Having Kids

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    Apr 08, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    I believe that having a child is a blessing and a lot of straight couples take that for granted. Sometimes I think how unfair it is that people who are well established and would make wonderful parents can't have any and those people who are unfit to have them have 3 or 4. If you guys were able to have or adopt a child would you? Just curious.
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    Apr 08, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    Oh gawd no. In fact, my wife and I consciously and happily made the decision to not have children, and we have no regrets at all.
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    Apr 08, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    Yes I'm going to have kids some time. Keeping a lineage is important to me.

    paradox saidOh gawd no. In fact, my wife and I consciously and happily made the decision to not have children, and we have no regrets at all.


    Excuse me. Why are you on this site if you have a wife?
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    Apr 08, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    mocktwinkie saidYes I'm going to have kids some time. Keeping a lineage is important to me.

    paradox saidOh gawd no. In fact, my wife and I consciously and happily made the decision to not have children, and we have no regrets at all.


    Excuse me. Why are you on this site if you have a wife?


    Reading is fundamental. This is what is on his profile:

    I signed up here solely to chat in the forums. I'm not seeking sexual/erotic online interaction, casual sex, or a relationship.
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    To answer the OP's question, I do want kids. At least 3 to 5. I plan on having them through in vitro fertilization (or that other process where the woman carries the child for you then gives up the child when it's born).

    I'll be having these kids even if I can't find a husband.
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    Apr 08, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    mocktwinkie saidYes I'm going to have kids some time. Keeping a lineage is important to me.

    paradox saidOh gawd no. In fact, my wife and I consciously and happily made the decision to not have children, and we have no regrets at all.


    Excuse me. Why are you on this site if you have a wife?


    I'm a gay guy married to a woman. There are also married bi guys on here.
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    Apr 08, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    creature said
    Reading is fundamental. This is what is on his profile:

    I signed up here solely to chat in the forums. I'm not seeking sexual/erotic online interaction, casual sex, or a relationship.


    That actually has nothing to do with my being married. Sexually, I am free do whatever I like. It is my choice to not engage sexually/erotically with others.
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    Apr 08, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    paradox said
    creature said
    Reading is fundamental. This is what is on his profile:

    I signed up here solely to chat in the forums. I'm not seeking sexual/erotic online interaction, casual sex, or a relationship.


    That actually has nothing to do with my being married. Sexually, I am free do whatever I like. It is my choice to not engage sexually/erotically with others.


    Mocktwinkie was making the presumption that you are being unfaithful by being here as a married man. I was pointing out from your profile that he jumped the gun on your reasons for being here. Whether your marriage is open and you are sexually free to do whatever is irrelevant.
  • huntershunk

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    Apr 08, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    no cause this world is way toooo Fucked up to even wanna put a child thru
  • DCEric

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    Apr 08, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    We plan to start the process (adoption or finding a host mother... hehe) later this year... good bye working out, but it is important to us.
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    I think there's already a lot of people in the world. Even if I was straight, I don't think i'd want any biological children. I'd adopt, instead. There are many children out there that need someone.
  • Ironman4U

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    Apr 08, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    I agree, it is a blessing to have a child. I am fortunate to be a gay man that has a beautiful daughter. Feel very blessed indeed.

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    Apr 08, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    michalchi29 saidI believe that having a child is a blessing and a lot of straight couples take that for granted. Sometimes I think how unfair it is that people who are well established and would make wonderful parents can't have any and those people who are unfit to have them have 3 or 4. If you guys were able to have or adopt a child would you? Just curious.


    My bf and I aren't really interested in raising any kids. We both were raised by a mother and a dad and I know there were times when I needed my mom because I knew my dad wouldn't understand. We both kind of feel the same way that to get the full experience of life, kids need both genders. It's not that it can't be done with just men, but call me old fashion, but i still think it's better for children to be raised and experience life in the home from the perspective of both sexes. So for that reason, we both have decided not to raise any kids. Neither one of us wants to risk messing up a kids life, just because he didn't have a mother to talk to.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Apr 08, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    Yes; I would like to have a child or two one day...
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    i would in a heart beat i love kids. i have 12 nephews and nieces and love them all. and yes children are a special thing that need to be cherished 100%.
  • BardBear

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    Apr 08, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    We would love kids. We have a stable home; we have much to offer. We've looked into foster care in accordance with nearby Orlando-they have about fifty gay teens in need of homes where role models are present.

    But the fact is, we don't have much money right now. And until that changes, who knows?

