Would dating someone with the same first name as you be a deal breaker?

  • Pyke

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    Apr 04, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    I think this is an odd question, but I have always wondered it. Would dating someone with the same name as you (first name) be a deal breaker?

    I guess for me, it probably would. Unless they went by their middle name or something. I just find it weird. Unless they had apparent qualities I liked about them, then I would make an exception. But it most likely would be a deal breaker.
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    Apr 04, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    I don't think so! I think it'd be kinda adorable and cute and intimate for us two! Good conversation starter too
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    Apr 04, 2011 11:42 PM GMT
    I've been seeing a guy off & on for the past few years who shares my first name.
    In fact, I may call him up tonight...been a couple months since we've played.
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    Apr 05, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    Hahaha I briefly did it once. Never again, although not because he shares the same boring name.
    Coincidentally it was in CEGEP (17-18 years old), and I only just starting coming out then. When the rumors about me being gay started going around, they all ended up being pegged on the guy I was seeing since he was already out.
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    Apr 05, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    I have a common first name so I wouldn't think it's a big deal.

    I think it's freakier when the first names rhyme.
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    Apr 05, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    It shouldn't really matter, unless both your names are Boutros and his last name is Ghali--in which case, your name would be Boutros-Boutros Ghali.
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:19 PM GMT
    It's interesting to think about though, because as gay guys are the same gender as the person they are dating they are far more likely to date someone with their first name. Whereas it is rare between a man and a woman because many names aren't gender neutral they are either masculine or feminine. Not to say it doesn't happen, such as when Taylor Lautner and Taylor Swift were seeing each other. Incidentally, if they had gotten married and she took his family name they'd both be Taylor Lautner.

    Also, thread necro! ;D
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 03, 2012 2:24 PM GMT
    Not in the least.... I have another good friend with the same first name as me.... "Chris" and I told him to call me by my middle name since several members of my family do, it all works. If I were dating another "Chris", we'd work out some arrangement (or not). It isn't really that big of a thing.. thats pretty nominal in the scheme of things.
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    Not an odd question.

    Just stupid.

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    Nov 03, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    Okami_Shiranui saidIt's interesting to think about though, because as gay guys are the same gender as the person they are dating they are far more likely to date someone with their first name. Whereas it is rare between a man and a woman because many names aren't gender neutral they are either masculine or feminine. Not to say it doesn't happen, such as when Taylor Lautner and Taylor Swift were seeing each other. Incidentally, if they had gotten married and she took his family name they'd both be Taylor Lautner.

    Also, thread necro! ;D


    Taylor Lautner icon_biggrin.gif this is hilarious!!!
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    tbh I know many guys of my name which are incredibly sexy and I would like to date them
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    I guess during sex you'd each be calling out the same name. Of course if you called him by the wrong name not only would you appear a jerk but a stupid one for not remembering to call someone the right name which happens to be yours also.
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    I certainly wouldn't have a problem with it, but my first name is pretty uncommon for a guy, so not much chance of that happening.
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    Lmfao
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    Isn't that why you develop pet names for your sig-other???
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    I don't know why this should be a deal breaker. Of all the things to be picky about, this maybe too much. I maybe biased for having a very unusual name, but still...
  • jayatl56

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    Nov 03, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    my very first BF in high school was John as well. We were both Johnny to each other and somehow we knew who was being addressed when someone was speaking to us. Seemed to work and didn't bother either of us.
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    Nov 03, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    jayatl56 saidmy very first BF in high school was John as well. We were both Johnny to each other and somehow we knew who was being addressed when someone was speaking to us. Seemed to work and didn't bother either of us.


    Well nice to meet you John, I am also John.... lol...

    Uh oh.... According to this thread it may be a problem...
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    Nov 03, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    Pyke saidI think this is an odd question, but I have always wondered it. Would dating someone with the same name as you (first name) be a deal breaker?

    I guess for me, it probably would. Unless they went by their middle name or something. I just find it weird. Unless they had apparent qualities I liked about them, then I would make an exception. But it most likely would be a deal breaker.


    Congratulations, you have just explained why relationships with gay men never work out.... stupid, childish, petty reasons like this. Honestly, dude, it's a fucking deal breaker because the guy shares your first name??? Lame.
  • reptile18

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    Nov 03, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    What if you were dating someone who has the same name as someone who you hate with all your guts and have to interact with regularly?
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    Nov 03, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    Why should it? A persons name is just that, now what a persons does is another story.
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    Nov 03, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
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    Okami_Shiranui saidIt's interesting to think about though, because as gay guys are the same gender as the person they are dating they are far more likely to date someone with their first name. Whereas it is rare between a man and a woman because many names aren't gender neutral they are either masculine or feminine. Not to say it doesn't happen, such as when Taylor Lautner and Taylor Swift were seeing each other. Incidentally, if they had gotten married and she took his family name they'd both be Taylor Lautner.

    Also, thread necro! ;D


    Taylor Lautner icon_biggrin.gif this is hilarious!!!


    Actually, I know of one such instance already. There is this Indian cricketer-turned-politician called Navjot Sidhu, and he's married to Navjot Sidhu. They have to differentiate themselves by their middle names 'Singh' and 'Kaur', which are like Punjabi titles given to every man and woman respectively.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Navjot_Singh_Sidhu
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Navjot_Kaur_Sidhu
  • Trauts

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    Nov 03, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    It's a little weird. Probably at a certain point when you're complimenting the other guy, you'll think how narcissistic you are.

    I went home with a guy once, who had the same name as me... Awkward! Haha
  • mindblank

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    Nov 03, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    No - I think that would be pretty cool.
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    Nov 03, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
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    Pyke saidI think this is an odd question, but I have always wondered it. Would dating someone with the same name as you (first name) be a deal breaker?

    I guess for me, it probably would. Unless they went by their middle name or something. I just find it weird. Unless they had apparent qualities I liked about them, then I would make an exception. But it most likely would be a deal breaker.


    Congratulations, you have just explained why relationships with gay men never work out.... stupid, childish, petty reasons like this. Honestly, dude, it's a fucking deal breaker because the guy shares your first name??? Lame.



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