Age difference of 26 years.

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    Apr 15, 2011 7:15 PM GMT
    Hi, I got to know this guy online and we have been connected on skype since, he messages me early in the morning if i am not there and keeps me constantly online, videos me himself, playing guitar, fixing his hair, flexing his muscles but nothing naked.

    He keeps calling me gay, for the past 5 months he has called me gay a thousand times and I have told him to stop and he did not, so now i just go with it and say to him that he can think of me whatever he wants to.

    Yes i do like him and we are connected despite our age difference, I still see something wrong with this picture, we are 26 years different in age and even he says he is straight and had girlfriends, then why he is so connected to me, why he wants me online all the time and calls me gay.

    I am soon to visit him for a few weeks, any suggestions as to what to do. I am just getting tired of hearing all his gay comments about me.

    He also told me that once he kissed a guy on the lips, this because the gay guy was following him for months. So I do not know if he is gay or bi.

    I can tell you that he has feelings for me, I know this for sure, but is he hiding something, will he deny it like he is now and keep calling me gay and stuff, saying at times he wants to wank me and bunch of gay terms and arousing vocabulary.

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    Apr 15, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    Sounds closeted to me.... I think this might be a bigger problem than the age difference.
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    Apr 15, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    You mean he is in the closet? Well he says I am , and wants me to admit it, but he shows all this affection to me? I am curious to see what happens when we spend time together for a few weeks.

    Should i play it cool or make a move or what?
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    Apr 15, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    I obviously dont know this person from adam but from my experience with a similar situation (without the age difference) I think theres going to be a lot of alcohol around and he will probably expect you to try something with him while he's "drunk". If you're feeling it go for it. But closeted guys like this can be a little tricky and at times irrational. If he is in all honestly drunk then I wouldnt suggest putting the moves on him. You wouldnt want to put yourself in the vulnerable position of dealing with someone else's insecurities.
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    Apr 15, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    He does not get drunk, does not drink but has told me, when i joke with him that i will try something on him, and i said this to him out of frustration because of constant name calling,he says that he will break my teeth or punch me etc... He is muscular, I am also not sure what he has on his plate, i would be staying over for a few weeks, not sure what he is trying to achieve, not sure what will happen,

    I think i will not make any moves, i am attracted to him but worried he might get violent.
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    Apr 15, 2011 7:38 PM GMT
    Well, that really is a big age difference. I've seen bigger age differences but i don't think i'd be able to get past the fact that the other person could be my father/son. Does he call you gay affectionately or is it meant derogatorily? If it's affectionately, i wouldn't get too worked up about it. And also he's 19 years old, so he's gonna be a little immature anyway.
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    Apr 15, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    Let him go & move on.
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    Apr 15, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    obviously he's just a closet case, he wants you but doesn't want to do anything about it because he doesn't want to be gay. it's a waste of time. he'll keep playing with you or taunting you or w/e and you'll be irritated forever. just ignore him or at least don't allow him to keep doing that.
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    Apr 15, 2011 10:29 PM GMT
    He's so deep in the closet that he wants to kill other gays.
    That's why he's luring you in. It's a trap.
    You're probably not the only one, either.
    Get his real name and [pay for] a full records check on him if you really want to meet him.
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    Apr 15, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
    I agree with Paul. We'll never know
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    Apr 15, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    Wait, Isn't he the guy you mentioned in the other post how he chats with you for 7 hours on skype and even while he's showering so you can hear the sound of water running?

    My advice to you is that "Please don't visit him. It doesn't matter whether you already promised him. Make up another excuse and not go. Please don't. There are alot of things going wrong in this picture.

    1st. He met you online. What kind of a straight guy would meet another guy who's 26 years younger online and continue to keep in touch with him?

    2nd. He is using his "straightness" or "having girlfriends" as an excuse to lure you into visiting him. Lord knows how many gay guys would be turned on the word "straight"?

    3rd. If he's straight, why is he still talking to you, 26 years younger, keep on antagonizing you to be gay and ultimately agreeing to spend time with you for a few weeks?

