lousy lay

  • chameleon

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    Apr 11, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    what do you say to a lousy lay when they say "we should hookup again sometime" without being rude?

    i want to be nice about it because maybe they are a nice person, but the energy just wasnt there for me.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 11, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    Details would be necessary before I could form a hypothesis...however, I am sure many guys online here could be of much more help than I. I have never had any regrets nor had any complaints concerning my expertise. pirate_2.gif
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    Apr 11, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Step One: Post this thread to the Sex & Adult section instead of the All Things Gay section

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    Apr 11, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    Tell them it wasn't as exciting and satisfying as you anticipated.

    I usually say exactly this,
    "My physical needs are not being met here."
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    Apr 11, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    Your lousy lay could be someone else's "life-changing sex".

    How about a white lie?
    "I'm sorry, but my boyfriend and I have a 'no repeats' policy"
    "I never do anyone twice"
    "I'm sorry but I'm not looking for a relationship"
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    Apr 11, 2011 10:30 PM GMT
    "I've fallen in love with my FleshJack!"
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    Apr 12, 2011 8:47 AM GMT
    why don't you step it up, be a man, and tell him how you feel . . that way there are no secrets or hiding anything, and if he gets upset, at least he can take what you said and construct it into something positive . . .
    if he doesn't want to change or takes it the wrong way, then at least you know you told him how you felt and you were honest . .
    i really wouldn't know man honestly as i wouldn't leave my soul-mate for something so trivial, and if this is just a "hook-up" as you say then there you go that is why i don't understand it anyway, good men don't hook-up . . grow up man . .