what makes a man , a man?

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    Dec 30, 2006 11:31 PM GMT
    will be interesting to see , the replys
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    Dec 31, 2006 1:05 AM GMT
    A man is a man when he feels like god creating things, inproving life, saving others, living the cosmos as part of hinself as his arms or heart, eyes or feet.
    Feeling as part of the universal creation
    and admiring the stars, loving the human kind and knowing that he´s the only one who can make this world better.
  • Todtools

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    Jan 05, 2007 1:29 PM GMT
    I man is someone who secretly admires all other handsome mans. Who said a dog is man's best friend? I think another man is:)
  • Todtools

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    Jan 05, 2007 1:30 PM GMT
    men not mans hehe
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    Jan 08, 2007 3:16 AM GMT
    the strength of this character
    the truth of his spirit
    the selflessness of his heart
    the generosit of soul
    the proportions in which he loves and allows others to love him; in which he gives and accepts what's given to him; in which learns and allows others to learn from his successes, faileures, victories and shortcomings.
    the realisation - the fulfillment - of one's purpose within a context of respect and devotion to the greater good.
    That to me is what makes a man, a man for therein lie the vectors of strength, courage and wisdom.
  • canuckdave

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    Jan 10, 2007 4:23 AM GMT
    Self-confidance, kindness, a positive attitude, honesty, conviction & strength of character. Without that, all the physical beauty is nothing.
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    Jan 14, 2007 10:47 PM GMT
    Attitude.
  • phill

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    Feb 24, 2007 3:26 AM GMT
    Thanks for asking this question. I ponder the notion of being a man and what masculinity is.

    Being a man is the ability to be strong in the face of adversity. To show emotion and vulerability because you understand yourself completely and arent afraid of the value judgements of others. Its the want to protect, to create, and foster an enviroment of positivity.

    Its all the things that you gentleman said but its also the ability to take those words from its idealized notions and ACT on them. Own the world you live in make mistakes because it shows that your trying.
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    Feb 26, 2007 10:37 PM GMT
    Not being afraid to take risk, face conflict, love, hate, passion, challenge yourself in the areas out of your norm; all with a solid foundation and strong character.

    Being true to yourself is to be a MAN
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    Feb 26, 2007 10:52 PM GMT
    A penis and some pubic hair (whether present or not).

    Call me a realist.

    ;)
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    Feb 27, 2007 12:40 AM GMT
    Confidence.
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    Feb 27, 2007 1:10 AM GMT
    Physically speaking a chromosome .. your sex is decided at conception .. a mans sperm determines male or female.

    what makes a man a homo .. well that is another story
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    Feb 27, 2007 1:21 AM GMT
    they X gene on the chromosone
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    Feb 27, 2007 2:06 AM GMT
    TESTOSTERONE makes a man a man.

    (It also is what makes a woman a man.)
  • jc_online

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    Feb 27, 2007 3:01 AM GMT
    Great topic, and I think you are all correct. I googled and found the following book - can't wait to read the essays.


    WHAT MAKES A MAN: Twenty-two Writers Imagine the Future

    22 fresh essays on contemporary masculinity, a topic proving to be one of the most important of the 21st century. From Daddy Day Care to Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, metrosexual presidential candidates to gay four-star generals, it seems clear that what makes a man is under serious review. A diverse collection that explores the interstices of contemporary masculinity and war, money, sex, marriage, and inner peace, among others.
    Most men want to come out as the sensitive, multi-dimensional beings that they are. They want to be loved without having to fight to prove their manhood, without having to hurt others in order to secure their own place at the table. In the same way that women have had to break free of traditional behavior, men too are beginning to reject the idea of a one-size fits all masculinity, and to liberate themselves from the socially acceptable performance that restricts their full human potential.
    The work of redefining what it means to be a man is the work of securing the survival of our species. I have no doubt that when men no longer feel the cultural imperative to dominate a family, an employee, or a country, and when they are free from the fear of expressing their vulnerability, we will be closer to a world in which all people can be assured of their birthright: to live in peace.

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    Feb 27, 2007 3:24 AM GMT
    What makes a man a man... as opposed to...
    someone of another gender? a boy? a dolphin?

