Does the number sexual partners matter?

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    Apr 07, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    I'm not talking about one night stands or casual sex partners, but do you care about how many sexual partners your BF or partner has had? It there a maximum number of sexual partners you'd feel comfortable with, and a minimum? Does it matter if he was a total man-whore before he met you? lol.

    In the spirit of posters also answering their questions, I'm not sure i'd be comfortable with settling down with a guy who has had a 1000 sex partner, or even many hundreds - though i never say never. Also I don't have a minimum..

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    Apr 07, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    The more the merrier. Borat.gif
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    Apr 07, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    Don't you feel it's tacky to ask the guy you're dating how many people he has slept with? You can get the sense from his demeanors (did he gave away the farm and all of its animals on the first night) or how he feels about certain subjects (e.g., threesome / orgies). But just flat out asking him his magic # is kind of a romance-killer. Some sensitive guys may get offended even.

    With that said, I think as long as you feel the connection and you're sure that this guy is not screwing around with other guys while he's seeing you, and you guys are practicing safe sex, just try to enjoy it man.
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    Apr 07, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    Nah, I don't judge guys on their sexual past.
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    Apr 07, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    Yes, I need to know if I should call him a slut or a prude.
    /sarcasm

    No, there are important things to learn like attitude regarding sex, likes/dislikes, sexual fantasy, romantic history, trends in his sexual history.
    The number is not important unless you are looking for something to hold against him.

    Question: If you're talking about the number of partners why don't hookups count?
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    Apr 07, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    Are these partners girls or guys?

    Seriously though, I actually like for a guy to have some experience... I don't like to be the teacher. I like him to surprise me by picking me up and throwing me on the bed.
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    Apr 07, 2011 7:05 PM GMT
    Ermine said

    Question: If you're talking about the number of partners why don't hookups count?


    They do count. But i'm not talking about the past-hookups of your casual sex partner, rather if the number of past hookups of your LTR partner/BF matters.
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    Apr 07, 2011 7:08 PM GMT
    Thanks for clarifying that. I thought that maybe you only wanted to count the LTRs of your significant other.
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    It matters to me, but from the other side. I want a man I date to have had enough variety of sex to be able to bring some sexual experience to the bedroom. I don't believe that comes from one or two monogamous relationships icon_smile.gif

    I don't want a prude, or a sexual anorexic.
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    Apr 08, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    No, not really.
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    Apr 08, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    It`s not the amount that bothers me, but what happens during these hook-ups.

    The difference is the difference between a slut and a promiscuous person. Promiscuous means someone whose rationalized being single and has no strings attached fun with others, all safely. A slut will guzzle.


    Anywhoo, too high a number can mean this person has emotional problems too right? Rationalization of being single is not always rational nor healthy pending its disposition.