Only the hot gay man can find a boyfriend?

  • uoyevol

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    Apr 16, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    It is a truth that a gay man always wishes to have a hot boyfriend. The appearance and the sexual attraction are in the top consideration,and there’s nothing wrong about it.

    However, hot men are scarce. Nowadays people get used to look for a bf on the internet; they usually exchange the photos first, the men who are not hot enough could be easily turned down by others. Because there are so many sexy men out there, they don't have the patience and interest to know other men more deeply. So many gay men keep looking and looking, but they can’t find a boyfriend. And it’s becoming more convenient for some gay to look for quick fuck on the internet or in the gay bar. So promiscuity is very popular in the gay world.

    Well in the real world, to sustain a relationship, the character, the habits and the common interests are more important than the appearance. I knew a lot heterosexual couples, most of them are not prince and princess, but they live happily. Can someone fall in love with gay Bridget.Jones? Can the Shrek story happen to gay men?
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    Apr 16, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    Well, that is how the gay world works. Only the hottest men pair up and pass their genes on to the next generation.

    Not

    First of all, not all gay men search for a boyfriend all the time, some are quite happy single and that can be for a period of time or forever. If you look at enough profiles on here or read enough threads, you'll find that many, many hot guys are single, so even they run into problems. Some guys are to picky, some think there is always someone better ahead, some just don't click with anybody.

    If you look for a boyfriend on the www, wait until you've met in person before looking for wedding rings. While 2 guys may have an incredible connection online and on the phone, a meeting can change everything. Many guys lie and exaggerate while online and meeting them can be a rude wake-up call.

    Try to meet other guys in the real world, doing something you enjoy. Be that sports, movies, theater, activism etc. Your chances of meeting a potential boyfriend are much bigger there.

    Also, you need to be happy by yourself first, know who you are, be self-confident. Then you will attract guys. Nothing drives guys away more than desperation. The more you'll look for a boyfriend the less likely you are to find one.

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    Apr 16, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidWell, that is how the gay world works. Only the hottest men pair up and pass their genes on to the next generation.

    Not

    First of all, not all gay men search for a boyfriend all the time, some are quite happy single and that can be for a period of time or forever. If you look at enough profiles on here or read enough threads, you'll find that many, many hot guys are single, so even they run into problems. Some guys are to picky, some think there is always someone better ahead, some just don't click with anybody.

    If you look for a boyfriend on the www, wait until you've met in person before looking for wedding rings. While 2 guys may have an incredible connection online and on the phone, a meeting can change everything. Many guys lie and exaggerate while online and meeting them can be a rude wake-up call.

    Try to meet other guys in the real world, doing something you enjoy. Be that sports, movies, theater, activism etc. Your chances of meeting a potential boyfriend are much bigger there.

    Also, you need to be happy by yourself first, know who you are, be self-confident. Then you will attract guys. Nothing drives guys away more than desperation. The more you'll look for a boyfriend the less likely you are to find one.



    perfectly stated.
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    Apr 16, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    In my view, gay men are very visual and, as a result, they tend to be attracted to gay men who are physically attractive. However, attractiveness is extremely subjective. As I always say, beauty is in the eye of the beerholder. In addition, beauty is only skin-deep--in other words, you have to have more than beauty to sustain a relationship (assuming that's what you're looking for). Characteristics that not are not readily manifest--e.g., kindness, loyalty,integrity, commonsense, etc.--are just as important and should, in my mind, complement physical attractiveness. Regrettably, gay men who possess both physical attractiveness and other less visible qualities are generally not available because they're either already taken, are not in the gay scene, or are just happy not being in a relationship. They are around, but you have to dig really deep and hard to find them.
  • easterndude69

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    Apr 18, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    I do find that on the internet, it's easy to fall into the trap of looking for only the hottest guys. I mean, you've never met any of these people, and there's nothing to show for them at first glance but their looks. In real life, it's possible to have someone who you weren't attracted to at first as a bf(but as a friend) to later become attractive to you that way. But this is where it's tough for gay men, because they don't have the same opportunity straight men do. You can't just go up to any one of your guy friends and tell them you feel a special way for them and expect them to jump in a relationship with you. For most people, the internet is the only place, sadly, to look for men to date. This method, however, almost never works in the long term. The feelings of trust, companionship, and those of a good friend just aren't there. I'd rather meet a guy in person, be his friend, and then develop my feelings for him. He doesn't have to be hot necessarily, but that's what most look for online, and I fall into that trap as well. The intimate feelings one gets when they meet in person aren't the same online.icon_sad.gif