remember your first time went to the gay bar?

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    Apr 09, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    my first time was yesterday. i went there with a girl. we went into the bar less than 1 min, and then went out.

    we were too scared to stay in there. it was dark. and people were sitting very closed to each other(a little crowded). and i guess i saw some money boys.

    before i went there, i thought the bar would be quiet playing norah johnes's songs.

    anyway, we were scared. maybe you could tell your own story and give some advice, thanks :)

    by the way, i am in shanghai.
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
    nerve racking, at 18. Now? just funny
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]mi16t said[/cite]nerve racking, at 18. Now? just funny[/quote

    i am 23 years old.
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    Apr 09, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    Not in China, just Seattle, USA. Another guy took me, and it was great! Surrounded by good-looking men, what wasn't to like, or to be afraid about? On the contrary, it was the Heaven I'd hoped it would be.
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    Apr 09, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    I'm gonna go my first time this summer. I'm sure it will be like all the other bars, expect filled with gay guys and better music. I hope I see a real life "leather-guy". That'd be interesting.
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    Apr 09, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    It was yucky. Sort've a "leather" bar in San Diego in the early 90s... total dive, but the only gay bar I knew of.

    The back of the bar was so dark you couldn't see and there was all sorts of shit going on.

    The bartender looked like a biker out of a 70s movie and was missing 3 fingers on one hand. He followed me into the bathroom and offered me a blowjob.

    I went back lol
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    Apr 09, 2011 5:18 AM GMT
    I actually don't remember it because I was way too drunk
  • calibro

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    Apr 09, 2011 5:58 AM GMT
    yes. picture it. sicily. 1947...

    i mean i was 18, a freshman in college, it was spring break, and my best bud matt and i went to tiger heat in la back when it was hosted at the arena.
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    Apr 09, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    I wish I was old enough.
  • Twenty_Someth...

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    Apr 09, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    The first gay bar I went to was FUBAR in WeHo. The bartender gave me free long islands all night, until I was drunk enough to enter the biggest penis contest that they have there. I flashed the photographer and had my picture put on the wall for everyone to judge. It was the trashiest night of my life!! icon_razz.gif (and some Persian dude with a gargantuan cock won the contest)
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    My first time was for a fraternity scavenger hunt. The bar itself wasn't anything special.
    I was a little nervous because I was in the closet and was worried that I'd like it too much or somehow I'd be found out.
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:10 AM GMT
    When I first went to gay bars I NEVER went alone. I always had a group or atleast 1 person accompanying me. It took about 2 years before I ended up going to a bar/club alone.

    Bars/clubs were so much more fun when I was age 16-20. I never got tired of them. Then all of a sudden I turn 21 and it's not the same anymore. What the fuck! Who changed?
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:17 AM GMT
    My first was a bar called The Bar in Champaign, Illinois. I went there with a fellow student. A guy asked me to dance but I politely declined because I was too overwhelmed by the whole experience. I regret that.
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:18 AM GMT
    I've never been to a gay bar. Am I missing something?
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:20 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidI've never been to a gay bar. Am I missing something?


    you're missing an experience.

    But, I think the average lifespan of 'barhopping' is about 2 years. And I think I've reached the end of my 2 years and just have no interest in bars anymore...

    Actually, what I don't like is the crappy music they play outside of Amsterdam, New York, Miami...those places. I used to like clubs because of the music, but most other cities fucking sucks
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:21 AM GMT
    the last time i went i was offered cocaine twice. guys wonder why i don't like the gay bars.
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:25 AM GMT
    realman77 saidthe last time i went i was offered cocaine twice. guys wonder why i don't like the gay bars.


    Man, you couldn't of said it better!

    My blood boils when I meet a decent looking guy, looks like he has his life together, only to find out he's doing 'bumps' in the bathroom icon_evil.gif

    I only did cocaine once and I hated it! Yet the gay bars tend to alienate you if you don't do party drugs. It's like, there's a full service bar, why do I need drugs?

    That's a good enough reason not to be involved in gay bars...And sadly most all guys I've met who frequent them are MAJOR cocaine addicts.

    I had a very cute guy with a banging bod was really into me, but he was so fixated on doing bumps, I told him twice I don't do that shit. Yet everytime he sees me he suggests a bump. Last time that happened, he got escorted out by security. So sad to see such a attractive guy waste away like that...
  • hdurdinr

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    Apr 09, 2011 7:27 AM GMT
    My first time to a gay bar was when I was 19 in Florence in Italy. I went on my own but I wasn't too nervous especially as the bar was sooo small! Italians are a chatty bunch so I didn't have much trouble talking to them except for trying to understand what they were saying over the music as my Italian wasn't so great back then. Went home with someone but then things got strange and funny with a giant 6ft something guy and a midget suddenly materializing out of nowhere and stripping off to join us in bed. I left a few seconds latericon_lol.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 09, 2011 7:30 AM GMT
    Yes, I remember every detail. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:33 AM GMT
    sdgman saidIt was yucky. Sort've a "leather" bar in San Diego in the early 90s... total dive, but the only gay bar I knew of.

    The back of the bar was so dark you couldn't see and there was all sorts of shit going on.

    The bartender looked like a biker out of a 70s movie and was missing 3 fingers on one hand. He followed me into the bathroom and offered me a blowjob.

    I went back lol


    Is that Pecs in the early 90's? It's totally mainstream now.
  • BLDGbloc

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    Apr 09, 2011 7:34 AM GMT
    Three words: Charlotte, North Carolina. I was a freshman in college and went to the only 18+ gay bar in the city (Velocity) with a girl. A very aggressive guy in his 30's put his hands down my pants on the dance floor. It was awkward.
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:30 AM GMT
    SCARY TO SAY THE LEAST..
    CAN YOU SAY NASHVILLE,TENNESSEE..THE HEART OF THE BIBLE BELT..
    I was scared shittless,had no idea what to expect,and what could happen in a den of sin..Yes brought up in a strict religion home.

    Once i was in,heard the music thumping from speakers the size of a panel van,i was hooked. i stayed the entire night,leaving at 5am..I danced my legs off,and by the time i rolled out of that bar/club i was half naked and laughing,and had a hand full of phone numbers...Yes that was before computers and pagers...lol..Even back then we had to rely on a phone call,and wait and bite our finger nails,in hopes of another gay man liked me,and wanted sex .

    So go ahead young guys..Get out there and enjoy your selves..Just be careful...Never leave your drink alone,or someone can slip a date drug in your drinks..

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    Apr 09, 2011 8:39 AM GMT
    I don't remember my first time, and maybe it's just me but it's not that big of a deal.
    It's just a bunch of homos getting drunk and dancing, the only difference between that and the straight bars I've been to is they might have a drag show or worse music.
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:47 AM GMT
    My first time, I went to see my friend who I fooled around with and had developed feelings for but was unavailable (coz I'm actually the 'mistress' lol) to tell him that I'm over him. We ended up as really good friends, and still are. No more drama.

    First time alone, I just came in for a drink or two. Sat there for an hour. It was still during daylight (5-6pm). I was scared before but I just sucked it up and went in. Wasn't that bad, but it was weird being alone, minding my own business and just people-watching
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    Apr 09, 2011 9:03 AM GMT
    I was 33 years old. (Yep!) I was nervous as hell and went on my own. But as soon as I sat down at the bar, the guys that were there were so friendly, I felt right at home. We are still friends today.