Who was the first person you told that you was gay..

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    Apr 11, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    How did you choose who you told first.. i really want to tell at least 1 person i no... its so hard to keep a secret like this and im just stressing... feeling so lonely because no one really knows that part of me ...
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    Apr 12, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    Well it wasn't by my choosing really. My best friend since 7th grade is a girl and one night during the summer between graduating high school and starting college we decided to hike up a small mountain around here that has a great view of Atlanta and everything. Well when we were up there she came out to me. Then for 10 minutes I didn't listen to what she was saying and just tried to muster up the courage to tell her and I finally told her I was gay.


    It feels a million times better when people around you know. I pretty much only told her girlfriends and what not until the past 6 months. Since then I started my mass coming out process and I am close to being out to everyone. Its great to be able to hang out with people and be able to talk about it like its nothing (because that is how it should be) and not pretend like you are into chicks.
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    Apr 12, 2011 12:41 AM GMT
    I dont know if i wanted to tell my mom first... It just sort of happend... My mom was talking to me about girls and why i dont have one and all that crap. So i just got so frustrated i told her... I just couldn't hold it in anymore... At first she didn't believe me and said that i should try having sex with a women and she offered to get me a prostitute... It was funny. I have been so happy ever since. The way u think is usually 1000000x worse than reality.... So just come out u will feel so much better... Good luck
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    Apr 12, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
    I told quite a few people I was Bi first.
    I told my potential partner I was gay first.
    Then my closest friends.
    Then my parents.
    Then my next circle of friends.


    It was a pretty easy choice since I had been so down for so long.
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    Apr 12, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    Some hot dude in high school, AFTER we jacked off together. icon_cool.gif
  • Stormtrooper

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    Apr 12, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    The first person to whom I told I was gay, was the first person I loved, and the first person I need to forget about...
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    Apr 12, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    It was a hard decision. The first person I told by choice was my oldest sister. I chose her because she was "safe" to me, and I could no longer live unauthentically. The other people who helped me come to that first conscious decision were people who outed me. i.e. my best friend (I am glad that he did it.)icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 12, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    Was gay? ... Am I not gay anymore?
  • mizu5

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    Apr 12, 2011 1:01 AM GMT
    I was in grade 7. PEople still used ICQ ahaha. or Maybe mn. Either way I told a neighbor 2 horuses down,she wa sin grade 9. One of ym odlest friends. told her to meet me outside.

    when is aid it, and I will enver forget this, she said

    oomg thats great, when you suck dick, Humm, it feels better. LOL
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    Apr 12, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    I first told an online gay friend (1996). He was horrified, thought I was having a mid-life crisis related to my marriage breaking up. And fearful he'd get blamed for having "recruited" me with our previous online chats about gay life, the first gay guy I ever knew.

    And he said I was too "straight acting" to be gay, former Army Colonel, motorcyclist, all that crap. And I said wait a minute, it was YOU who told me gays can be butch, as you are, ranging from police, firefighters, truck drivers, football players, and even Army soldiers. It was that revelation that made me realize I was gay myself. So don't pull the rug out from under me now!

    And can you explain my collection of Playgirl magazines from the 1970s? All my International Male catalogs from that same time, and lots of gay erotic art? If I'm having a mid-life crisis, it started in my 20s. He e-mailed back to me: "Ooops!" That ended that.

    But he was still concerned I was coming out too fast, and might have "relapses" and remorse and depression. A fair worry, but it never happened.

    He became my gay mentor, my escort for the Seattle gay scene when I finally met him in person, and a better tutor a guy coming out never had. I'm so lucky to have met him online, to have told him I was gay, and let him be my trainer. Sometimes I really do get that fortunate. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 12, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    the rents. at 14!!
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    The very first person I ever told was my best friend at the time. She told me she had known all along. She also told me that she didn't approve of my "lifestyle choice" and that the Bible is against it. I ended that friendship soon after that. The funny thing is, she used to be a tolerant person, then she started going to church and it all went down hill from there.

