Do you get mad when your boyfriend doesn't text you in a couple of hours you have texted him?

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    Apr 14, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    I am recently in a relationship that is a month old and the only problem I have is him texting me back in a couple hours when he knows I have texted him back a long time ago. He goes to the college where he doesn't get service in the building but my thing he can always search for a nearby window and get service there to see if I have texted him. He usually wait when he is outside or done with class to text me back. By this time, am mad because he knows I hate waiting for his text for more than a hour. My question is, do you think it is a good reason to be mad?

    Do you think it can effect our relationship if I make this a big deal?

    P.S. Before we met, he never texted but now he text a lot so I should him a break and wait for another month when he knows my route?


    Lets say, if you (the reader) and I was dating and I get mad at you for this peculiar reason would you be annoyed?















  • charlieviiper...

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    Apr 14, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    I wouldn't get mad, cause I think I'd respect the fact that my partner is busy, and I'm not insecure or codependant.

    After all... it's just texting.

    Communication is important, but as long as he eventually texts back, or
    If my text wasn't urgent it'd be okay. If it was something urgent, I'd call anyways.



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    Apr 14, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
    Just chill mate, as the above post implies, he is a busy person! AND u guys are obviously in a r/ship for a reason because he clearly cares for you! Don't let this bother you mate
  • hockeydude12

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    Apr 14, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
    i wouldnt get mad at all dude, cut him some slack for sure. Especially since he wasnt a big texter before, you don't want to scare him off. Since it is an early relationship, I know you are all excited, but you don't want to scare him off and seem desperate. big turn off! So dont get mad dude.
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    Apr 14, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    thanks guys!!! I have a lot to learn. This is my first relationship I EVER had so I don't want to be that crazy boyfriend..lol
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    Apr 14, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    No.

    What I do find annoying is the habit of some of the iPhone/android users to do this:

    Them:"would you mind" {send}

    (I read the message get back to work)




    "if I was to ask" {send}

    (again, I read the message and get back to work)icon_rolleyes.gif



    "you something" {send}


    (and yet again!)

    "personal?"{send}


    By now, I'm ignoring you and wouldn't respond if you were giving out free blowjobs!

    For fucksake, this isn't twitter! You are allowed to send more than 2 words at a time, shithead!

    Some of us have a life outside of texting!




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    Apr 14, 2011 10:16 PM GMT
    I can't tell you how angry I get when my non-existent boyfriend doesn't text me back on my non-texting cell phone. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 14, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
    1) it's text messaging. There's nothing more impersonal other than an email or FB or an anonymous hand grabbing you in the crowd.
    2) it's text messaging.
    3) it's text messaging. We never had these problems ten years ago.

    You could easily stress your concern. If it continues to be an issue you or him should probably move on. I'm sensing that there's an underlying issue of trust or insecurity. Again, it is only a one month old relationship.

    OR

    you could passive-aggressively, intentionally not return his texts right away and revert to being 10-12 years old again.

  • RHUK

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    Apr 14, 2011 10:46 PM GMT
    Ugh, I hate texting, and I find it so rude when my friends in relationships text their partners while were out in a restaurant, or watching a movie together, or just talking, its SO annoying.

    There is just no need to text back and forth constantly, I swear it's unhealthy, people need a little space.

    I do think if you make this a big deal you will affect your relationship. He was a non-texter, you are a hyper-texter. He has compromised, so should you.
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    Apr 14, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    Neekidboi saidLets say, if you (the reader) and I was dating and I get mad at you for this peculiar reason would you be annoyed?
    If you're that impatient, I'd never start dating you to begin with.
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    Apr 14, 2011 10:53 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Neekidboi saidLets say, if you (the reader) and I was dating and I get mad at you for this peculiar reason would you be annoyed?
    If you're that impatient, I'd never start dating you to begin with.


    I agree with Paul. If you got mad at me for not texting you back right away I'd either sit you down and have a talk with you and tell you to back off or I'd end things. My partner and I text each other but sometimes it will be many hours before the other one gets back - neither one of us gets mad. We both have busy lives and there are instances where we can't text or call.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 14, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    Not if he calls me right away to explain why he can't text....100.gif
  • BardBear

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    Apr 14, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    I trust my partner enough--he's probably busy.

    Peace,
    Bardy
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    Apr 14, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    My cell phone is for MY benefit.. no one else! Period!
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    Apr 15, 2011 12:11 AM GMT
    I would be very annoyed. He's in class, duh. He is busy and to think that he can just randomly go to a window just to see if you texted him is very selfish on your part. Besides, every college class I took forbid the use of cell phones in class. Cut the poor guy some slack.icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 15, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    The only person that should be mad is HIM. I'd trash your phone, break up with you and take your beloved hat.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 15, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    TropicalMark saidMy cell phone is for MY benefit.. no one else! Period!


    Well.....can I at least have your number? icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 15, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    A couple of hours is not a lot of time. Many times, people will text me and I may not respond. Nothing intentional, but it just slips my mind to respond back.

    Realize too some people may not be into texting at all. It gets me when a person initially texts me over and over again waiting for a reply but they haven't taken the initiative to call.

    Getting mad over trivial stuff like not answering a text right away is the quickest way to ruin a relationship.

    bigeasydude saidThe only person that should be mad is HIM. I'd trash your phone, break up with you and take your beloved hat.


    If you did that to me, I'd be glad to drop you...and refer you to anger management!
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    Apr 15, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    Not at all. But then my bf works like 80+ hours a week. I mostly see him on weekends. I trust him enough to know that he's probably busy.
  • alby

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    Apr 15, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    just make sure you give him his space icon_smile.gif a relationship is all about compromise and its the small things such as texting and not responding in a prompt time really makes the relationship hit some high tides. So don't worry about it so much. Enjoy the relationship btw!
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    Apr 15, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    I get mad at anybody that doesnt text back at all.... once ok, but twice or more is just rude
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    Apr 15, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    Because he's relatively new to texting he probably feels like if you were trying to communicate something really important to him you would just call him. Texting is great and all but a phone call is much better.

    And Congrats on your first relationship buddy! You should be really excited (I know you are otherwise you wouldn't be posting here) If you ever need advice or something let me know man.
  • treatst

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    Apr 15, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    THE POINT IS YOU DON'T TRUST HIM.

    END IT NOW.
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    Apr 15, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    Ur a needy fucking psychopath
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    Apr 15, 2011 4:44 AM GMT
    Johnnyhotsauce saidUr a needy fucking psychopath


    ^^Like^^