    This could be answered in a 200-page essay or it could be as simple as this:
    if you honestly feel like a man and honestly identify as one, then you are one.
  • phill

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    Feb 28, 2007 3:14 AM GMT
    thanks jc_online that book sounds fascinating i cant wait to read it!
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    Feb 28, 2007 4:18 AM GMT
    as opposed to, a woman? besides stating the obvious, the answer is anything but. In my opinion, a man is a being that has grown into his purpose.
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    Feb 28, 2007 4:27 AM GMT
    A man is someone who embraces the duality of all things, that recognizes and respects the sacred feminine, and strives to integrate that with the more archetypal male traits. Gee nickjoe you ask these questions that would take books to answer... best we can do is give our 2 sentences here or there, for there are no right or wrong answers. :) though an answer might just be blowing in the wind. ;)
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    Feb 28, 2007 4:56 AM GMT
    The definition of a man is not one that would be the same for everyone. A man for me is one that is supportive of his family, able to provide a loving environment for his loved ones, able to be approachable and willing. A true man will acknowledge his faults and try to correct them. He will see the good in people and appreciate diversity no matter how different.

  • Mar 03, 2007 9:04 AM GMT
    nickjoe, I think the fact that you have thought enough about it and decided to ask the question makes you a man. I believe being a man has a different definition for everyone~for me, it's someone who has found balance in all aspects of his life or at least someone who strives for these things.
  • christomax

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    Mar 23, 2007 3:56 PM GMT
    Having an XY chromosome..
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    May 01, 2007 3:25 PM GMT
    my belief is that for me to view myself as a man i'd have to:

    -be independent
    -contribute to the community and environment
    -contribute to my family/families
    -to look after myself knowing without a strong self i couldn't be of use in society and to myself
    -non-judgmental, open minded, able to separate personal opinion and point of views
    -help others in need
    -pass on knowledge to people who want to listen and to learn as much as possible
    -have friendships with older, present and younger generations
    -take chances and risks

    for me, to be called a man is something i would leave up to other people to call me, i wouldn't call myself one even if i "classified" myself as one

    a "man" is a title, biology, definition of law, many things
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    Aug 07, 2007 4:37 PM GMT
    This is a tough question to answer and just my experience. In the sports venue, I do identify a man physically first, in the locker room shower or dressing room I observe all of him-his face right down to his feet. Most often I hear him speak with other men, the voice-the character of the voice, the content is muted. I watch him move about, get ready for whatever.
    On occasion in the gym I talk to him observe his reaction to me: his words his body language.
    Things I experience, a good meaningful handshake, a hearty masculine laugh, a balanced physique, an amazing move or feat in sport, a well spoken, soft spoken man. A stare and smile that would make my heart rate jump.
    I don't attach an age, a culture, a political slant, a religious slant, a sexual preference . I don't expect him to prove his manhood on the spot. He takes great satisfaction in being a man.
    Assertive, reliable to self and others, respectful, desire to succeed, a good role-model, at times a hero.
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    Aug 07, 2007 5:08 PM GMT
    The Seven Knightly Virtues, a good defination of what a man SHOULD be.

    Courage
    More than bravado or bluster, today’s knight must have the courage of the heart necessary to undertake tasks which are difficult, tedious or unglamorous, and to graciously accept the sacrifices involved.

    Justice
    A knight holds him- or herself to the highest standard of behavior, and knows that “fudging” on the little rules weakens the fabric of society for everyone.

    Mercy
    Words and attitudes can be painful weapons in the modern world, which is why a knight exercises mercy in his or her dealings with others, creating a sense of peace and community, rather than engendering hostility and antagonism.

    Generosity
    Sharing what’s valuable in life means not just giving away material goods, but also time, attention, wisdom and energy — the things that create a strong, rich and diverse community.

    Faith
    In the code of chivalry, “faith” means trust and integrity, and a knight is always faithful to his or her promises, no matter how big or small they may be.

    Nobility
    Although this word is sometimes confused with “entitlement” or “snobbishness,” in the code of chivalry it conveys the importance of upholding one’s convictions at all times, especially when no one else is watching.

    Hope
    More than just a safety net in times of tragedy, hope is present every day in a modern knight’s positive outlook and cheerful demeanor — the shining armor that shields him or her, and inspires people all around.