    The reason I chose to tell her first is because I thought she was the one person who I thought would not judge me. I trusted her and it kind of backfired in my face. The good thing is, ever since her, every person that I have told has been completely accepting of me.

    Like some of the other guys have said, in our minds we make it out to be 100 times worse than it actually is. Just breathe, and take your time.
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    Apr 12, 2011 3:18 AM GMT

    HA!! That's an easy one...the first guy who sucked my dick!!!
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    Apr 12, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    Well I told Angela Liston in the 3rd grade I was going to have a sex change. icon_eek.gif

    The first people I came out to were my lesbian roommates in California. The first family member I came out to was my brother Josh.
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    Apr 12, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    A therapist on the phone and I was in tears. The hardest thing I've ever done in my life...oh and I was 50 yrs old and in my office at work! icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 12, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    my roomate when we were at a bar, he just kept bugging me to go hit on girls with him, i said dude, i dont like girls... he was dumbfounded at first, then was like, cool, lets go hit on the girls, then we'll go hit on your guys, were not goin home alone icon_smile.gif

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    Apr 12, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    I told the one person that I knew would support me whether or not he agreed with it, my (straight) best friend. It was very simple too. Him and I always have our "man" night where we smoke cigars and chill and really just talk about life and catch up once a week. I had been talking to my, now, boyfriend for about a month before I told the bestie, and I knew it was about time that he know what I was going through..

    Cause you're right.. they are missing out on a big part of your life...

    So one of those "man nights", we were on the back porch and I just started talking about my life and everything that I had learned.... The conversation got deeper and deeper and then I started tell him that I had never really had a girlfriend which led to my attraction to men, which led to where I was with Josh, my boyfriend.

    Exepecting to get loaded with questions, the bestie started tearing up and told me that he was so honored and felt respected that I told him and we have had even better of a friendship.

    So jump off the deep end and try to relax.. Ever since I came out I have had more of my friends support me than against me.

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    Apr 12, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    ^^^Gosh I love that story!!
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    Apr 12, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    This will sound kind of cheesy, but I used to be very religious and the first person I told was God. When I didn't get struck down by lightning, I took it as a good sign.
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    Apr 12, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    My best friend since we were 11. She was really supportive and couldn't believe that I had kept it to myself for so long and was suicidal for a while. It was a big relief and we were closer than ever.





















    She stopped talking to me and deleted me on Facebook couple months ago.
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    Apr 12, 2011 6:12 AM GMT
    I told the priest at my church after he touched inappropriately behind the altar.
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    Apr 12, 2011 7:23 AM GMT
    well it really wasn't up to me. i was 15 when my parents came upstairs and found me in bed naked with another boy, then called the cops.so me coming out was a moot point.
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    Apr 12, 2011 7:50 AM GMT
    My mom's friend's party at her basement. I was sitting next to my cousin texting some guy. Then I tun around and tell him... Hey, I have something to tell you. He says what. I say...I like guys. He says. Oh... I say yeh...he says cool. The end.
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    Apr 12, 2011 8:02 AM GMT
    I was at a Club Med resort in the Turks and Caicos Islands, playing beer pong with my roommate and this couple who were on vacation as well. The woman pulled me aside between games and asked me if I liked boys . I was shocked and said "No.. I don't like.... Ahh fuck it! Actually I do" . It was wonderful to say, and I thought that it didn't matter if I told her because I met her on an Island 3500 miles from home and would never see her again! It was our little secret the rest of the trip! icon_razz.gif
  • stee99

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    Apr 12, 2011 8:12 AM GMT
    i got sprung by my mum in the shower with the dude i realised i was gay with.
    school holidays, he was the younger brother of a mate staying with him from a small country town... we holed up at my mates place for a few days and my parents came to grips with it between themselves..