The Perfect Guy

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    Apr 14, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    this is a typical example



    funny, smart, chill, conversational, good-looking...

    it sounds like every description ive heard everyone use when talking about mr perfect... so who is this elusive mr perfect we all describe? he sounds like some ideal idol.... and if not, most of us are like that anyway... so why is everyone looking for what we are

    (philosophical mood again yo)
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    Apr 14, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    I don't have an ideal Mr. Perfect.

    I know it's strange... but perfection turns me off. Makes me feel like lesser of a person. I want a guy with a quirk or two. Sometimes a bit eccentric.

    I've noticed when I go out on dates people are far too stiff around each other... but not me. Being who you really are impresses me over all else because even if we don't like each other, we can still be friends past the date as long as we're honest with each other.

    Meh. I'm just rambling. Carry on philosopher!
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    Apr 14, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    He needs to have a job that is advantageous to me
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    Apr 14, 2011 5:45 AM GMT
    My idea of the perfect guy is a big muscular gay macho ripped jock dude with big muscles and stuff and meets all my personal sexual needs when I'm home alone and horny on a Saturday night with no money to go clubbing, so I don't waste time posting stupid questions on the internet that could easily be answered with a 2 second google search.

    *extra points to whomever gets the reference* icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 14, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    cold said Zander spends most of the date asking questions about your life.


    This is where you went wrong. You were the one supposed to be asking him the questions



    By the way, you're going to the prom with a geek :/

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    Apr 14, 2011 7:47 AM GMT
    Pato_Rico saidthis is a typical example



    funny, smart, chill, conversational, good-looking...

    it sounds like every description ive heard everyone use when talking about mr perfect... so who is this elusive mr perfect we all describe? he sounds like some ideal idol.... and if not, most of us are like that anyway... so why is everyone looking for what we are

    (philosophical mood again yo)


    His shy smile is soo freaking cute!
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    Apr 14, 2011 12:10 PM GMT
    My first thought was "....has blond hair and a tan."


    but nobody will get the reference icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 14, 2011 12:33 PM GMT
    Love isn't like it is in fairy tales.

    Nobody is perfect... and one who is perfect for someone, probably isn't perfect for someone else.

    The hopeless, lonely, romanticism here on RJ is so lame sometimes, you see this kind of stuff so much. We should start more confidence 101, and healthy relationship threads... shit.
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    Apr 14, 2011 12:34 PM GMT
    mr perfect is typically too nice and will get manipulated by someone and then eventually become jaded.
  • alphatop

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    Apr 14, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
    Nobody's perfect, therefore there is no Mr. Perfect. But, guy with a couple of flaws and quirks could be the One...
  • Nayro

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    Apr 14, 2011 12:39 PM GMT
    stop looking! I'm right here!

    oh... not? well then he just doesn't exist! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 14, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    kdsbil saidMy first thought was "....has blond hair and a tan."


    but nobody will get the reference icon_sad.gif

    What gay man would miss that reference?


    You'd be surprised lol
  • joarky123

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    Apr 14, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    kdsbil saidMy first thought was "....has blond hair and a tan."


    but nobody will get the reference icon_sad.gif


    i missed it.... ???
  • rnch

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    Apr 14, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    quoting my father: "the only truly perfect man that ever walked the face of this earth got nailed to a cross."

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    human perfection, or even anything near to it, can be tiresome in the long run.

    i'm quite happy with my somewhat flawed bf.


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    Apr 14, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    I have some general guidelines but I've stopped thinking about the perfect guy since I left high school. I'd eventually shake this mythical man and ask what's his angle since he'd get bored being with someone that isn't perfect like him.

    Besides there might be a combination of looks and traits that you'd never have found attractive if you only looked for this perfection. Although if this mythical man came with a baby unicorn I keep him around for a while.
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    Apr 14, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    "perfect" is an ideal. a fantasy. to quote "settling down is settling for". there is not really "the one" as a singular. on earth, there are x number of people who could be "the one", and timing and chance put one in front of you and you make the effort or not.

    asking people about themselves tells you want they think they want. watching them shows you what they actually want.

    also, people say they want XYZ, but in fact, XYZ would get picked up apart, because people who are seeking perfection are often just avoiding intimacy by creating an infinite number of artificial red flags.