    I've looked into Big Brothers/Big Sisters--so I can show a kid how to throw a football or go fishing or stuff like that. Maybe that will work.

    We're not stupid, however, we know we can live it up a bit more than our friends with kids. But it keeps popping back up.

    Peace,
    Bardy
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
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    mocktwinkie saidYes I'm going to have kids some time. Keeping a lineage is important to me.

    paradox saidOh gawd no. In fact, my wife and I consciously and happily made the decision to not have children, and we have no regrets at all.


    Excuse me. Why are you on this site if you have a wife?


    I'm a gay guy married to a woman. There are also married bi guys on here.


    There are a lot of married guys on here who must be bicurious or bisexual or they are secretly gay and married to a woman in order to keep it a secret better because who would guess a married guy is gay. It serves as a good cover up for them, so they aren't accused of being gay,even though they are. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    For those of you who are interested in this topic, we have also discussed it here: This is more about having your own DNA passed down vs. adopting

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1457072/

    For me, I love kids. I think a boy and girl would be perfect.
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    I helped my lesbian friends conceive a child. I donated sperm to them and now I am the proud "Uncle" of a beautiful three year old. A blue eyed, quarter Mexican/Spaniard and some European makes one really beautiful child. Bad this is now my Mother wants a "real" grandchild from me.
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    being adopted myself, I see the importance of it, and when the time comes, I will be willing to open my home, single or partnered to a kid (any age) in order to provide a better life for him/her.
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    Apr 08, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    I want to be a dad someday. My mom is ready for grandchildren, but she is going to have to wait because I'm not ready yet.
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    Apr 08, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    absolutely i'd want to have kids. i've always seen myself being a father and raising kids. plus my parents would make amazing grandparents and would be so proud to have grandchildren.
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    Apr 08, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    I don't want children. At all. Ever.

    Although this post is not specifically about Abortion, but it relates to Heterosexuals taking Human life for granted .

    I think women take advantage of abortion when there is ample protection to prevent having a child. That is an evil weak minded thing to do. And if one felt and knew the pain that the fetus went through they wouldn't do it.

    In my opinion Abortion Clinics should post graphic videos and impages of aborted fetuses as wall paper in those vile abortion clinic prior to the woman deciding to abort the fetus Im sure the whore will change her mind. icon_rolleyes.gif I mean to destroy potential even before it gets to experience Earth is unbearably cruel. They should be put up for Adoption instead and given a chance to be taken care of and loved, not tortured in the womb.

    You can't deny this child's sweet little face


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    Apr 08, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
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    paradox said
    mocktwinkie saidYes I'm going to have kids some time. Keeping a lineage is important to me.

    paradox saidOh gawd no. In fact, my wife and I consciously and happily made the decision to not have children, and we have no regrets at all.


    Excuse me. Why are you on this site if you have a wife?


    I'm a gay guy married to a woman. There are also married bi guys on here.


    There are a lot of married guys on here who must be bicurious or bisexual or they are secretly gay and married to a woman in order to keep it a secret better because who would guess a married guy is gay. It serves as a good cover up for them, so they aren't accused of being gay,even though they are. icon_lol.gif


    When I got married, I desperately wanted to be straight. But, unlike most gay guys in this situation, I was upfront about it with her before we got married. It hasn't always been easy, but 24 years later, we're still very happily together.

    As for kids, I don't have a paternal bone in my body. And, my wife is hardcore into Transcendental Meditation and spends a couple hours, morning and evening, meditating. If you're going to raise kids, you shouldn't abandon them for 4 hours a day, while you go off navel gazing. Not having kids perfectly matches my nature and her priorities.
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    Apr 08, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    I'm not ready for children for quite some time, but I would like to have some one day. No more than 3 (preferably all boys, but beggers can't be choosers).

    I couldn't go through the adoption process. It would feel like I was raising someone else's child (even if it does sound a little insensitive). I read a few articles on the process of taking the DNA out of a female's egg and replacing it with a male's DNA, and then said egg could be fertalized with another man's sperm and implanted in a surrogate. If I ever have a partner and we decide to have children, this would be the method I would want to use because it would be 100% OUR child. Whether the process is ever successful in humans remains to be seen though.

    one can hope. icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 08, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    I was adopted. I know the feeling of being adopted is like, going through life confused about who you are. I also know the amazing love that a family is willing to give a child and raise them to the best of their abilities. I would hope sometime in the future I would do that, not sure if I will have a partner or not, but if I ever were to have a child, i would want to adopt one. icon_smile.gif