Dating HIV+

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    Apr 06, 2011 6:57 PM GMT
    If you meet a gorgeous guy you really liked... And then he tells you he recently tested HIV positive, would you still pursue a relationship with him?
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    Apr 06, 2011 7:00 PM GMT
    If the connection was there then yes.
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    Apr 06, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    If we click on other levels, yes!
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    Apr 06, 2011 9:17 PM GMT
    Nah.
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    Apr 06, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    I'd like to think yes, especially if we genuinely like each other. We'd have to hash out the details... does he know where he got it from...

    But I think in the back of my mind the no factor would be overwhelming. icon_sad.gif

    I'm on the fence of consideration.
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    Apr 06, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidI'd like to think yes, especially if we genuinely like each other. We'd have to hash out the details... does he know where he got it from...

    But I think in the back of my mind the no factor would be overwhelming. icon_sad.gif

    I'm on the fence of consideration.


    Answer: He got it from his ex that he was in a relationship with for 5 and 1/2 years. His ex had been cheating on him and he didn't know, once he found out he called everything off and went to get tested.
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    Apr 06, 2011 9:53 PM GMT
    512jock said
    TrevorMark saidI'd like to think yes, especially if we genuinely like each other. We'd have to hash out the details... does he know where he got it from...

    But I think in the back of my mind the no factor would be overwhelming. icon_sad.gif

    I'm on the fence of consideration.


    Answer: He got it from his ex that he was in a relationship with for 5 and 1/2 years. His ex had been cheating on him and he didn't know, once he found out he called everything off and went to get tested.

    If this is true, he seems like a good enough guy.

    I'd consider it. Let yourself see where it goes Just be safe about it, ya know? icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 06, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    While I respect everyone's decision to do so or not do so, does it really matter WHERE OR HOW he got it? That knowledge is not going to undo it.
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    Apr 06, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    Yeah, I would. Condoms work if you use them properly.
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    Apr 06, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    If I had turned away all the HIV+ men, I would have missed out on some pretty wonderful guys.

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    Apr 06, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    If I was in love yes.


    THOUGH I will say that to a certain extent how does matter. for example

    if he is lets say 30 and he got it from unprotected sex at a bathhouse in the past year, that doesn't bode well for a relationship/ BUt if he is 30 and got it in unportected sex at a bathhouse when he was 20, maybe he is different.

    NOTE I am aware there are MANY MANY ways to contract HIV and that bathhouses are not the majority, it was merely an example. As long as he isn't promiscuous while daitng ME it's fine.
  • tongun18

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    Apr 06, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    Yes. I've actually spoken to my doctor about this, he said their are plenty of poz/neg couples and that given the proper precautions (which he actually listed out for me), couples could easily prevent the negative partner from becoming infected with the virus.

    *edit: Odd, initially I used + / - (without the space in between) in place of poz and neg and when I submitted the message it was erased. Anyone know why?
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    Apr 06, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    512jock saidIf you meet a gorgeous guy you really liked... And then he tells you he recently tested HIV positive, would you still pursue a relationship with him?

    Yes. You may have joined here since I last mentioned this, or not seen it, so please forgive me for repeating. But I was knowingly, willingly, and joyfully partnered with a poz guy. I just didn't date him, I lived with him, and had (safe) sex with him without hesitation. Sadly, he died a few years after we'd gotten together.

    I would do it again if he were the right guy. Or rather, I'd get together with the right guy, and if he were poz, it would merely mean we had to be safe.

    My present partner is not poz, but more a matter of him not happening to be so when we fell in love, not a reason I chose him. I guess I'm kinda post-poz in my thinking, it doesn't form part of my selection process.

    He just has to be honest with me, and tell me. The guy who conceals it is stricken from my consideration.
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    Apr 06, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    Been there; done that. Still seeing him 6 years later.
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    Apr 06, 2011 11:37 PM GMT
    Anduru saidNah.


    OF COURSE NOT BECAUSE YOU HATE YOURSELF AND GOD HATES YOU. YOU ARE SICKNESS.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    Yes I would.

    +1 for it depends how he got it.
    If he was engaging in risky behavior then I probably wouldn't continue to see him. I wouldn't date an IV drug user. I probably wouldn't date someone stupid enough to bb with someone that he's not in a long-term monogamous relationship with.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    yawn..... yes.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    I agree with trevor.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
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    Anduru saidNah.


    OF COURSE NOT BECAUSE YOU HATE YOURSELF AND GOD HATES YOU. YOU ARE SICKNESS.


    Wow, someone has aids in their vagina.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    Yes, I would
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    Sex is overrated.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    Honestly, I posted this because the guy is me. I was with my ex for 5 years, found out he was cheating and messing around with random people. We split up, I got tested and found out recently Im positive for HIV. I'm finally at the point where I really want to meet someone special that I can get into "relationship" mode with again but I'm afraid attractive, in-shape, health minded guys won't go for someone like me. Thanks for all the responses, this helps. ;-)
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    512jock saidHonestly, I posted this because the guy is me. I was with my ex for 5 years, found out he was cheating and messing around with random people. We split up, I got tested and found out recently Im positive for HIV. I'm finally at the point where I really want to meet someone special that I can get into "relationship" mode with again but I'm afraid attractive, in-shape, health minded guys won't go for someone like me. Thanks for all the responses, this helps. ;-)


    Wow thanks for sharing this man! takes a lot to do so. You are more then a catch.! you are perfect in everyway. You will find someone who is better then last.
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    512jock saidHonestly, I posted this because the guy is me. I was with my ex for 5 years, found out he was cheating and messing around with random people. We split up, I got tested and found out recently Im positive for HIV. I'm finally at the point where I really want to meet someone special that I can get into "relationship" mode with again but I'm afraid attractive, in-shape, health minded guys won't go for someone like me. Thanks for all the responses, this helps. ;-)




    I think most guys on here would date you in a second. Including me icon_biggrin.gif Don't worry about it and don't let it get you down
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    Apr 07, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    512jock saidHonestly, I posted this because the guy is me. I was with my ex for 5 years, found out he was cheating and messing around with random people. We split up, I got tested and found out recently Im positive for HIV. I'm finally at the point where I really want to meet someone special that I can get into "relationship" mode with again but I'm afraid attractive, in-shape, health minded guys won't go for someone like me. Thanks for all the responses, this helps. ;-)


    ...why does your profile say HIV neg?

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    Anduru saidNah.


    OF COURSE NOT BECAUSE YOU HATE YOURSELF AND GOD HATES YOU. YOU ARE SICKNESS.


    I thought the (your?) schtick was "impure" and "embrace perfection" and no talk of the Jesus. Did it change?