An interesting encounter (marriage tangent)

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    Apr 07, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    Straight people often tend to view marriages now as holding patterns. Serial monogamy. It's quite often not "til death do us part". They have the luxury of the privileges of being first class citizens. Most don't think of consequences, because they have that privilege.

    So....what am I talking about?

    So I have this MMA conditioning class, and one I'm the only gay man there (it's a 6 person class, so I'm skewing us up higher than 10%). We were talking about our weekend. This young guy is talking about how he went on a consummated date with a woman and is now likely to be sued for "alienation of affection."

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alienation_of_affections

    It's funny, because I also spent the weekend with a good and very attractive friend, who is committed. But not legally married. I consider him married, and therefore off limits. If he were legally married and I had made any move with consequences, I could be in the same situation as my 19yo friend.

    It's just curious because it's another example of ways in which lack of legal protections created an oppression and ghetto-effect, where people lower their standards.

    If we men could marry with all the same consequences and rights, men might over time adjust to the reality that it's not just drama you're creating if you touch someone else's man, it's real consequences that can affect your wallet.

    or in other words "Guns don't kill people, husbands who come home early kill people"
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
    my secret power is to create posts no one responds too...LOL
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:27 PM GMT
    interesting, i wonder how many people actually KNOW about this lol.
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    Apr 09, 2011 9:47 PM GMT
    jprichva saidOkay, you want a response?
    You're cute, let's fuck.


    i'm single, so it's not directly relevant to the topic. are you suggesting we fuck each other or just fuck something in general? icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    Sublstyley saidinteresting, i wonder how many people actually KNOW about this lol.


    it's a pretty outdated law, to be honest, but if marriage were suddenly legal for me in NC right now, it would apply.
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    Apr 09, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    Would the law still apply if the cheating spouse lied about being married? If so, it's pretty messed up.

    I like one aspect of the law. If you knowingly have an affair with someone in a monogamous relationship, then you are a cheater. What I don't like is that it makes it seem that if the 3rd party never came around then the one in the relationship would never have cheated. The law seems to be written to assume that certain temptresses are to blame for otherwise faithful men to cheat on their wives. It reeks of religious original sin-succubus nonsense.
  • KissTheSky

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    Apr 09, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    I would never mess around with someone else's boyfriend -- it's obviously asking for trouble. But you're right, marriage for gay people would help clarify things.
  • mybud

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    Apr 09, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    I've learned one thing...and I'll pass this knowledge to the gay masses...If you got a good thing keep it to your self.....or your closest gay "friend"...the friend you would die for will be fuckin your man behind your back....cruel reality.....very cruel.....BUD
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    Apr 09, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    I would have to disagree with idea that having such laws would put gay committed relationships on the same par as long-established marriage systems. It seems to me the Alienation of Affections tort is backwards in itself, and if we as a gay community adopt backwards kind of laws, then where's the progress we're trying to achieve as a community?