My gripe with going to clubs...

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    Apr 09, 2011 7:06 AM GMT
    So...I'm here in fabulous Las Salt Lake City icon_cool.gif and decided after a long week I'd check out 1 or 2 of the nightclubs in the area.

    Well, I must say that although I was itching to go, it almost turned out to be the low point of my trip. Although I was happy and flattered by the people and attention I was getting on the streets and in the bar, I really didn't have a good time.

    Then, I went to a 2nd bar and it was a 'mix' of straight and gay but all I seen was a bunch of guys chasing women icon_confused.gif After 2 drinks, I decided to head home.

    So needless to say, I wasted my time tonight. A Friday night at that.

    Here's my issue: I spent $20 on drinks tonight; as in spent $20 period. And yet I had no guarantee of a good time! I have an issue with that. In the real world, that can be refunded, store credited, or even used to make 20 tequila sunrises.

    Granted, I did go out by myself because I had no choice I don't know a soul here and which probably exasperated the disappointment ...but I am having a hard time justifying spending any kind of money on a place and not having a good time. It seems silly to spend $20 just to people watch and sit around with a drink. A good time doesn't mean sex because I didn't go for that tonight. But the music? Whack. And if the music is whack, then I can't dance to it and I'm just sitting around bored out of my mind.

    I think either I'm getting older or wiser but the bar/club scene just isn't interesting me going alone anymore! Or maybe because I'm 2,500 miles from where I began clubbing big time in Miami that it's so different I just can't adjust.

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    Apr 09, 2011 1:59 PM GMT
    brianindenver said... Or maybe because I'm 2,500 miles from where I began clubbing big time in Miami that it's so different I just can't adjust.
    In Miami ya tend to spend $20 on just one drink (well, $15 + tip).
    But yeah, you're almost always guaranteed a good time here. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 09, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    brianindenver said... Or maybe because I'm 2,500 miles from where I began clubbing big time in Miami that it's so different I just can't adjust.
    In Miami ya tend to spend $20 on just one drink (well, $15 + tip)....




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    Apr 09, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    Rule no. 1 about going out clubbing, don't try and plan "the best night ever!" because chances are that night won't be it.

    It happens when it happens and yes you do go out and spend a load of money and have crap nights, but that's life. Usually the best nights are those which happen by accident, i.e. you didn't plan it, you're wearing nothing special and it just evolves.
  • laguna07

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    Apr 09, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    It's like buying a lottery ticket...you don't always win...think maybe your expectations were a little high. Your biggest mistake was having that expectation in Salt Lake City (yuk!). If you're going to have high expectations it should be in places like Miami, NY, West Hollywood, etc.
  • mybud

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    Apr 09, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    You should never expect a good time....you should make that time good....BUD...zen bullshit...ha
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    Apr 09, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    There are good clubs, and bad clubs. Clubs that suit us personally, and clubs that don't. I've run into plenty of dud clubs, as well as awesome clubs. Forrest Gump's famous movie line could well be paraphrased to be: "Life is like a gay club -- you never know what you're gonna get."
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    Apr 09, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    I have the same issue with bars.

    It raises the question, why is it ok for women to go out to gay bars, get drunk, flirt with menfolk who have no interest in them, yet if I were to go to a straight bar and do it I might get punched in the face.

    Life.
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    Apr 09, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    Chainers saidI have the same issue with bars.

    It raises the question, why is it ok for women to go out to gay bars, get drunk, flirt with menfolk who have no interest in them, yet if I were to go to a straight bar and do it I might get punched in the face.

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  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 09, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    The OP should realize that he is in Salt Lake City, a very conservative city in a very conservative state. You wanting to have a wild time is going to be very limited. Probably the OP should seriously consider relocating to another city and state. Granted Salt Lake City is a very beautiful and very clean city but unfortunately because of the Mormons strictures, it is not much of a goodtime venue. The same goes for the rest of Utah.
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    Apr 09, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Many of you are too young to have experienced the heyday of nightclubs. There was a time before internet when nearly every night of the the week offered many choices of crowded clubs. I notice today when traveling that not even the larger cities with a well known gay club scene do not fill them like they used to, although it is hard for me to imagine Salt Lake City ever having had a very active gay club scene.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 09, 2011 5:23 PM GMT
    first of all you are never going to find anybody if you are always looking for someone. i have told you many many many many damn times that if you go out looking you will never find anyone. when you go out dude go out with the intentions of just have a good time. if you can't do that then you will never find anyone because no is going to want to talk to you when you are not happy, sexy and confident. from reading your post you are not giving off any of those
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    Apr 09, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    I recall my last nights in Salt Lake City, I went out on my own Starting with a Japerness restaurant, almost across from temple Square. I did that x3 at around $110.00 for my meal and drinks a night. Then off to a straight club, where I had a blast. I I was not out looking for a root either, just a good night out, and that was had.
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    Apr 09, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    Be glad it was just $20 cause I've had nights that I'd blow right through $300 and not have a good time. It's the risk you take when you go out.
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    Apr 09, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidfirst of all you are never going to find anybody if you are always looking for someone. i have told you many many many many damn times that if you go out looking you will never find anyone. when you go out dude go out with the intentions of just have a good time. if you can't do that then you will never find anyone because no is going to want to talk to you when you are not happy, sexy and confident. from reading your post you are not giving off any of those


