Dating in the closet?

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    Apr 10, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    Indian guy here. I don't want NSA hookups but looking for something more serious. How do I find a guy to date when I am closeted? I don't want to date someone that is out because that's just unfair to him and will probably not work out in the long run.

    I signed up on a4a and posted on CL and I can't be seen in gay clubs. Any other ideas? Please don't say come out of the closet!
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    Apr 10, 2011 9:00 PM GMT
    Those are primarily hookup sites, but they tend to be the best option for guys in the closet.
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    Apr 10, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    It's challenging enough to find a guy in general to date seriously... but you will have an additional challenge on top of that and this is to find a guy who is closeted as well.

    You don't have to be seen in gay clubs. All the guys I've dated were from the internet so you can keep searching there since my guess is most closeted guys won't want to be seen in gay clubs anyhow.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 10, 2011 10:57 PM GMT
    dude, its already hard enough to find a descent. now you are asking for someone to not be out like you that is even harder to find. i am sure he is out there, i just think you will have to be extra patient. also there guys who are out who are willing to be with you even though you are not out. i met quite a few of them
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    Apr 11, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    Thanks for the responses guys!
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    Apr 11, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    Parks with overgrown bushes, rest stops, bike trails, shopping mall restrooms, 7-11, Homo Depot . . . the possibilities are endless. icon_rolleyes.gif