Would you give up your pet(s) because new boyfriend is allergic

  • Rob501

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    Apr 06, 2011 12:28 PM GMT
    When my relationship ended 10 months, my ex took one of our cats (we had 3 total). When he started dating someone a few months his new boyfriend didn't like the cat, so my ex asked if I would take the cat back for a trial basis. When that relationship ended, the cat was returned to him.

    Then my ex made a decision to obtain a second cat. Recently my ex has been dating a new boyfriend (3 months) who is highly allergic to cats. Friends have informed me that my ex is seriously thinking of giving up his two cats because of this new relationship. If you have pets, would you give them up for a new relationship?
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    Rob501 saidWhen my relationship ended 10 months, my ex took one of our cats (we had 3 total). When he started dating someone a few months his new boyfriend didn't like the cat, so my ex asked if I would take the cat back for a trial basis. When that relationship ended, the cat was returned to him.

    Then my ex made a decision to obtain a second cat. Recently my ex has been dating a new boyfriend (3 months) who is highly allergic to cats. Friends have informed me that my ex is seriously thinking of giving up his two cats because of this new relationship. If you have pets, would you give them up for a new relationship?



    I wouldn't have given the cat back to the ex.

    Those poor cats.

    -Doug
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    Apr 06, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    no, but i'd make arrangements. a commitment is a commitment. if someone would completely drop their pet for me, i'd wonder what they'd do with me if i were dependent on them and became inconvenient.
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    Apr 06, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    Consider yourself fortunate to call that guy your ex. His willingness to give up something that he should care for would make me question what else he would give when it's not convenient.

    To answer your question, I don't think I could give up my dogs. If a boyfriend was allergic, then we wouldn't live together. Depending how bad his allergies were, our time together might be limited if he couldn't go for walks with us or go to the dog beach or the dog park.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    Goodbye boyfriend!
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    no way .... goodbye
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    Apr 07, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Never.

    Together 11 years and he knows he is still second to my girls.
  • shag91607

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    Apr 07, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    Absolutely not. Both my pups have been with me through thick and thin - they're not up for replacement.
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    Apr 07, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    Rob501 saidWhen my relationship ended 10 months, my ex took one of our cats (we had 3 total). When he started dating someone a few months his new boyfriend didn't like the cat, so my ex asked if I would take the cat back for a trial basis. When that relationship ended, the cat was returned to him.

    Then my ex made a decision to obtain a second cat. Recently my ex has been dating a new boyfriend (3 months) who is highly allergic to cats. Friends have informed me that my ex is seriously thinking of giving up his two cats because of this new relationship. If you have pets, would you give them up for a new relationship?


    The new boyfriend would need to be fiscally responsible for his own place. Mr. Snickers isn't going anywhere.
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    Apr 07, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    I would give up the boyfriend because the pet is allergic!
  • neosyllogy

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    Apr 07, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    Fuck no!

    I *might* shave them ... but only if they liked it.
    (That said, I'm a dog person, so much less likely to be a problem! icon_biggrin.gif )
  • neosyllogy

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    Apr 07, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Bowie saidThe new boyfriend would need to be fiscally responsible for his own place. Mr. Snickers isn't going anywhere.


    Dude!
    I totally want a dog named "Mr. Snickers". I would get him another doggy pal. His name would be "Sir Ruffs-a-Lot".
    They would have mad sweet adventures grounded in imagination and a fundamental misinterpretation of the world around them.
    It would be sweet. ("Professor Puddles" would be an recurring, but non-core character in their lives. Possibly a semi-adopted stray that has become wise to the ways of mankind ...by doggy standards.)



    (Attention GrammaSyleticians!: This is an appropriate use of a double "sweet" dropping, don't give me no raz!)
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    Apr 07, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    my cat is everything to me!

    if you doing like my Iddy Biddy, then you can go straight to hell!
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    Apr 07, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    Haha, no man has ever proven that they can be trusted enough to give up a thing, much less either of my 2 dogs which have been with me for 10 years and 4 years.
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    Apr 07, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    Not at first, but if it got serious and the allergy was too bad... of course I would. That said, I'm a guy who hasn't owned a pet in 22 years.
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    Apr 07, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    No. I'd pay for allergy shots. My dog is a full member of the family, not an associate member.
  • Springer70

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    Apr 07, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    Why choose?

    I'm allergic to cats, and when my BF wanted to get one (after -- literally -- years of nagging), I suffered for a while. But a few weeks of antihistamines and I built up a tolerance. We now have two cats and a dog.

    I now have a cat on my lap, and a boyfriend next to me.

    Anyone who thinks they need to choose is just being a pussy (cat, that is).


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    Apr 07, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    Depends on the pet and how long I've had it, my turtle maybe, dog..sorry take your meds, and def no if he wants me to get rid of any of my plants, I like them more then my pets.
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    Apr 07, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    Rob501 saidIf you have pets, would you give them up for a new relationship?
    I've never been in that situation, so there are too many variables to determine what my answer would be.
  • ac416

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    Apr 07, 2011 2:36 AM GMT
    absolutely not . i love my cat (and dog in the past) as close as i could to a child so i couldnt give them away. i like to think the right person for me wouldnt have allergies to animals, but if it happened id definetly look into all the options like drugs for them, bathing the cat everyday,,,,whatever it took. but if i had to give my cat away it would be to my brother or family where i could still visit and be assured she's fine. i couldnt give the cat to a stranger and then claim to love my pet, thats more like someone that just had the pet around for companionship and convenience. and friends that told me they've done that with their dogs (given away cuz of the new bf) and then would regret it later when they break up with the boyfriend.
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    Apr 07, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    What four dogs, and two cats for one man; hmmmmm.
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    Apr 07, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    Ofc i would !
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Apr 07, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    no way in hell sorry the dog was here first so u have to deal with her.
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    Apr 07, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    pets are loyal, ALL the time
    So NO.
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    Apr 07, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    No. Not a chance. Never.