Anyone been so attracted to a guy that it physically aches??

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    Apr 06, 2011 9:11 AM GMT
    Okay,

    So I'm on the tube this morning (subway), and see a guy who is totally hot in a suit. Really good looking, nice athletic build etc and I feel seriously attracted- to the point I felt an ache in my gut. I've had that happen before and what it reminds me of is the years of feeling "trapped" thinking I couldn't be gay etc and yet feeling the strongest attractions.

    How have guys experienced this and how did yoiu cope?
  • gallus81

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    Apr 06, 2011 10:46 AM GMT
    generally i don't get to this stage until I've lusted after him for a few weeks or so, then it gets nasty.
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    Apr 06, 2011 11:53 AM GMT
    Guess in my case its about over 20 years of suppression.
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    Apr 06, 2011 11:58 AM GMT
    blactor saidOkay,

    So I'm on the tube this morning (subway), and see a guy who is totally hot in a suit. Really good looking, nice athletic build etc and I feel seriously attracted- to the point I felt an ache in my gut.

    The subway setting should be a big clue -- gay men, no matter how hot they are, are like subway trains. If you miss one, just catch the next.
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:00 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    blactor saidOkay,

    So I'm on the tube this morning (subway), and see a guy who is totally hot in a suit. Really good looking, nice athletic build etc and I feel seriously attracted- to the point I felt an ache in my gut.

    The subway setting should be a big clue -- gay men, no matter how hot they are, are like subway trains. If you miss one, just catch the next.


    LOL I like that one. good one. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:41 PM GMT
    Yes, and he's here on RJ. He is gentle, loving, strong, decisive, mature, self-confident, intelligent, kind, caring, interesting, romantic, humorous, artistic, hard working, honest, loyal, sweet, sexy, handsome, not set in his ways, has good values...and nice feet. :-) icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 1:03 PM GMT
    COLORED TEXT GOES HERE WELL BLACTOR, THIS HAPPENS, I'VE SEEN A MAGNIFICENT MUSCLE GUY AT GYM ONCE, I REACHED THE LOCKERROOM JUST IN TIME AND MESSED IT UP, SORRY, I COULD'NT HELP IT.
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    Apr 06, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    Been feeling the same way for the last week. The guy I was hanging out/dating told me last Wednesday that our "fling" was over and just wanted to be friends. Every time I see a picture or a fb post or anything, I literally feel a sinking feeling/pain in my stomach since I still feel for him A LOT.
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    Apr 06, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    @allathlete. You're a catch. Its his loss, and you're worth being loved back. Everyone is!
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    Apr 06, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    Yeah thats where the whole term butterflies in your stomach comes from.

    I know I feel like that when I really want something I can't have or that I am too excited about something. In your case, a guy!


    Wikipedia-
    "Butterflies in the stomach is a phenomenon characterized by the physical sensation of a "fluttery" feeling in the stomach. This sensation can be a physical sensation related to the body's fight or flight response or it can be an ineffable experience related to the psychology of love or nervousness and excitement.

    Some believe that this is caused by the release of adrenaline when one is nervous, which pulls blood away from the stomach and sends it to the muscles. This reduced blood flow, in turn, causes the stomach to temporarily shut down, and is possibly the reason for reduced appetite during love sickness


    It is common for one to feel butterflies in the stomach when in the early stages of a relationship. It can be caused by nervousness and fear of the unknown. Butterflies in the stomach are often seen as a positive and harmless sign of subconscious feelings for romantic interest and are caused by the release of mood altering endorphins"



    Coping- I d say go for it! Just smile or introduce yourself. He can't be that - If he in a suit - Just dont use a corny line. ( now acting on that advice can have some serious repercurssions) so depends on how much you want it. You really live once! - Asking for directions is always a good start.
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    @mrnomoreswag
    No butterflies here. Maybe porcupines or hedgehogs, but no butterflies. It's really a pain more than anything. Just yesterday I thought I was gonna throw up because of it.
  • rnch

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    Apr 06, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    yup!

    totally unreturned, sorry to say....

    ah well..........life goes on
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    Allathlete said@mrnomoreswag
    No butterflies here. Maybe porcupines or hedgehogs, but no butterflies. It's really a pain more than anything. Just yesterday I thought I was gonna throw up because of it.


    What? Wow! Maybe its an Ulcer! icon_sad.gif Hope not. The butterflies can feel like that. Its the same feeling when you are really nervous - some get nauseous. Some have it easier then others.
  • aaronkei

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    Apr 06, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    Lol as you can imagine someone like me feels like that whenever I talk to someone on here that is attractive. Of course not many find me attractive so then I'll get the "your no my type" statement and I get a tightening and sharp pain in my gut so ya I think we all get it especially the ones that are sweet, caring, compassionate, and not such a guy which means they treat you like your special. So ya I admit it is quite common for me...icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    I have before. Theres this guy i know and im super attracted to him (he doesnt really like me but w/e) and everytime i see pictures of him on facebook my stomach starts aching and going all crazy, it feels like an intense amount of butterflies or something. I get the feeling until i stop looking at pictures so i figured it must be from him....
  • wellwell

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    Apr 06, 2011 3:06 PM GMT
    journey24 said@allathlete. You're a catch. Its his loss, and you're worth being loved back. Everyone is!



    ...Ya, what he said!
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    blactor saidOkay,

    So I'm on the tube this morning (subway), and see a guy who is totally hot in a suit. Really good looking, nice athletic build etc and I feel seriously attracted- to the point I felt an ache in my gut.

    The subway setting should be a big clue -- gay men, no matter how hot they are, are like subway trains. If you miss one, just catch the next.


    So it is a meat market mentality, huh?

    To the OP, substance isn't a bad thing to have. Try starting a conversation with the guy next time.
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    Animus said
    TexDef07 said
    blactor saidOkay,

    So I'm on the tube this morning (subway), and see a guy who is totally hot in a suit. Really good looking, nice athletic build etc and I feel seriously attracted- to the point I felt an ache in my gut.

    The subway setting should be a big clue -- gay men, no matter how hot they are, are like subway trains. If you miss one, just catch the next.


    So it is a meat market mentality, huh?

    To the OP, substance isn't a bad thing to have. Try starting a conversation with the guy next time.


    Animus, there's an old STRAIGHT saying that says the same thing.
    As an example, please read:
    http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/Brigid_Bishop/Why-Men-Are-Like-Buses/332170.aspx
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Yeah, I have had the ache in the pit of my stomach, so I know where you're coming from. I also used to get so excited when I saw this one guy, that my knees would shake.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    Yes... I know the feeling.
  • mybud

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    Apr 06, 2011 6:03 PM GMT
    That feeling is a wanting for something you don't have presently...Dude... feelings are good...They let us know we're living,breathing, beings....So you saw your ideal physically on the subway...but was he your ideal emotionally?..was he perfect for you on the inside....Your feelings for this guy were related to personal lust....Go find your perfect guy and expect perfection on the inside as well as the outside....BUD
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    Apr 06, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    Well I must be dead inside because I never had that feeling.
  • rnch

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    Apr 06, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    michalchi29 saidWell I must be dead inside because I never had that feeling.



    leurkin' darn fine for "dead inside"!

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    Apr 06, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    nope...i just turn red....and loose my composure...and start sweating...get nervous...ugh, but no, never physically aching(dammit :I
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    Apr 06, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    its called an ''erection'' icon_lol.gif