relationship issues

  • joselitoo

    Posts: 41

    Apr 14, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    okay...

    i know i'm publiciting something really private but this is the only way to get advices of ppl who might have been in the same situation even if not you are
    the only ones who could ubderstand this bcoz of the whole gay stuff ...

    since 2 weeks i'm kinda depressed bcoz there are things in my relationship which bothers me a lot i cant find a rational way to solve them

    i feel kinda deserted bcoz of my BF....

    i dont know why but his behavior against me changed...
    when i call him he often just dont pick up the phone,
    he stays at home and when i ask him to go out with me he says no, but when his friends calls him he goes with them

    he doesnt call me anymore by his own

    he gets often angry on me and says words which hurts me a lot
    but most of the time i just dont say anything

    he often lies to me bcoz of the smallest and most rediculous things

    when we are with other friends he dont talk most of the time with me
    and only comes when he needs a cigarette or money

    we didnt have real sex about 2 weeks and he only kiss me when we meet or when i got to go


    so i want to talk with him about these things but i sont know how to start the conversation bcoz i am not good in that to talk about my feelings and i'm afraid if he says i dont care or such things

    can u please help me? i dont want to loose him he is the only person who makes me happy but the bad side is he also the only one who can break me heart... icon_sad.gif
    its like a curse


    gracias
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    Apr 14, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    awww sorry man, maybe you should just let him go? thats what i would do...
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    Apr 14, 2011 5:27 AM GMT


    joselitoo, imagine a great guy that loves you.

    Now , is this guy you're having problems with the same kind of guy that you feel is the best kind of guy?

    ..another way to look at this is,

    Would you love someone the same way that this guy is treating you? I'll bet you'd be a lot nicer. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
  • tomchadwin

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    Apr 14, 2011 7:29 AM GMT
    you are still young and don't yet understand the complex dynamics of relationship.

    If you trust me on this, the best advice I can give to you is this:

    Love yourself. What you need to do now is to be happy without him. I am not tell you to break up with you bf. But you need to do whatever it takes to be happy without him, which could mean spending more time with you friends and family, catch up on your hobbies, take a class, learn new things/sports/instrument/language, travel, cook...whatever that it is you love to do.

    Don't call your boyfriend unless he calls you first. If he is rude/mean/ignore you, you have to STAND UP for yourself in a dignified way. You must respect yourself. And as I said, the best way to do this is to be happy on your OWN.
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    Apr 14, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    tomchadwin saidyou are still young and don't yet understand the complex dynamics of relationship.



    Who would listen to you after you say something like that? It's kind of patronizing of you to tell someone they don't understand the *shaky hands* hi-flootin' com-plex dynamics of a relationship. As if all of us have it figured out.

    To the OP, I agree with these guys, but trust your inner wisdom, too. You have a sense of what you want in a relationship, trust that sense.