YOU THINK HE'S CUTE?? (Personal story)

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    Apr 06, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    I met a really cute guy at the club on Thursday night and we hit off. We spent Thursday, Friday and Saturday together between his place and mine. On Sat night, we went to his frat party. Before, we got to the party, we were talking about the initiation that he attended the previous night and he sort of mentioned that one of the pledges was really really cute! So, I became curious. I wanted to know who this cute NIB (newly initiated bro) that the guy I like had a crush on. I wanted to know how cute he really is to capture the fancy of the guy I like. When we got to the party, I asked him to point the guy and he did. When I saw him I was like "Oh boy, you think he's cute??" In my mind, I was like you need to check your glasses because that guy wasn't cute at all. It's not because I am jealous and subjectively judging him. On the other hand, he never once mentioned that I'm hot, cute or sexy even though I am ALOT better than that guy in terms of cute face, shaggy hair, v-shaped body, tanned, good education, alittle bit of "exoticism" thrown in. Ok, I feel like I'm blowing my own horn but you get my point.


    I honestly don't see what he sees in that guy. He obviously doesn't know him at all so his attraction to him based on personality is out of the question. My question is have you ever been in a situation where the guy you have a crush on, dating or your boyfriend obviously have a crush on another guy who's totally, let's say, not in your league? And you think WTF is he thinking?? Don't you just want to slap the back of his head and shake him to wake him up? Please share your story. Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?? Is it true that some people are just attracted to plain janes? You don't really have to be the hottest guy in the room to capture the guy you like because he might not be attracted to you? I can understand when that guy is hotter than me and the guy I like has a crush on him. But he's not cute or hot at all and I'm left confused. At one point, I get disappointed and I told him to go talk to the guy. He didn't because he was with me. He said he's just enjoying the eye candy. And I'm like "He's your eye candy?" although I didn't say that him.
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Different strokes for different folks. What you may consider hot may be another man's vomit inducer and vice versa. :
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    frenchatheart said I met a really cute guy at the club on Thursday night and we hit off. We spent Thursday, Friday and Saturday together between his place and mine. On Sat night, we went to his frat party. Before, we got to the party, we were talking about the initiation that he attended the previous night and he sort of mentioned that one of the pledges was really really cute! So, I became curious. I wanted to know who this cute NIB (newly initiated bro) that the guy I like had a crush on. I wanted to know how cute he really is to capture the fancy of the guy I like. When we got to the party, I asked him to point the guy and he did. When I saw him I was like "Oh boy, you think he's cute??" In my mind, I was like you need to check your glasses because that guy wasn't cute at all. It's not because I am jealous or anything and subjectively judging him. On the other hand, he never once mentioned that I'm hot, cute or sexy even though I am ALOT better than that guy in terms of cute face, shaggy hair, v-shaped body, tanned, good education, alittle bit of "exoticism" thrown in. Ok, I feel like I'm blowing my own horn but you get my point.


    I honestly don't see what he sees in that guy. He obviously doesn't know him at all so his attraction to him based on personality is out of the question. My question is have you ever been in a situation where the guy you have a crush on, dating or your boyfriend obviously have a crush on another guy who's totally, let's say, not in your league? And you think WTF is he thinking?? Don't you just want to slap the back of his head and shook him to wake him up? Please share your story. Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?? Is it true that some people are just attracted to plain janes? You don't really have to be the hottest guy in the room to capture the guy you like because he might not be attracted to you, he might be attracted to someone else in the room? I can understand when that guy is hotter than me and the guy I like has a crush on him. But he's not cute or hot at all and I'm left confused. At one point, I get disappointed and I told him to go talk to the guy. He didn't because he was with me. He said he's just enjoying the eye candy. And I'm like "He's your eye candy?" although I didn't say that him.
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    wow, what a bitch.
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    Hey this is supposed to be a helpful thread. I don't mean to bash anyone or trying to inflate my own ego. I was seriously questioning about the idea of beauty and I was asking if you have ever had similar experience? Maybe someone could share their stories on how they caught the guy of their dream and why he was attracted to you in the first place?? What particular things he liked about you?
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:00 AM GMT
    frenchatheart saidHey this is supposed to be a helpful thread. I don't mean to bash anyone or trying to inflate my own ego. I was seriously questioning about the idea of beauty.


    Do you really need an answer for your question: "Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?"

    I learned that back in elementary school from a book where a chicken was the main character.

    This is how I interpreted your original post "I am a bitch. I am a superficial bitch. I am a jealous bitch. Please help me feel better."

