For those of you who have been cheated on. Was the guy your bf cheated with actually hotter than you?

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    Apr 03, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
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    Apr 04, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    That's a rhetorical question based in insecurity.
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    Apr 04, 2011 12:14 AM GMT
    Did you find your BF in bed with another guy, again?
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    Apr 04, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    deltalimen saidThat's a rhetorical question based in insecurity.



    I've never been in a relationship and therefor have never been cheated on. But I was talking to someone about it and now I'm curious.
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    Apr 04, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    hot is a complicated term
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    Apr 04, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    yes he was hotter, but he cheated on him, too. some guys are just cheaters and don't know how to control themself.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 04, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    I dunno...I never got to see his bare feet icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 04, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    dekiruman said
    deltalimen saidThat's a rhetorical question based in insecurity.



    I've never been in a relationship and therefor have never been cheated on. But I was talking to someone about it and now I'm curious.


    cheating has nothing to do with the 'hotness' or 'attractiveness' of the third party.

    Asking that question just shows insecurity in the cheatee.
  • alphatop

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    Apr 04, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    Does it matter?icon_question.gif
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    Apr 04, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    No. He was "gay fit," aka a twink with some muscle on top. Still decidedly skinny looking, however.
  • jagjock

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    Apr 04, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    he was a different type of guy, so to judge him to me woul dbe useless.
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    Apr 04, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    Nope... he was a twink. Part and parcel with my ex's midlife crisis.
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    Apr 04, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    Frankly, I have been cheated on 3 times, each time my former boyfriend chose to cheat on me with someone not nearly as attractive.

  • Apr 04, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidDid you find your BF in bed with another guy, again?
    I love it!!!!!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 04, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidhot is a complicated term

    i agree, if he cheated, theyre both ugly wank stains lol
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    Apr 04, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    niot at all he was a young little twink that weighed about 105 lol lol. to him he might have been better looking but being honest i thought he was a joke personally.
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    Apr 04, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    yep....
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    Apr 04, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Does it somehow make it more acceptable if they are?
  • mybud

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    Apr 04, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    Never been cheated on...
  • stee99

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    Apr 04, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidWhat a twisted question to ask.

    Why does this matter?


    ^ this
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    Apr 04, 2011 4:37 AM GMT
    He was... until I found out.

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    Apr 04, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    I would say he is different...6 ft, 130lbs and basically hairless. But hey, everyone has their preferences.
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    Apr 04, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    mines cheated on me with my ex that cheated on me with a guy from facebook lol and honestly they were okay but i lost attraction to both when isw wat they did
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    Apr 04, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    Is this a search for validation as to why the person cheated? I will admit my perception of relationships may be a bit out of left field... but seriously, people get horny.

    The real question that should be asked is, if your boyfriend had sex with someone else, why did he feel the need to lie to you about it.

    Let's say for the point of argument that said couple has agreed to be strictly monogamous. Partner A goes out one night, meets a guy who he finds attractive (how attractive is beside the point) and has sex with that guy. In my ideal relationship, Partner A would go back to Partner B, and say "Hey, I know we agreed to have a monogamous relationship, but last night I had sex with someone, and I am sorry." Partner B would then ask whether or not they were safe, take necessary steps and precautions accordingly, maybe have his feelings hurt for a while, and then get over it and move on.

    This of course assumes a couple things. First, that the couple in question do actually love each other, and have a relationship built on multiple foundations. Second, that this is not a recurring event.

    If it is a recurring event, then perhaps the relationship needs to be re-examined. Partner A and B need to COMMUNICATE with each other. Why does Partner A need sex outside of the relationship? Is it possible only one person in the relationship wants monogamy? What are the priorities in the relationship? Would an open relationship work? If not, would it be best for them to split up?

    Maybe it is hard for people to be honest with themselves, which is why they can't be honest with each other, but the whole idea of soap opera relationships involving cheating, lying, finding out, going apeshit, bitching to all of your friends about how horrible the person was and how dare he cheat on you with someone who was or was not more attractive than you.... is not only annoying and juvenile, it is also dangerous. What if Partner A had unprotected sex with the guy and contracted something? In a relationship where the two people can be honest with each other, it can be dealt with. In a relationship where everything is being covered up, odd are Partner B is going to end up with it too.

    Relationships do not have to fit a cookie cutter mold. Be honest up front about what you want in a relationship (This means you have to actually know what you want, and if you don't, be honest about that too) so you don't have to put yourself in a situation where you feel the need to cover up your tracks. AND if you screw up, then BOTH sides need to be able to have a mature and intelligent conversation about what it means for the relationship.
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    Apr 04, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    honestly, no. I am better looking and way much better of a person.