There's no need to stop and chat or make a big deal of it. That only makes it worse for you.
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    Apr 03, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    I work with my ex boyfriend and we had a rough breakup. So trust me, I get it. It took us a long time but we finally are totally cool.

    You might want to consider changing some of your plans so you dont see him. I know it sounds lame, but if it helps you get away from him and to get over him it would be advantageous for you to do so.
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    Apr 03, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    Its easy to forget when you aren't around people. As they say "out of sight, out of mind." Sadly, you don't seem to have this luxury. There's nothing you really can do unless you want to uproot and move somewhere different and break off every form of possible contact with him which would include your friends as well since you guys have mutual buds. This is near impossible to do and it really wouldn't be fair to your friends.

    Best thing for you to do (in my opinion) would be to take the high road and just move on with your life. I know, I know. Easier said then done given your situation but it's not impossible. You don't have to limit yourself to the things you want to do or where you want to go simple because you don't wanna see him anymore because it seems painful. Adapt and overcome. You just have to be stronger then what the situation dictates and accept the fact that he's gonna be around the corner. Once you come to terms with that little fact I think you'll be fine. I'm not saying it will be easy but I am saying you can get over it. I bet he got over it and probably doesn't think twice when he sees you out and about.
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    Apr 03, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    Happened to me yesterday. Was walking down the street minding my own business when all of a sudden, there he was. I pretended not to notice and just kept walking. I'm annoyed that he still had an effect on me though. Until yesterday, I really thought I had already forgotten about him. Ugh!
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    Apr 03, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidIts easy to forget when you aren't around people. As they say "out of sight, out of mind." Sadly, you don't seem to have this luxury. There's nothing you really can do unless you want to uproot and move somewhere different and break off every form of possible contact with him which would include your friends as well since you guys have mutual buds. This is near impossible to do and it really wouldn't be fair to your friends.

    Best thing for you to do (in my opinion) would be to take the high road and just move on with your life. I know, I know. Easier said then done given your situation but it's not impossible. You don't have to limit yourself to the things you want to do or where you want to go simple because you don't wanna see him anymore because it seems painful. Adapt and overcome. You just have to be stronger then what the situation dictates and accept the fact that he's gonna be around the corner. Once you come to terms with that little fact I think you'll be fine. I'm not saying it will be easy but I am saying you can get over it. I bet he got over it and probably doesn't think twice when he sees you out and about.



    Wow thanks man. I long for that day when i can see him and i don't get sad. I just gotta keep on every day.