    Sorry, I just find your thought process to be disgusting.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    frenchatheart saidHey this is supposed to be a helpful thread. I don't mean to bash anyone or trying to inflate my own ego. I was seriously questioning about the idea of beauty.


    Do you really need an answer for your question: "Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?"

    I learned that back in elementary school from a book where a chicken was the main character.

    This is how I interpreted your original post "I am a bitch. I am a superficial bitch. I am a jealous bitch. Please help me feel better."

    Sorry, I just find your thought process to be disgusting.


    Well, you are the one for replying to my thread negatively. That was very rude of you and I told you I wasn't bashing anyone. Looks like you have some inferiority complex because my thread has obviously hit something inside of you.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:09 AM GMT

    frenchatheart, attraction and compatibility come in many forms and not all of them visual.

    -Doug

    PS it should be enough for you that the guy is attracted to someone else. Wish him well as you would want people to wish you well if you fell for someone.

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    Apr 06, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The beholder may be blind, but still....whatever tickles his pickle.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    frenchatheart, attraction and compatibility come in many forms and not all of them visual.

    -Doug

    PS it should be enough for you that the guy is attracted to someone else. Wish him well as you would want people to wish you well if you fell for someone.



    Exactly, that's what I learned that night. It was truly a wakeup call for me. I do wish him well although I wanted that guy that he has a crush on to be me. But, what can I do?

    I hope that my story is a lesson to all of you wh has been posting on RJ about how they feel insecure because they are not muscular enough, skinny enough, tanned enough, tall enough, old enough, young enough, rich enough etc. Love yourself and you'll find a guy who loves you. Thank you for reading my story.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    frenchatheart said
    meninlove said
    frenchatheart, attraction and compatibility come in many forms and not all of them visual.

    -Doug

    PS it should be enough for you that the guy is attracted to someone else. Wish him well as you would want people to wish you well if you fell for someone.



    Exactly, that's what I learned that night. It was truly a wakeup call for me. I do wish him well although I wanted that guy that he has a crush on to be me. But, what can I do?

    I hope that my story is a lesson to all of you wh has been posting on RJ about how they feel insecure because they are not muscular enough, skinny enough, tanned enough, tall enough, old enough, young enough, rich enough etc. Coz baby, you are born this way. Love yourself and you'll find a guy who loves you. Thank you for reading my story.


    This is a very great truth, frenchatheart, and illustrated well in your story.

    -Doug
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    Everyone has a totally different taste, some guys are just hot/cute in a standard way but some of their physical attributes might be a turn off to others. Consider height, hair, hygiene, ethnicity, life style, physical symmetry, voice etc...

    For example if I dont have any sexual response for blond guys, no matter how ridiculously attractive you consider yourself to be if you are blond I might be able to appreciate your beauty but I will never find you sexually appealing and you have no control over something like this.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    I know that everyone has their own taste. Some only like white guys, some have a preference for hispanics only. Some like asians only. Some like black guys only. Some like only shorter guys, or taller guys, bears, cubs, twinks, jocks etc.

    What would be interesting is if you can share your stories about past guys you dated, your boyfriends etc and what they liked about you or you liked about them? What sort of things they like about you particularly and you liked about them particularly. Share your lovely memories. Mine would be about a guy I dated for about 1 year, we were monogamous the whole time although we didn't need to declare it. He was very protective and caring. He would hold me tightly when in bed and was always supportive of me. And he takes me out to lunches and dinners and stuff. icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    wow, what a bitch
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    frenchatheart said
    meninlove said
    frenchatheart, attraction and compatibility come in many forms and not all of them visual.

    -Doug

    PS it should be enough for you that the guy is attracted to someone else. Wish him well as you would want people to wish you well if you fell for someone.



    Exactly, that's what I learned that night. It was truly a wakeup call for me. I do wish him well although I wanted that guy that he has a crush on to be me. But, what can I do?

    I hope that my story is a lesson to all of you wh has been posting on RJ about how they feel insecure because they are not muscular enough, skinny enough, tanned enough, tall enough, old enough, young enough, rich enough etc. Coz baby, you are born this way. Love yourself and you'll find a guy who loves you. Thank you for reading my story.


    WTF....

    What is the lesson here? You compared a guy to yourself solely based on physical features and then declare yourself to better than him. You went on to talk about how dumb someone could be to be attracted to this guy. Then you go on to tell people not to feel insecure about themselves and quoted a line from a lady gaga song... what. the. fuck...

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    Apr 06, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    My question is have you ever been in a situation where the guy you have a crush on, dating or your boyfriend obviously have a crush on another guy who's totally, let's say, not in your league?

