This is a really interesting topic

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    Apr 11, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    Hmmmmm
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    Apr 11, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    Most likely, if you are giving them the sex they just want in the first place, they're not looking at you as more than a sexual object.
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    Apr 11, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    somethingwitty saidHow long should I wait, it's not like I'm messing around with them the first time we meet. Most of the time we've been talking for a few weeks.

    Well, it's different from person to person. If I make out with a guy on the first date, I usually feel pretty meh about them afterward.

    Some guys fuck on the first date and bam, together for a while.

    I think you need to dig deeper and find someone who is more genuine. So try to stay away from most physical affection at first. I can't offer you any more advice than that since I'm a dating noobie too. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 11, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    somethingwitty saidHow long should I wait, it's not like I'm messing around with them the first time we meet. Most of the time we've been talking for a few weeks.


    You need to change your mentality... not the time period.

    Like Trevor emphasized... if all you want is sex and all you advocate for is sex then no matter how many weeks you wait, you will always be just a booty call to them.

    You need to stop "messing around" the first time you meet up with them and take it slowly and go out to the movies with maybe a peck on the cheek first.

    Then they will find you are in it for more than just sex and won't see you as a "oh he is not on my priority list" type of guy.
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    Apr 11, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    somethingwitty said
    Thanks for the advice. It'd be a lot easier if I could read their minds.

    Life would be easier if we could read other peoples minds. You just need to slow your role and take it at a hindered pace.
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    Apr 11, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    somethingwitty said
    TrevorMark said

    Life would be easier if we could read other peoples minds. You just need to slow your role and take it at a hindered pace.

    Your right; sounds like the guy you're with is pretty lucky. It's hard to vent to anyone since I'm not out. I was feeling pretty alone and helpless today. Thank you for responding. I was just starting to feel copletely isolated. It really meant a lot man.

    I'm kind of divorced almost.
    I'm not with a guy who is so in love with me because he lacked physical intimacy and it kills me knowing I found someone who loved me for me, but wasn't fulfilling my needs and wants.

    Love is tricky. No one ever tells you that as a child.

    So un-complicate yourself and look for what you want in a person, not just by what they tell you. I wasn't out till I found the now ex. Sometimes it just comes wandering to you. Hold faith.
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    somethingwitty saidI'm not out, and I consider myself bi. I keep meeting these guys and we end up messing around, but they won't answer texts or calls unless they are drunk or horny. They say they want more than just sex, but it doesn't seem that way. Does this happen to every guy?

    I just met another guy and we messed around, but he's already being flaky. Do I just come on too strong? I feel like I've just been walked all over.


    How about just saying no?
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
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    somethingwitty saidI'm not out, and I consider myself bi. I keep meeting these guys and we end up messing around, but they won't answer texts or calls unless they are drunk or horny. They say they want more than just sex, but it doesn't seem that way. Does this happen to every guy?

    I just met another guy and we messed around, but he's already being flaky. Do I just come on too strong? I feel like I've just been walked all over.


    How about just saying no?


    If you hook up on your first meeting that usually sets the tone that it's mostly just a sexual relationship and nothing more. I'd say first talk to them, get to know them, explain what you are looking for (aka more than sex) and then don't hook up for awhile...actually go on dates and just hang out.
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    Well, yeah, you're bi.

    I would not want to date a bi guy. They are just too up in the air about it all. I would tell them I want a relationship, hit it and then run. PEACE! SUCKA!
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    somethingwitty saidHow long should I wait, it's not like I'm messing around with them the first time we meet. Most of the time we've been talking for a few weeks.


    Wait until he is resentful.
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidWell, yeah, you're bi.

    I would not want to date a bi guy. They are just too up in the air about it all. I would tell them I want a relationship, hit it and then run. PEACE! SUCKA!


    LOL... to the OP, I'd say if you want a relationship with a guy, I'd kind of look at it that you are probably more gay than bi. Like I said, make your intentions clear from the beginning with the guys you meet.
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    somethingwitty saidI'm not out, and I consider myself bi. I keep meeting these guys and we end up messing around, but they won't answer texts or calls unless they are drunk or horny. They say they want more than just sex, but it doesn't seem that way. Does this happen to every guy?

