Shrapnel wound/scar tissue - what to do?

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    Apr 10, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    I was not really sure what the appropriate forum was to put this in, so I went with this one. I have a small shrapnel wound which has finally scarred over and become just a scar at long last (after infection.) It is small, approximately 1.5mm x 2mm, but it is right under my eye and I am very very very shallow about how glaring of a flaw this is especially since its on my face visible to the world and I have been single for a long long time now - not taking into account of course that I could have lost my eye or my vision, but that is a different thing entirely. Let's keep this as shallow as we possibly can.

    What does a person do with a visible face scar - is there anything on the market to help, like a cream or hoodoo magic or eating beets or something I can buy on the black market like the still-beating heart of my enemy? Or do I just learn to live with this monstrosity on my face?

    Any thoughts, helpful/encouraging/mean, would be useful.
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    Apr 10, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
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    spaghettimonster saidI was not really sure what the appropriate forum was to put this in, so I went with this one. I have a small shrapnel wound which has finally scarred over and become just a scar at long last (after infection.) It is small, approximately 1.5mm x 2mm, but it is right under my eye and I am very very very shallow about how glaring of a flaw this is especially since its on my face visible to the world and I have been single for a long long time now - not taking into account of course that I could have lost my eye or my vision, but that is a different thing entirely. Let's keep this as shallow as we possibly can.

    What does a person do with a visible face scar - is there anything on the market to help, like a cream or hoodoo magic or eating beets or something I can buy on the black market like the still-beating heart of my enemy? Or do I just learn to live with this monstrosity on my face?

    Any thoughts, helpful/encouraging/mean, would be useful.

    icon_eek.gif Are you fracking kidding me?

    Scars are sexy. Gonna say that again: scars are friggin' sexy.

    Yours is tiny...barely visible, I bet. But what a conversation piece. And if I was your BF, everytime I looked at it, I would be turned on remembering you tell the tale (whatever the tale is) and knowing that noone else knew.

    People get tattoos, piercings, blah blah blah, all to look "unique" and individual. I personally LOVE the unique markings that life gives each of us. (I have a mark on my chest where I was caught with a 3" hook and a few others that mean something to me.)

    So I think scars are incredibly masculine. They speak (to me) of a life well lived; of risks taken (and obviously survived.) I really don't want a 14yo's alibaster perfect skin...it's dead and lifeless to me, like a manikin's. I want a man who has LIVED, who has been in life's trenches, faced challenges and surmounted them.

    Love that scar. Embellish the story and only tell it to guys you sleep with...they'll love it too.


    Wow I actually never thought of it that way before .... that was really neat and good for the self-esteem (and I now I have a fishing buddy if you ever pass through my neck of the woods and/or if I pass through yours I will now message you well in advance.)

    So I have to ask - is that the typical response from "the community?" Or like I had just assumed it just becomes an "Ewww Freddy Krueger!" moment at the bar/on the first date/in the office?

    I suppose I have been predisposed to think of alabaster perfect skin as the "perfection" but as my unfortunate lesson taught me, it is pretty hard to age in the world without at least one or two monkey wrenches thrown into the mix when you least expect it :/
  • MikemikeMike

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    Apr 10, 2011 10:06 AM GMT
    I bet it is just more noticable to you than to others.

    Scars are hot and it didn't disfigure you!!
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    Apr 10, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidWhat does a person do with a visible face scar -
    Become an alt model and get into scar fetish modeling.
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    Apr 10, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    You also say that you haven't had a day in very very long time. I'm assuming you are making a realationship between no dates and the scar?

    The scar isn't why you have no dates. It's your 29" waist. They're jealous. LOL

    I agree with the others that the scar would be sexy.. Keep it.... but, if you want, it can be removed most likely. A lot of people have scars removed.

    I think when you find the right man, he will treasure it as a part of you and you will be surprised how often he'll gently brush the back of his thumb across it when he's looking you in the eye. He will find it sexy and use it as a moment of tendernes...

    .... okay. enough of my sap. lol
  • Profire

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    Apr 10, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    I have some huge scares from a bike accident.
    I was hit by a car while cycling and have a 12 inch icon_eek.gif surgery scar and a scar on my shin where I left part of my body on her car.
    They are a badge of honor for me.

    Scars are what show you have lived. There is a story behind each scar and it is what makes you special.
    If I were you, I wouldn't change a thing!!!
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Apr 10, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    I'm with the gang on this, scars are actually very hot.

    That said, some scaring can make a guy self-conscious, and there are ways to reduce scarring.