    No not really...

    And you think WTF is he thinking??

    If I was put in a situation like that, I would most likely think that but for a different reason. I would be more upset that he is doing that while I am in a relationship with him than because of the way the guy looks.

    Don't you just want to slap the back of his head and shook him to wake him up?

    I honestly would want to do more than that if I was in that situation, but I would not because I am more mature than resorting to violence. Also, I am not violent by nature. The reasons for that ? see my answer to your previous question.

    Please share your story. Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder??

    Yes it is in the eye of the beholder. Some like chicken, some like beef, some like a mix of both.

    Is it true that some people are just attracted to plain janes?

    Yes, of course...

    You don't really have to be the hottest guy in the room to capture the guy you like because he might not be attracted to you, he might be attracted to someone else in the room?

    of course...it goes both ways.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    He's saying that the guy he wanted went for someone else that didn't have the fabulous body, the great hair, the perfect features, and that everyone should know this when they feel insecure about themselves. If this handsome someone frenchatheart wanted fell for someone because of qualities of person rather than appearance then it can happen to anyone.

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    Apr 06, 2011 5:44 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    frenchatheart said
    meninlove said
    frenchatheart, attraction and compatibility come in many forms and not all of them visual.

    -Doug

    PS it should be enough for you that the guy is attracted to someone else. Wish him well as you would want people to wish you well if you fell for someone.



    Exactly, that's what I learned that night. It was truly a wakeup call for me. I do wish him well although I wanted that guy that he has a crush on to be me. But, what can I do?

    I hope that my story is a lesson to all of you wh has been posting on RJ about how they feel insecure because they are not muscular enough, skinny enough, tanned enough, tall enough, old enough, young enough, rich enough etc. Coz baby, you are born this way. Love yourself and you'll find a guy who loves you. Thank you for reading my story.


    WTF....

    What is the lesson here? You compared a guy to yourself solely based on physical features and then declare yourself to better than him. You went on to talk about how dumb someone could be to be attracted to this guy. Then you go on to tell people not to feel insecure about themselves and quoted a line from a lady gaga song... what. the. fuck...



    I told you it was MY learning experience and I was evolving. In another way, my story reflects how I was changing slowly. Yes, I might be seen as a cocky dickhead but hey, I have the right to be considering my situation with a guy I had a crush on. My story does not sugar coat or trying to be politically correct in a world where beauty is judged on a scale. But I learned a different lesson. It is MY story, not yours.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:46 AM GMT

    "Yes, I might be seen as a cocky dickhead but hey, I have the right to be considering my situation with a guy I had a crush on. My story does not sugar coat or trying to be politically correct in a world where beauty is judged on a scale. But I learned a different lesson."

    *takes off hat in respect*

    -Doug
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:13 PM GMT
    charlitos saidEveryone has a totally different taste, some guys are just hot/cute in a standard way but some of their physical attributes might be a turn off to others. Consider height, hair, hygiene, ethnicity, life style, physical symmetry, voice etc...

    For example if I dont have any sexual response for blond guys, no matter how ridiculously attractive you consider yourself to be if you are blond I might be able to appreciate your beauty but I will never find you sexually appealing and you have no control over something like this.


    You broke my heart man! Now I have to go dye my hair black, oh wait...
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:21 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidI learned that back in elementary school from a book where a chicken was the main character.


    LMFAO!!

    To the OP - instead of whining about your guy finding someone else attractive, work on being the best YOU can be, forget anyone else. If he likes you and wants to be with you, fine - if he's got an eye on someone else, you should probably just move on.
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    I think we all get frustrated at events that seem to occur and how they run contrary to our own perceptions.

    I think some of the negativity here by some who post really refect how
    the OP expressed that frustration... but the answer is the same, beauty
    and attraction never has any logic at times.
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:30 PM GMT
    Well its normal every guy has his own tastes in guys its like in music,if you hate classical music some guys love it,so its the same for men icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:33 PM GMT
    hey i know im not all that in a bag of chips but i know there are some guys that would still look at me lol ...... every one have different types ... i mean my my ex had a body like batman and a face like a vampire and that was so sexy to me lol ..
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:34 PM GMT
    Vladimir01 saidWell its normal every guy has his own tastes in guys its like in music,if you hate classical music some guys love it,so its the same for men icon_biggrin.gif

    that was a great way to put it icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 1:10 PM GMT
    For me, the most attractive quality I find in a guy is intelligence. I've hooked up with a guy who is totally not my physical type, but we had very good conversations that kept things interesting and seductive.