My Parent doesn't want me to talk to other gay guys on my phone.

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    Apr 06, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    What should/can I do?
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    get your own phone.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    Its my cell phone... and I was talking in my room.... but since she knows its a gay guy it bothers her...
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    I think it is his phone, but he's living at home with them and while you are under their roof, they will be controlling and telling you what to do. The only solution you have is to move out or they will keep controlling you like this.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    i can guaranteee you they will never let him in the house and if they ever catch you with him in the house, they will probably kick you out of the house.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    DAN_THE_MAN saidIts my cell phone... and I was talking in my room.... but since she knows its a gay guy it bothers her...

    You are 23 on your own phone. You can ignore her unreasonable request, give in to it, or move out. You already know this.

    I must presume you are an adult dependent, who relies upon his mother for his support. Until that arrangement ends, you don't have any choice about this, do you? Because if you did, you'd have your answer and wouldn't have to discuss it online.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    Like my dad says: "My roof, my rules"

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    Apr 06, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    DAN_THE_MAN saidIts my cell phone... and I was talking in my room.... but since she knows its a gay guy it bothers her...

    Let it bother her. She's gotta get used tithe idea that you aren't a little boy anymore. But keep it discreet.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    DAN_THE_MAN saidWhat should/can I do?
    Threaten them with violence. Seriously. And don't fucking back down if they call your bluff.
    They obviously think gay = effeminate and weak, so prove them wrong.
    That's what it took for my family.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    Go outside. Leave the house? Go on a walk.
    Easy.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    Caslon18000 said
    DAN_THE_MAN saidIts my cell phone... and I was talking in my room.... but since she knows its a gay guy it bothers her...

    Let it bother her. She's gotta get used tithe idea thatyuarenta little boy anymore. But keep it discreet.


    A parent makes the rules when you are in their house no matter how old you are and if you intend to keep living there, you better be sure she never sees you talking on the phone to him or you are going to keep getting bitched at or like I said she may kick you out, if she knows you are not complying.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    Dad and I have always been pretty close and have get along reasonably well.... but I can tell you, there were several times I was reminded, during my college years... "this is my house and you have no "rights" here".
    (usually when we had what I perceived to be an unreasonable argument)

    I remember the first time Dad checked out my new house I had built back at the end of 2004.. and I said, "this is my house and I'm the King here".....LOL

    While you are under their roof, you have to follow their rules....or move out.
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
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    DAN_THE_MAN saidWhat should/can I do?
    Threaten them with violence. Seriously. And don't fucking back down if they call your bluff.
    They obviously think gay = effeminate and weak, so prove them wrong.
    That's what it took for my family.


    I wouldn't do that because she might call the cops.
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    She probably will be upset if you are on Real Jock, too. You have a dilema and until you can live on your own, you can try to hide these things from her, but she will find out and you are going to be nagged about it again and again until either you move out on your own or she kicks you out. I've seem more gay guys kicked out of the house than you can imagine. This one guy was kicked out at 12:01 am on his 18th birthday. icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    jockgymboy saidShe probably will be upset if you are on Real Jock, too. You have a dilema and until you can live on your own, you can try to hide these things from her, but she will find out and you are going to be nagged about it again and again until either you move out on your own or she kicks you out. I've seem more gay guys kicked out of the house than you can imagine. This one guy was kicked out at 12:01 am on his 18th birthday. icon_cry.gif


    luckily she is not that bad... she knows I text msg them and talk to them on skype... but for some reason she feels like i am intruding on her privacy... I am very honest with her.... this is the first time she has gotten upset about me being gay or talking to someone gay... I think I tell her too much
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    jockgymboy said
    paulflexes said
    DAN_THE_MAN saidWhat should/can I do?
    Threaten them with violence. Seriously. And don't fucking back down if they call your bluff.
    They obviously think gay = effeminate and weak, so prove them wrong.
    That's what it took for my family.


    I wouldn't do that because she might call the cops.
    True, but it worked for my family.
    Now we get along great. icon_biggrin.gif