I just don't understand...

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    Apr 03, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    I know there is a similar thread going on elsewhere but I need answers. I would like to think I am an intelligent guy with something to offer people as a friend. Why is it that I try to strike up conversation here with people and I get no reponse? Are people too busy that they can't respond to emails? At least if you aren't interested in talking to me just let me know... Besides what does it hurt to make connections with people in an effort to simply be friends? Is there anything wrong with that?
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    Apr 03, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    It might be awkward for folks to respond to emails with anything more than a polite thanks without them knowing you. Suggest participating more in the forums in the areas of your interest. You will get to know other guys with similar interests, and than one-on-one emails will be more natural.
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    Apr 03, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    I wouldn't worry about it too much, just keep trying and if the person is worth getting to know they will respond. Hang in there.
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    Apr 03, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    MnKid84 saidI wouldn't worry about it too much, just keep trying and if the person is worth getting to know they will respond. Hang in there.

    That's right. Keep sending those emails. And have your hopes dash time and again. That's the ticket!
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    Apr 03, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    I know... It's just aggravating that you try and be human to people and they seem to shut you down. I come from a small town where I didn't really have to make friends per say... I just grew up with the kids of people my parents grew up with... So this is all new to me... Especially since I live in a new place and dont get to do much more than work or be at home with my dog.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 03, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    Not at all. I enjoy friendships here... have made some great ones!
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    Apr 03, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    Well, the truth is your profile sucks.

    Nobody is gonna respond to someone with "stocky" in his profile. Change it to "average"

    Also your description sounds like you want to leech onto someone like he's a free personal trainer and nutrition councilor. Nobody is gonna volunteer for that. Talk about things you like to do, so guys of similar interests can respond.
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    Apr 04, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    And now I remember why I hadn't started any threads or contributed much at all...
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    Apr 04, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    socalfitness saidIt might be awkward for folks to respond to emails with anything more than a polite thanks without them knowing you. Suggest participating more in the forums in the areas of your interest. You will get to know other guys with similar interests, and than one-on-one emails will be more natural.



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    This 100 x over!

    If you want your voice to get heard then voice it as clear as you can!

    First step you did is posting about this....see how people replied?
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    Apr 04, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    Well some ppls just going to say ... who is that .. ? when they dun find naked pictures for u .. they dun get interested ...sometimes it annoys me too... just dun send msgs .. who wants to get to know just send a msg ..
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    Apr 04, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    drgnphnx1980 saidI know there is a similar thread going on elsewhere but I need answers. I would like to think I am an intelligent guy with something to offer people as a friend. Why is it that I try to strike up conversation here with people and I get no reponse? Are people too busy that they can't respond to emails? At least if you aren't interested in talking to me just let me know... Besides what does it hurt to make connections with people in an effort to simply be friends? Is there anything wrong with that?


    Look at me. Take a real good look at me. I'm fucking attractive. I get less than a 20% response rate from people I message that I find attractive. People have a MILLION fucking reasons not to reply and I NEVER trip because of it. The biggest reason they don't reply is they sense I'm just sexually lurking after them and they already have an established group of friends to hang out with anyway even if I were just looking for friends. But this isn't 2003. So finding friends online isn't cool anymore. It's actually annoying as fuck. If you JUST discovered the internet then stop what you're doing right now and go back out into the real world.

    Look at "finding friends" as cold calling. You'll get a lot of rude people but in the end if you reach out to a LOT of people you'll finally get something in return.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 04, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    dude, do not feel bad. it happens quite often. there are some people who are just rude and have no manners.
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    Apr 04, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON said
    drgnphnx1980 saidI know there is a similar thread going on elsewhere but I need answers. I would like to think I am an intelligent guy with something to offer people as a friend. Why is it that I try to strike up conversation here with people and I get no reponse? Are people too busy that they can't respond to emails? At least if you aren't interested in talking to me just let me know... Besides what does it hurt to make connections with people in an effort to simply be friends? Is there anything wrong with that?


    Look at me. Take a real good look at me. I'm fucking attractive. I get less than a 20% response rate from people I message that I find attractive. People have a MILLION fucking reasons not to reply and I NEVER trip because of it. The biggest reason they don't reply is they sense I'm just sexually lurking after them and they already have an established group of friends to hang out with anyway even if I were just looking for friends. But this isn't 2003. So finding friends online isn't cool anymore. It's actually annoying as fuck. If you JUST discovered the internet then stop what you're doing right now and go back out into the real world.

    Look at "finding friends" as cold calling. You'll get a lot of rude people but in the end if you reach out to a LOT of people you'll finally get something in return.


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  • Spiritreaver

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    Apr 04, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Don't let it get to you. Plenty of guys don't respond to me. It happens. Sometimes I do this myself, mostly because I miss the message, but every now and again I just don't feel up to chatting with certain people. It's life.

    Just keep messaging people man, there's a TON of nice guys on here that will have plenty of wonderful conversations with you and make great friends. This is by far my favorite community. Lots of nice, helpful, genuine guys.
  • Webster666

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    Apr 04, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    socalfitness saidIt might be awkward for folks to respond to emails with anything more than a polite thanks without them knowing you. Suggest participating more in the forums in the areas of your interest. You will get to know other guys with similar interests, and than one-on-one emails will be more natural.





    This is a great response.
    I have made friends here only through taking an active part in the forums.
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    Apr 04, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    Ok im gonna be completely honest. Many guys on here and out in the world talk to those they find attractive. I think that is the reason.