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    Apr 09, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    I think it's wise of you to question habits. But I must say your expectations are a little too heavily influenced by consumerism.

    It is unreasonable to expect a good time guarantee for $20. A night out is hardly comparable to toothpaste.
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    ive had amazing times with less than $20, like many here have said, dont go expecting something, just go and make it your night ;), 100% good time guaranteed!
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    Go to a bar that is plays to the type of music that you like. When I go out I only go to bars that play 80's, 90's and current house music. Other wise it would be a waste of time.

    The onl time that I ever go to a mix bar is on the first and third sat here in Atlanta. The DJ is great. Every one is getting their life on the dance floor.


    I wil not go to a bar that does not have a dance floor that's a must!
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
    You look like a victim of your environment.

    If I'm going out to have fun, I have fun because I say I'm going to have fun. My fun has nothing to do the number of other people at the club, how much I spend, or if the right people flirt with me.

    brianindenver said
    Here's my issue: I spent $20 on drinks tonight; as in spent $20 period. And yet I had no guarantee of a good time! I have an issue with that. In the real world, that can be refunded, store credited, or even used to make 20 tequila sunrises.


    The money you spend is never a guarantee you'll have fun. I've never heard any place make that kind of promise.

    brianindenver said
    But the music? Whack. And if the music is whack, then I can't dance to it and I'm just sitting around bored out of my mind.


    Ok, I'm with you here. If you go to a club and don't like the music, there is a problem. You can usually hear the music before you get in the club, or for sure before you have to pay a cover. By that point, couldn't you evaluate if you like the music or not?
    Well, now you know to pay attention to the music in the club before you get inside, especially if you've never been there.

  • SF2PS

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    Apr 09, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    The problem is that it is Salt Lake City - sorry, but the clubs there just aren't the friendliest in my experience. The one place I've actually met people to talk to is called Jam (in the Marmalade) - Marmalade being the area in town.

    The friendliest spot in SLC I've found so far is the Coffee Garden at 9th & 9th.

    For the record, I end up in Park City every summer for three weeks with a group of (wait for it . . . ) mathematicians. I end up checking out SLC and the nightlife a few times every year. We have found some great micro-breweries, I like working out at the 24 hour fitness in Sugarhouse, and generally people are friendly - but gay nightlife I will wait until I get back to California.

    P.S. Anyone from SLC want to tell us about a fabulous spot we are missing?
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    Apr 09, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    SF2PS saidThe friendliest spot in SLC I've found so far is the Coffee Garden at 9th & 9th.


    Is caffeine legal in Utah?
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    Apr 09, 2011 9:07 PM GMT
    Ermine saidThe money you spend is never a guarantee you'll have fun. I've never heard any place make that kind of promise.


    Exactly what I was thinking. Seems safe to assume there was no 'money back guarantee' posted at the front door of wherever Mr OP went last night.
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    Apr 09, 2011 9:08 PM GMT
    Last I checked people don't go to Salt Lake City for the club scene.

    Come to think of it- I can't think of a reason to visit SLC.
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    Apr 09, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos saidLast I checked people don't go to Salt Lake City for the club scene.

    Come to think of it- I can't think of a reason to visit SLC.


    The snow. The great national parks.
    You fly in to SLC and get the hell out to have fun.

    Oh yeah, in a few months for some Pac-10 football games!
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    Apr 09, 2011 9:20 PM GMT
    Keep an eye out for some cool looking people, even a couple or some straight girls, I like to approach people at the bar while you're both waiting for drinks


    Hey I'm visiting from Denver

    *Insert random complement* I like SLC, the people are cool, This a really distinct bar, Your shirt looks cool, you guys are a cute couple, you look like your having a fun night

    Do you guys know where's good tonight? What do you guys do for fun down here? Where were you planning on moving on to after here? Can you recommend somewhere with better music?, not insulting *artist* but how many times can a DJ play that one song of hers, or I like *music genre*I'd really like to find something I can dance too...

    I think your projecting you own issues on to the bar scene, it really is just like any other social scene