Going alone

  • Profire

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    Apr 16, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    Can you go to a restaurant alone?
    How about going to a bar alone?

    After reading so many posts on here about guys being lonely and not dating anybody, I started wondering if people can go to restaurants/bars alone and either eat/drink alone or chat up the person next to you.

    I can't go to a restaurant or bar alone.
    I feel out of my comfort zone and don't know what to do so I bury my face into a book or my iPhone which then means I end up eating/drinking alone, so it would have been easier if I go take-out and went back home.

    Are you comfortable going to restaurants or bars alone?
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    Apr 16, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    I can go to a bar alone...or club, that's no issue. Actually, the bigger the place and more the people, the easier it is.

    I won't go to a tiny bar where there's only 4 people at. It's funny because when I go to those places with a friend, I think "man if I came here alone I'd be bored as all out"

    The reason why I wouldn't go to a sit down restaurant alone is because I just can't justify spending $20 or $30 on a meal just to sit there and stare at my plate. Places like that are meant to be enjoyed with other people.

    I still don't understand the justification of not going to a bar/club alone. You're not alone, you have people all around you all you have to do is throw yourself into the crowd...
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    Apr 16, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    YES! I can. We were born alone and will die alone. So long as I am not violating anyone's comfort space or making suggestive movement or anything in return, I'd be up for making new friends.
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    Apr 16, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    of course you can, it just might be boring.

    im pretty anti social normally, when i was a kid if i wanted to see a movie i'd try to go by myself but was forced to bring friends by my mom. i just wanted to see the movie hahaha.

    i see people pretty often just start a small conversation with someone near them so you could meet someone that way. usually those conversations dont go very far though.

    if i drank, i would def. go to a bar alone. restaraunt, maybe. anywhere else, i'd probably be alright. when i was a teenager i went to new york and just wandered around manhattan by myself for 2 days and met up with some kids from california and hung around them. i was pulling out a map every 2 seconds though, not smart to look lost like that hahaha.
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    Apr 16, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    Profire saidAre you comfortable going to restaurants or bars alone?
    Yes, both.
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    Apr 16, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    I can go to bars/restaurants/movies with friends or alone. Either way, I'm enjoying myself.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 16, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    Yes, I have no problem with it. icon_wink.gif
  • Profire

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    Apr 16, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    I can go to casual restaurants alone such as Panera, but going to something more upscale or a bar is where I have problems.
    I get too scared, bored, insecure to sit there alone.
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    Apr 16, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    it's a normal feeling icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 16, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    Profire saidI get too scared, bored, insecure to sit there alone.

    Dude, as good-looking as you are, I can't understand why you're feeling those negative emotions. Can you explain? I have an idea but I rather you tell me why.
  • Profire

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    Apr 16, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
    bigeasydude said
    Profire saidI get too scared, bored, insecure to sit there alone.

    Dude, as good-looking as you are, I can't understand why you're feeling those negative emotions. Can you explain? I have an idea but I rather you tell me why.


    You have an idea? Care to share?

    Most people go to restaurants or bars with friends so they tend to stay within their pack and trying to break into that pack is difficult.
  • Aus92

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    Apr 16, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    Theres no way I can go to a bar by myself...

    Sometimes I just have a friend who doesnt want to go out come with me for about 30 minutes, find some new random friends then my other friend goes home icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 16, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    Bars, yes.
    Movies, yes.
    Casual restaurants, yes.
    Formal restaurants, I normally don't go to these types of places unless it's for a get-together or something. But I wouldn't have any hang-ups about going alone.
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    Apr 16, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    Profire said
    bigeasydude said
    Profire saidI get too scared, bored, insecure to sit there alone.

    Dude, as good-looking as you are, I can't understand why you're feeling those negative emotions. Can you explain? I have an idea but I rather you tell me why.

    You have an idea? Care to share?

    Most people go to restaurants or bars with friends so they tend to stay within their pack and trying to break into that pack is difficult.

    Do you want to try to break into a pack? Just curious.
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    Apr 16, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    bigeasydude saidI can go to bars/restaurants/movies with friends or alone. Either way, I'm enjoying myself.

    Me too.. I sometimes want to get out of the house and go to Panera just because I am craving a hot Chicken Fontega Pannini or something.


    Each and every day (at least the restaurant part). I don't usually go to bars.
    I'm quite happy living in my own skin.
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    Apr 16, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    I go do all kinds of things alone. It doesn't make me feel uncomfortable at all. Apparently, this is not the case for many people. Just today I had a friend ask what I did last night, and when I told him he said "awww man, you should have told me. I would have went with you." I didn't have the heart to tell him I went by myself because I wanted to. I know this may sound weird, but there are many times I just enjoy my own company.
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    Apr 16, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    Profire saidI can go to casual restaurants alone such as Panera, but going to something more upscale or a bar is where I have problems.
    I get too scared, bored, insecure to sit there alone.

    I have no problem doing that. I think it is important for all of us to be willing to do things to get out of our comfort zone. Expanding the comfort zone is one way we grow.
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    Apr 16, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    From these secure fellows, they feel confident to be out and about alone...
    GAMRican saidI'm quite happy living in my own skin.


    ScruffyPup saidMany times I just enjoy my own company.


    Well, this one is just hungry.
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI am craving a hot Chicken Fontega Pannini or something.




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    Apr 16, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    Sure. I go to places alone all the time. But not crowded places though. I enjoy the peace and quiet. Solitude is the word of the day. Don't get me wrong I love people but only the people who don't piss me off lol.
  • Import

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    Apr 16, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    ill go to starbucks alone or i'll go to a movie alone, but not like a sit down restaurant or bar.
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    Apr 16, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    breaking into a pack just sounds like it won't work to me, but i'm so out of the social loop maybe i'm wrong. usually when people go to a formal restaurant they're not mingling and meeting people. club or bar, sure though.
  • eddieross69

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    Apr 16, 2011 4:07 AM GMT
    I used to be terrified of going out alone. But because of my job I travel a lot, and usually to foreign countries. Gotta eat, whatcha goin' do? I've become quite comfortable going out by myself.

    In a restaurant I usually chat it up with the wait staff and they are usually happy to have a small chat, tell me where the hot places to go are, etc.

    When I go to a bar I usually hang out at the bar and kinda make friends with the bartender (generous tips usually get the convo started). After I while I wander, but I keep the bar as home base just in case there's nothing really going on.
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    Apr 16, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    I can go alone. Restaurants are not a problem at all. I never go with any intention of meeting someone new at all. I can go to bars and clubs alone too. Here, though, I seem to forget how to talk or say hello. Seems a hello is translated into I want to f@@k you when it really does just mean hello. So I figure 1 actual conversation out of 100 attempts is a good start. It is just a matter of not taking it personally or too personally. That requires being comfy in your own skin. I am but get stronger about each day.
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    Apr 16, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    I don't know.. I worked in restaurants when I was in school and grew up loving to eat out. I have done quite a bit of traveling for work and have had to go out quite a bit on my own to eat, either that or do carry out in the room.

    It really doesn't bother me a bit. I'm quite gregarious and meet people easily, and don't mind my own company.

    Doesn't bother me at all... especially if I'm really hungry lol
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 16, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    i am ok going to a bar alone and can do restuarant like a freshii or a chipotle but that is about it. i have gone to bars by myself a few times.