Being awkward...

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    Apr 08, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    When people first meet me, I'm a pretty outgoing person. I don't really care if I make a fool of myself, because I'm the type of guy that'll try to pull the tension and the awkwardness out of the air and give the room a relaxed feeling. But that is usually when I meet people... I can really be myself and be down to earth and just have a good time. But I have this problem of being one of the most awkward people I know, and a lot of friends can vouch for that.

    Usually when I'm talking with friends, they'll say something, and it'll remind me of something that happened a while ago, or remind me of something that is completely off topic, or remind me of something that's completely hilarious even though what we were talking about wasn't even remotely funny.

    I laugh in situations where nothing is funny, I say awkward things to guys I like on a regular basis, and it doesn't help that I'm not a great speaker in the first place. I have self-diagnosed myself with oral dyslexia. When trying to say two words (ex: plane crash), I'll end up switching the first couple letters of the words (crane plash)...

    But anyways. My life is made up of nothing but awkward situations... and sometime I feel like it's a definite turn off for guys, and I really wish there was a way I could just act normal.
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    Apr 08, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    Depends though. I think it's fine as long as you don't say things that are weirdly inappropriate (as in Tourette's).

    I actually find the characteristics you've described quirky and charming.....icon_neutral.gif I much prefer it over cockiness.

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    Apr 08, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    This is probably the most adorable thing I have ever heard.
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    Apr 08, 2011 6:03 PM GMT
    Allathlete saidWhen people first meet me, I'm a pretty outgoing person. I don't really care if I make a fool of myself, because I'm the type of guy that'll try to pull the tension and the awkwardness out of the air and give the room a relaxed feeling. But that is usually when I meet people... I can really be myself and be down to earth and just have a good time. But I have this problem of being one of the most awkward people I know, and a lot of friends can vouch for that.

    Usually when I'm talking with friends, they'll say something, and it'll remind me of something that happened a while ago, or remind me of something that is completely off topic, or remind me of something that's completely hilarious even though what we were talking about wasn't even remotely funny.

    I laugh in situations where nothing is funny, I say awkward things to guys I like on a regular basis, and it doesn't help that I'm not a great speaker in the first place. I have self-diagnosed myself with oral dyslexia. When trying to say two words (ex: plane crash), I'll end up switching the first couple letters of the words (crane plash)...

    But anyways. My life is made up of nothing but awkward situations... and sometime I feel like it's a definite turn off for guys, and I really wish there was a way I could just act normal.


    You just turned me on with this post. you had me at crane plash. awkward is sexy!
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    Apr 08, 2011 6:50 PM GMT
    I know the feeling. Besides the oral dyslexia, I'm quite the klutz with the uncanny ability to trip over level ground (how I manage to dance is beyond me icon_confused.gif). I also turn several shades of red after embarrassment and I've had friends try to see just how red I can go.
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    Apr 08, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    This sounds EXACTLY like me.
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    Apr 09, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    Normal is boring, just be yourself. If a guy has a problem with your "oral dyslexia" (I love that term by the way) or your quirkiness, then that is his problem. You seem like a great guy that has a level head on his shoulders. Don't let morons bring you down. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent". It is our imperfections and our quirks that makes us who we are. For the awkward situations, try finding the humor in them. Just laugh and don't let it get the best of you. Cheer up bud icon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    It's ok to be bass ackwards as long as you don't speak everything in igpay atinlay.
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    Apr 09, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    Awkwardness is sexy i love it icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    At least your outgoing. I'm shy and awkward when I first meet people. If your as friendly as you say you are and nobodies complained I don't see anything wrong or weird about you.
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    Apr 09, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    well you are young, handsome as heck, great body, great smile. But you don't want to be awkward? Well.....................

    Be the change you want to see in the world - Gandhi
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    Apr 09, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    TO THE OP: Are you a saggitarius? Coz Saggitarius are known to be awkward and clumsy. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 2:17 AM GMT
    Allathlete said I have self-diagnosed myself with oral dyslexia. When trying to say two words (ex: plane crash), I'll end up switching the first couple letters of the words (crane plash)...


    It's called a Spoonerism.

    Also one of my close friends is a lot like how you describe yourself and he has ADHD. Not saying that you have it / a problem just wanted to mention that almost all the points you put out there sounds exactly like him.
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    Apr 09, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt's ok to be bass ackwards as long as you don't speak everything in igpay atinlay.


    Jesus, you're cute. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    That's cute..
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    Apr 09, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    Chainers saidThis is probably the most adorable thing I have ever heard.


    RD11 saidYou just turned me on with this post. you had me at crane plash. awkward is sexy!


