what makes you think someone is attracted to you?

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    Apr 06, 2011 9:13 AM GMT
    Attraction detection: what makes you think someone is attracted to you? (not what makes you attracted to them) and how accurate are people's beliefs that someone is attracted to them?
    I don't just mean flirting, because lots of people naturally flirt with just about everyone, regardless of actually being attracted to them. Its just how mode of communication is perceived or whatever. I also don't necessarily mean this in the context of a relationship. I'm frankly more interested from the perspective of acquaintances/strangers/friends/people you aren't dating.

    I also know there are people out there who incorrectly think practically everyone is attracted to them, so I'm not talking about that. I'm making the assumption that you are a level headed, reasonable person.

    So what makes you think someone is attracted to you? And how accurate are we when we think that someone is attracted to us?

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  • MikemikeMike

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    Apr 06, 2011 9:14 AM GMT
    it's all in the eyes.
  • Hammer89

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    Apr 06, 2011 10:42 AM GMT
    anytime you look at that person, they're always eye fucking the shit out of you.
  • Hammer89

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    Apr 06, 2011 10:42 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidit's all in the eyes.


    Yes!
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    Apr 06, 2011 11:12 AM GMT
    when they tell you to sit on their face
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    Apr 06, 2011 11:13 AM GMT
    When they're naked in my bed.
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    Apr 06, 2011 12:42 PM GMT
    and sometimes they never look at you because they dont what u to find out ..
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    Apr 06, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
    blisss saidand sometimes they never look at you because they dont what u to find out ..


    second that!
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 06, 2011 1:36 PM GMT
    When they want to spend time with you and ask you for photos. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    When I see some movement in the crotch area.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 06, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    when they hit me and then run away
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    Apr 06, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    In gay men it's easy, they tell me or keep looking at me and I finally ask them what's on my face. Other guys (closeted, bi, etc) I have no idea, I read signals from them wrong all the time and usually end up having guys who like to overly hang out with me turn out to be straighticon_sad.gif but are cool with me being gay.
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    Apr 06, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    They give you attention.
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    SFYogi saidThey give you attention.


    Yes
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    if you catch their glance more than 3 times.
    but then maybe you just forgot to zip up your fly.
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    racerx76 saidanytime you look at that person, they're always eye fucking the shit out of you.


    I got the most horrible mental image when I read that...argh!
  • mybud

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    Apr 06, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    I got this feeling..I'm good at knowing if a guy is sincere but just horny and bullshitting...It took awhile to develop .... but it's up and workin like a charm....BUD
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    Timbales saidwhen they hit me and then run away

    LOL I need to have that happen to me because I'm fucking clueless. I can never tell.
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    Apr 06, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    I can tell with girls. They start to give you a lot of attention. Somtimes I feel a little smothered by it. That's when it becomes obvious, but it's the quick glances that give people away sometimes. So I agree with others, eyes first then attention.


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    Apr 06, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidit's all in the eyes.

    hell yeah
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    Apr 06, 2011 7:03 PM GMT
    michalchi29 said
    Timbales saidwhen they hit me and then run away

    LOL I need to have that happen to me because I'm fucking clueless. I can never tell.


    Haha. This is me. I didn't come out until 2009 so I have a very undeveloped radar.
  • neosyllogy

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    Apr 06, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    Creepy stalker texts and/or emails.
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    Or, slightly less unhealthy: bouncing like they need to go to the bathroom. Seriously, what's with that? The frenetic energy thing... ? icon_eek.gif

    When interested in someone else, however, I find it works to just assume that they're interested in you and go from there. (If they're not it's usually pretty easy to tell by... the... lack of interest. icon_cool.gif)

  • rf_dal

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    Apr 06, 2011 7:13 PM GMT
    michalchi29 said
    Timbales saidwhen they hit me and then run away

    LOL I need to have that happen to me because I'm fucking clueless. I can never tell.


    THIS.

    I can never tell. Ever. At all. A friend will tell me "Oh man that guy was checking one of us out" And I don't even know who, where, when... fml
  • eddieross69

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    Apr 06, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    When they look only at me and smile when I enter a room. Instant melt.
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    Apr 06, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    I'm not very good at spotting it to be honest. Other people usually have to point it out.