    I just met another guy and we messed around, but he's already being flaky. Do I just come on too strong? I feel like I've just been walked all over.
    Re-read your first line. I bolded it for you to make it easier.
    Now, stop lying to yourself and they'll stop lying to you.
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
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    AvadaKedavra saidWell, yeah, you're bi.

    I would not want to date a bi guy. They are just too up in the air about it all. I would tell them I want a relationship, hit it and then run. PEACE! SUCKA!


    LOL... to the OP, I'd say if you want a relationship with a guy, I'd kind of look at it that you are probably more gay than bi.


    Possibly, although from my years of experiences with talking with Bi people, both men and women, they fall for the person, as gender is less important than those of us that are gay or straight.

    -Doug

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    Apr 12, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    as one of my friends likes to say, "who's going to buy the cow, if they can get the milk for free?"
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    Apr 12, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    When you say "usually we talk for a few weeks," do you mean online or in person? There is a huge difference. If you just talked online, that is not a date or an activity together.
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    MNandWI said
    AvadaKedavra saidWell, yeah, you're bi.

    I would not want to date a bi guy. They are just too up in the air about it all. I would tell them I want a relationship, hit it and then run. PEACE! SUCKA!


    LOL... to the OP, I'd say if you want a relationship with a guy, I'd kind of look at it that you are probably more gay than bi.


    Possibly, although from my years of experiences with talking with Bi people, both men and women, they fall for the person, as gender is less important than those of us that are gay or straight.

    -Doug



    Yeah but he is a closeted bi 21 year old. I imagine the following conversation after 12 months of dating.

    Me: Hi baby
    Him: Hi...
    Me: Its been a year since we've met. happy anniversary.
    Him: yeah....... happy anniversary. *cough* umm.
    Me: What's going wrong?
    Him: Well... I've been thinking.
    Me: About?
    Him: I think I want a wife and kids. My parents want that for me too.
    Me: ew, bitch. imma cut your balls off. put'em here.
    Him: *screams like a girl and runs*
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    and yes, i am bored.
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidand yes, i am bored.


    then you should go vote for ariodante, or suffer the consequences.
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    as the others have said, the whole "bi" thing is a major obstacle. maybe not for you, and if you're happy in your own skin, then good for you. but as a gay man, I'm happy to 'mess around' with a bi-boy, but that's where it ends.

    I'm NOT interested in falling for someone who, at any time, may leave me for a chick; that shit crushes your soul.

    find a nice bi-boy, or come to realise you're a 100% raging queer and join in the fun times icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    Dude you're on RJ. I don't buy the "bi" card if you're on sites like these. Very few gay guys will tolerate a bi closet case lol. Join the club mr! It's easier on this side ;-)
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    Just be sure to use a condom while you're finding out which guys are looking for relationships and which one's aren't. DO NOT bareback man, no matter how f'ng hot it might seem or how trustworthy he seems. I've had so many "buds" get burned and catch a gift they didn't want.
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    Apr 13, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    dating a bi guy is difficult, especially when they deny it just so it doesn't make you uncomfortable. i would never ever date a bi guy again.
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    Apr 13, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said

    Yeah but he is a closeted bi 21 year old. I imagine the following conversation after 12 months of dating.

    Me: Hi baby
    Him: Hi...
    Me: Its been a year since we've met. happy anniversary.
    Him: yeah....... happy anniversary. *cough* umm.
    Me: What's going wrong?
    Him: Well... I've been thinking.
    Me: About?
    Him: I think I want a wife and kids. My parents want that for me too.
    Me: ew, bitch. imma cut your balls off. put'em here.
    Him: *screams like a girl and runs*




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    Apr 13, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    perhaps not being "out" and the guys you choose is your problem?

    it's ok to appear "str8" and still be out - seems like a dying breed though

    not many r guna consider a "bi" person the relationship type I may be just assuming but I think that's what most guys r guna assume

    In my experiences most bi men r to have not to hold
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    Apr 13, 2011 4:28 AM GMT
    LCM1969 saidas one of my friends likes to say, "who's going to buy the cow, if they can get the milk for free?"


    That's why sex sells...

    yet, people discriminate against sex workers and people who sell sex. Yet it's perfectly fine to give it away for free and feel 'used'.

    This world...