    "the bus marked perfection never comes"
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    Apr 14, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    joarky123 said
    kdsbil saidMy first thought was "....has blond hair and a tan."


    but nobody will get the reference icon_sad.gif


    i missed it.... ???


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    Apr 14, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    AntoNomad saidNobody's perfect, therefore there is no Mr. Perfect.


    I checked the White Pages for Los Angeles and there are 3 Mr. Perfects listed: Justin Perfect, Mark Perfect, and Walter Perfect. I've left messages for all of them letting them know I've been searching for Mr. Perfect all my life and could he possibly be the one I've been searching for.

    Funny, I haven't received a single call back icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 14, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    Pato_Rico saidthis is a typical example



    funny, smart, chill, conversational, good-looking...

    it sounds like every description ive heard everyone use when talking about mr perfect... so who is this elusive mr perfect we all describe? he sounds like some ideal idol.... and if not, most of us are like that anyway... so why is everyone looking for what we are

    (philosophical mood again yo)



    Bwahahahahaha

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    Apr 14, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    Some people may find it naive but I really think that any relationship can be a great one as long as you have the work ethic. I'm sure I've met a few guys in my life that would be considered "perfect" to some extent. But I was probably dating someone else at the time and therefore nothing happened.
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    Apr 14, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    My iPhone sux I can't watch a single YouTube video posted on here >: (
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    Apr 14, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    Gonna go ahead and bring everyone down to earth here with my cut-and-dry sense, somewhat grounding effect. "The Perfect Guy" really? This is based off a few self-produced, self-interview YouTube posts? Wow, that's fascinating. Just a thought, I'm pretty sure he isn't being 100% accurate or "real". Cute faces and adorable attitude and "my flaws and weaknesses are so sweet" shit isn't being real. It's like a job interview; of course no one says "i enjoy long lunches and being punctual isn't my strong point." Come on people, perfect? Gaaaaaahhh-damn
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    Apr 14, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    The search for Mr. Perfect most likely causes one to overlook Mr. Less Than Perfect who might be nonetheless perfect for you.

    Standards are a starting point- compromise completes the race.
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    Apr 14, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    I thought that video was pretty cute. It actually made me smile. Any guy is perfect in the eyes of the one who can overcome imperfections of another. At least that's how I see it.
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    Apr 14, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    cold saidI think they are generic descriptors that most people use to find someone even though, like you said, they describe the vast majority of people. However, these things are so broad and subjective.

    For example: you and I might have a date with Xavier. Xavier talks about his amazing adventures for most of the night. You are regaled by his stories and find him very charismatic. I, on the other hand, find Xavier self centred and boring. The next night you and I have a date with Zander. Zander spends most of the date asking questions about your life. You find Zander to be too prying and nervous. I, on the other hand, find Zander to be interested and observant. You and I meet to talk about our dates. Strangely enough you tell me Xavier is a great conversationalist and I tell you Zander is a great conversationalist.

    The descriptors are so broad that they don't actually say anything about the person. It's like saying: 'my Mr. Perfect is nice'. The only way to avoid this is by being more specific and saying 'my Mr. Perfect really likes giraffes'. This doesn't work though because a lot of us don't want to box ourselves into a corner and miss out on the REAL Mr. Perfect because we were busy looking for giraffe conservationists.

    I wish I had the real solution to all this, but I don't. In fact, hypothetical Cold just went on more dates in several seconds than I have had in my entire existence.

    /life


    I'm so very tempted to put "giraffe conversationalists" in my Looking For section - it basically sums up everything I want in a man. And only that.

    I've never been able to describe my Mr. Perfect - mostly because there are so many qualities a guy can have that attract me to them, and some of them seem to contradict others. Which just leads me to believe there is no Mr. Perfect, but there are a whooooole lotta Mr. Rights. icon_biggrin.gif