    There's a pricey ($40 on average) little patch that is a silicone square that you can cut to shape that holds in place, is reusable and washable, and when worn all day or over-night, it slowly aids in reducing visibility. I've known people who used it religiously (every night or all day every day for months) on scars that were as old as four years, and made a permanent, considerable and noticeable difference, not just minor or temporary. The more you use it, the better the effect.

    It's called ScarFx (another one is called Epi-Derm) and most major retail drugstores carry one or the other. It's also available on Amazon, oddly.

    That said, if I was your boyfriend, I'd reach over in the night and peel it off, because the fetish is tempting and as you grow into it, likely to only get more so.icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 10, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    There is a Coenzyme q10 Serum that works well and reduces the visibility of scar. A slightly expensive product, but works well.
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    Apr 11, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    Mederma
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    Apr 11, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    There's a massage therapy technique called "skin rolling" that is great for scars.

    Basically, scar tissue is your body's defense mechanism where if an area's damaged, it will repair it with stronger cells over a larger area to help prevent further injury to the area. Since it's sturdier, it's also more rigid so it's broken up fairly easily.

    That being said, skin rolling is as it sounds...basically pinching the skin lightly with two fingers or your hands (depending on the area) and lightly rolling the skin. By doing this you begin to break up the scar tissue fibers and your body will naturally clear the cells away. It can clear up scars incredibly well if done on a regular basis.
  • mikeeugene

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    Apr 11, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    Don't worry about the scar. You got it legitimately. If it were me, my only worry would be that somebody might think I was some bored frat boy who was trying to get a scar because he thought it might look cool.

    Think about how hot all of the beat-up guys were in Fight Club.
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    Apr 11, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    It's part of who you are!

    Look, the other night some vapid little beeyotch told me my haircut made me look "dorky." He was upset when I didn't want to go home with him. I told him his mouth made him very unattractive.

    People who judge based on looks alone are way less attractive than anything that gives yer mug a bit of character.
  • conquer

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    Apr 11, 2011 5:18 AM GMT
    i have a 3 inch scar on my chin, and no one even notices it. after a while, it just becomes part of you. acceptance
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    Apr 11, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    wut. i cant believe you think that way. scars are fucking hot man. i wouldnt even wanna be with someone who didnt think so. yer fine. dont even worry. youd be wasting yer time with someone if they didnt accept you exactly the way you are.

    how did you catch shrapnel to the face?
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    Apr 11, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    Scars are hot. Scars with stories behind them, even hotter.
  • stee99

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    Apr 11, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    i have a fairly large scar on my forehead, got it in 1982 so its part of me now.
    have never had anyone react badly to it, people ask about it sometimes so its kinda a conversation thing too..
    in reality you notice it more because you think about it and you know its there.
  • alphatop

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    Apr 11, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidI bet it is just more noticable to you than to others.

    Scars are hot and it didn't disfigure you!!


    +1.
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    Apr 11, 2011 10:34 PM GMT
    Cocoa Butter peeps.
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    Apr 11, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    Don_Guerrilla_de_Sodom saidScars are hot. Scars with stories behind them, even hotter.


    +1 Couldn't put it better myself!
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    Apr 11, 2011 11:26 PM GMT
    What if the scar is on your wrist? is that still a hot scar.. ?
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    Apr 12, 2011 6:50 AM GMT
    Sylas saidCocoa Butter peeps.


    +1 And Shea Butter too!

    There are so many great Natural Herbal Holistic Remedies that can rapidly heal scars if you utilize them early enough such as: Aloe Vera gel, Rosemary essential oil, Lavender oil, Tea tree oil, Olive oil, Almond oil, and Honnneyyy etc
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    Apr 12, 2011 6:53 AM GMT
    Sylas saidWhat if the scar is on your wrist? is that still a hot scar.. ?


    Yes! icon_cool.gif Did you get in a fight with a Bear? icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 12, 2011 7:02 AM GMT
    Sylas saidWhat if the scar is on your wrist? is that still a hot scar.. ?


    Hey man, don't be knocking wrist scars. I have a huge one 2" long. I get told it's sexy all the time.
  • stee99

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    Apr 12, 2011 8:23 AM GMT
    Sylas saidWhat if the scar is on your wrist? is that still a hot scar.. ?


    as long as its not from being a silly little emo.. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 12, 2011 12:50 PM GMT
    Naw its from being crazy for about a period of 6 years, in and out of psych hospitals and arrested twice.