How would you react/feel if your best "friend" did this?

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    Apr 10, 2011 7:09 PM GMT

    We were out clubbing, an this gay guy who has been trying to meet up with me kept following us from bar to bar, but i kept avoiding him (pretending i didn't notice him) and i pointed him out to my friends and told her he likes me but i'm not into him atall, so what does she go an do? Goes upto him without me knowing an tells him i'm really into him an that he should go an dance with me :O So he comes upto me an just stands infront of me waiting for me to dance with him (he looked really serious/nervous) an i was stood there wondering what the hell... an it was really awkward! Thats when my friend told me what she'd done, then she went off outside with her girlfriend an i was left on my own while he was there waiting with his friend, i mean what was i supposed to do? i couldn't just say ...look i'm not interested cause i could tell it would have hurt his feelings an i dont like telling people straight. So i just went outside an asked her what she did it an she just ignored me laughing icon_mad.gif so i called it a night! I was really pissed off lol i probably was drunk an took the whole thing to seriously but i dint find what she did funny :/
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    Apr 10, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    Well for one thing, what she did was pretty stupid (maybe it was the alcohol talking??)

    Second....You should have just told the guy straight up. Stop pussy footing around. If you were not interested in him, then say so. Even if he' hurt, I'm sure he will get over it...
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    Apr 10, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    It means she was tired of your drama and decided to do something about it since you didn't. If you knew the guy liked you, you could have just ignored things and maybe he'd lose interest. You didn't do that. You kept looking over at him and talking to your friend about him. From his point of view this could mean that you like him too but you're shy. You really didn't ignore him at all.

    Just because you spend a lot of time with someone, that doesn't make her your best friend. She put you in an uncomfortable situation and laughed at you. Do you still think that's the behavior of a best friend?
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    Apr 10, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    I had a buddy who used to do that shit. He would find the exact opposite of my "type" and tell him I was into him but too shy to go up to him. Next thing the dude would come flouncing up to me to tell me he's all in to me too..

    GAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH... bastard!
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    Apr 10, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    Fivealive said
    Second....You should have just told the guy straight up. Stop pussy footing around. If you were not interested in him, then say so. Even if he' hurt, I'm sure he will get over it...


    Yeah. Get it over with. Saves both of you the trouble of further complications.
  • needleninja

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    Apr 10, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    i would have asked: "can i help you?" and then tell him straight up that i dont have those kinds of feelings, and then tell my friend that the guy who went up to me got turned down by me.
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    Apr 10, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    Now if it had been the other way around, and you were shy and into him but couldnt approach.. and she went up to him and he came over... I'd HUG her!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 10, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    first of all your friend is ass. i think you should have maned up and just told the guy you are not into him. i am sure he more like a ass standing there looking stupid not sure what was going on. therefore, i do not blame your friend. i blame you for not just telling the guy how you felt
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    Apr 10, 2011 11:17 PM GMT
    sdgman saidI had a buddy who used to do that shit. He would find the exact opposite of my "type" and tell him I was into him but too shy to go up to him. Next thing the dude would come flouncing up to me to tell me he's all in to me too..

    GAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH... bastard!


    Haha, I have to say it is rather funny... i wouldnt do it to someone, but if someone did it to me I would laugh
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    Apr 10, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    Pato_Rico said
    sdgman saidI had a buddy who used to do that shit. He would find the exact opposite of my "type" and tell him I was into him but too shy to go up to him. Next thing the dude would come flouncing up to me to tell me he's all in to me too..

    GAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH... bastard!


    Haha, I have to say it is rather funny... i wouldnt do it to someone, but if someone did it to me I would laugh


    LOL.. it was funny, I can laugh at shit like that. I do hate hurting peoples feelings though.
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    Apr 10, 2011 11:26 PM GMT
    Cut a bitch.
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    Apr 10, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    Slap a hoe
  • laguna07

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    Apr 10, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    I totally agree with MuchMoreThanMuscle...this girl is a fucked up! I don't think you did anything wrong...i probably wouldn't have told the guy either to spare his feelings. Why would you want a friend like this that is a cruel, mean-spirited person. GET RID OF THAT BITCH! SHAME ON YOU IF YOU DON'T!!


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    Apr 11, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]MuchMoreThanMuscle said[/cite]People think this is funny and are not considering the feelings of the person who was duped into thinking/believing that the person they are interested in is somehow willing to reciprocate. I think that is a cruel joke to lead someone on like that. They think they are being funny with their supposed "friend" by dragging someone into this sort of bullshit with no regard for the stranger's feelings.

    When people realize that they were the butt of some stupid inside prank how do you think this person feels?

    To the OP, your female friend is borderline fucking trash. Humiliating another person at their expense to get a laugh between you and your friends is not funny at all.


    Borderline... . Imo - Shhyeaaa that's putting it mildly... .

    To the OP, if this isn't a red-flag, or a wake-up call to some extent, perhaps I don't know what is. icon_exclaim.gificon_question.gificon_exclaim.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_idea.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    If you have any guilt or cumbersome thoughts', or now that you're not as loaded from the night-before and you can be in reflection more lucidly germane to what took place, maybe your fate is nudging you a little-to get you to see how people really are, and how easily others' put a stamp of value or worth to those who - 'behind the scenes' truly don't even give a micro fuck about you or others'. icon_idea.gificon_exclaim.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_question.gif

    Time to clear the 'ole Deck, I'd say icon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_idea.gificon_wink.gif