    4th. If he is strictly platonic, why is he flexing his muscles and playing guitars for you and talking about the experience of kissing another guy? Sounds highly suspicious.

    5th. And you haven't met him in person and you are agreeing to spend time at his place for three weeks?? That's very dangerous

    6th. Please, please don't go to his place. That sounds very dangerous and unnatural and I'm sure you've already sensed that even subconsciously since you posted a thread about the 26 years age difference.





    6th
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    Apr 16, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    I knew a guy who had an "on line" relationship for 6 months.

    He eventually flew to meet him.

    When he walked out of the terminal.....

    ZIP....NADDA.....NOTHING.

    No one there.
    Phone number no longer worked.
    Emails were blocked.


    26 years difference is too weird.
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    Apr 16, 2011 6:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidHe's so deep in the closet that he wants to kill other gays.
    That's why he's luring you in. It's a trap.
    You're probably not the only one, either.
    Get his real name and [pay for] a full records check on him if you really want to meet him.


    I totally agree with Paul. Your safety is the most important thing. You can't rewind and do over; your life isn't a video game ya know?
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    Apr 16, 2011 6:48 AM GMT
    LeanathleticDC saidI knew a guy who had an "on line" relationship for 6 months.

    He eventually flew to meet him.

    When he walked out of the terminal.....

    ZIP....NADDA.....NOTHING.

    No one there.
    Phone number no longer worked.
    Emails were blocked.


    26 years difference is too weird.


    Shit that's just about the most fucked up thing I have heard all week.
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    Apr 16, 2011 6:50 AM GMT
    Turin saidLet him go & move on.


    +1
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    Apr 16, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    This sounds like a dangerous situation.

    There is no shortage of guys on the Internet, so just find another one.
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    Apr 16, 2011 7:24 AM GMT
    You haven't MET him in real life. This is not a real relationship. Get off the computer and go to your local gay bar. This man is fake.
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    Apr 16, 2011 8:00 AM GMT
    Why the fuck are you visiting this guy?

    He sounds fucked.
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    Apr 16, 2011 8:05 AM GMT
    Anduru saidWhy the fuck are you visiting this guy?

    He sounds fucked.


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    Apr 16, 2011 8:58 AM GMT
    Hold on Sean.

    Your profile says your 45

    So this guy is 26 years younger than you??

    The crazy guy is really a 19-year-old kid?

    Or is he 26 years older, a 71-year-old geriatric???.

    What's the story.

    It's no secret I like younger guys, so I'd visit a 19-year-old. A little craziness over a weekend never hurt anybody.

    LOL

    Get back with some more details.
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    Apr 16, 2011 9:45 AM GMT
    Am I the only one who read that and had RED FLAGS smack me in the face with every sentence????
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    Apr 16, 2011 9:48 AM GMT
    yes, he is the younger person. he is 20 and i am 46.I read all the comments above and appreciate all of your concerns, I think you were thinking I was the younger person.

    This guy has given me his address where he will I will be staying, I have his phone number, His parents address and his parents work address and number.

    I just feel he is into me because I have truly shown him that I care and helped and mentor him in his profession which we both specialize in.

    What still puzzles me is his crush on me , for example he wants to see me on web cam, I usually just voice but when he comes on he asks to see me too. He also did a funny video of me visiting his town, nothing sexual.

    He still calls me gay, he tells me he loves women and shows me pictures of his past girl friends and ones he likes on the net, so I tried something, I told hm that there is this woman that I like and she emails me, just to see what he says, he sounded jealous and I said should i meet her before the visit with him or after, he said neither and told me to tell her to fuck off.

    This and other things he does that makes me wonder if he is hiding or not. He has a good heart and young at age 20, I am stupid and 46 for liking him, It just happened that we started this likeness for each other icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 16, 2011 9:55 AM GMT
    Sorry for saying so, but this sounds like one of those explanations that a teacher would give when put on trial for having an affair with one of her students. "We just bonded."