    BabyBoiBlack said
    Awkwardness is sexy i love it


    Hahaha really??

    hangulmal saidTO THE OP: Are you a saggitarius? Coz Saggitarius are known to be awkward and clumsy. icon_wink.gif


    Nope, Scorpio.
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    icon_eek.gif Yes. I AM 1000% awkward..i think chocolate milk comes from brown cows. and HAMSTERS WILL SOON RULE THE WOOOORLD! >=D icon_twisted.gificon_razz.gif. and i kinda agree that this post is really cute. icon_razz.gif lolol
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    Ok, example again:

    Has anyone seen No Country For Old Men? Serious movie right, and I loved this movie. I saw it in the theater with my best bud. At the end of the movie (SPOILER ALERT), the bad guy gets into a car accident and gets a compound fracture in his leg (very gruesome and awesome graphics). He gets out of the car, limps to the curb where 2 teenage boys on bikes come up to survey the scene. Then one of the boys asks "Geez mister, are you ok?" The bad guy replies "Well, now let me just think about that for a minute..."

    This is where I laughed out loud in the theater. It was complete silence and from what I can remember, it was a LOUD laugh. I have no clue what came over me, but something funny clicked in my brain and I just belted out laughing. EVERYONE turned to me and stared. icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    Imagine being an inward, shy, unsocial person who in any situation with people you've never met tends to seem like a total loser who is super awkward. Don't forget nervousness in any situation where anything is expected of me.

    Hell add the fact that i mess up when I talk, and I always feel like I never have much to talk about in the first place, I seem like the perfect man! icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Apr 09, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    awkwardbeginner saidImagine being an inward, shy, unsocial person who in any situation with people you've never met tends to seem like a total loser who is super awkward. Don't forget nervousness in any situation where anything is expected of me.

    Hell add the fact that i mess up when I talk, and I always feel like I never have much to talk about in the first place, I seem like the perfect man! icon_rolleyes.gif



    Welcome brother...
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    hey man,

    i read this and thought to myself 'what? why is this guy talking about me. i wish he'd stop putting my business out on the web!' haha, but seriously, dude, i feel the same way a lot of the time. i'm glad i'm at least not the only one. thanks for the post!
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    You're basically describing me when you talk about yourself (or at least your awkwardness). A lot of people hate public speaking, it's not that unusual. I know I really do.

    I think what you think of as awkwardness is really charming in it's own way and quite endearing. I've learned to live with it.

    There are times when I don't know what to say or don't want to say anything stupid so I'll get really quite and my ears will turn red in a quite during a conversation. I used to think it was awkward but a lot of people say it's cute when that happens.

    Don't be down on yourself for it too much, you are who you are. The shy, somewhat awkward hot guy who's sensitive (not overly sensitive) is highly sought after. You'd be surprised how many guys are attracted to that. I've learned to own those qualities of myself and use them to my advantage.

    Allathlete said
    This is where I laughed out loud in the theater. It was complete silence and from what I can remember, it was a LOUD laugh. I have no clue what came over me, but something funny clicked in my brain and I just belted out laughing. EVERYONE turned to me and stared. icon_eek.gif


    You're not the only one. I laughed too as I read that. I'm sure others here did also, it is kind of funny... isn't it...?
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    Allathlete saidOk, example again:

    Has anyone seen No Country For Old Men? Serious movie right, and I loved this movie. I saw it in the theater with my best bud. At the end of the movie (SPOILER ALERT), the bad guy gets into a car accident and gets a compound fracture in his leg (very gruesome and awesome graphics). He gets out of the car, limps to the curb where 2 teenage boys on bikes come up to survey the scene. Then one of the boys asks "Geez mister, are you ok?" The bad guy replies "Well, now let me just think about that for a minute..."

    This is where I laughed out loud in the theater. It was complete silence and from what I can remember, it was a LOUD laugh. I have no clue what came over me, but something funny clicked in my brain and I just belted out laughing. EVERYONE turned to me and stared. icon_eek.gif


    You sound fun to be around with.
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    I won an award for being "Most Awkward" in high school. Apparently I have the ability (nay, gift!) to kill a conversation in 3 seconds flat.

    And I also tend to laugh at things that are going on in my head. So you are not alone.
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    Dude... it's more like you have a mild case of ADD....I work with students who display this kind of behavior...they'll say something unrelated to the topic discussed....I tell my students who display this to think for 30 seconds before they respond to a question or topic......Son....try some wait time before you answer to something....give your mind enough time to catch up with your mouth.......Hang in there buddy.....BUD