Doesn't anal sex gross you out?

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    Apr 02, 2008 4:29 PM GMT
    Hi guys,

    I wonder if there are other guys like me.

    I love penetrating my husband and I do get a lot of pleasure out of it. Meaning physically, I feel the nice sensation on my penis and I like pumping his ass until I come. The nice thing is, he stays hard all the time and would try to coordinate with me so that we both come together. icon_smile.gif

    BUT the shit really gross me out. We talked about this and we've tried flushing his anus with a shower tube so that it is nice and clean when I penetrate him. Or so we thought, because somehow, even though it doesn't look so disgusting on my dick, I SMELL it!! I get so put off by the smell of shit that I lose my erection. What should I do?

    Problem is, I don't like being penetrated. But I'll start a new thread to explain why as it is a separate problem.
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    Apr 02, 2008 8:10 PM GMT
    I think it's disgusting. I topped a guy once and never again - I'm sorry, but the anus is just not meant to be penetrated.

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    Apr 02, 2008 8:46 PM GMT
    Guys - I hate to read that you're not having a good experience with anal. Oh man - I once had reservations too - until I learned the value of eating right - oatmeal can make a difference. When you eat right and clean thoroughly - like most guys now do - this can make all the difference for you.
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    Apr 02, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    Titanite said

    BUT the shit really gross me out. We talked about this and we've tried flushing his anus with a shower tube so that it is nice and clean when I penetrate him. Or so we thought, because somehow, even though it doesn't look so disgusting on my dick, I SMELL it!! I get so put off by the smell of shit that I lose my erection. What should I do?



    what are you talking about? you don't even need lube when you have shit and blood. just hold your nose while you fuck him, that's what you should do! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 02, 2008 9:41 PM GMT
    I must admit that when I initially came out it grossed me out a bit. Now it does not bother me. I would try and have an enema though if I thought it would help with the "debris". Holding my nose during sex is not a good option! It sort of ruins the mood.
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    Apr 02, 2008 9:46 PM GMT
    Because you are thinking about it so much and your senses are heightened you will notice it more

    Im not suggesting poppers far from it but would suggest some heavily scented candles or room de-oderisers. Failing that get some nice strong smelling flavoured body lube as they like to call it. Give him a nice massage with it first and hopefuly that will mask the smell

    The issue is more often to do with the diet of the ermmmm recipient tho
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    Apr 02, 2008 10:48 PM GMT
    jbedwards saidI must admit that when I initially came out it grossed me out a bit. Now it does not bother me. I would try and have an enema though if I thought it would help with the "debris". Holding my nose during sex is not a good option! It sort of ruins the mood.


    um. you missed a whole bunch of sarcasm there.
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    Apr 02, 2008 11:30 PM GMT
    enemas dont clean him out sufficiently?

    Have him lie on his left side (the colon winds that way) and give 'em (3) time to work ... 15 minutes

    ... hey, evidently when they stick needles in your 'taint the body's response is to relieve itself and they didnt want it on the operating table for the radioactive implants either!... icon_lol.gif

    Just how deep do you reach?
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    Apr 03, 2008 12:23 AM GMT
    At first it grosed me out aswell, but now I love it!

    I top and bottom I love both. Just loose yourself in the whole sexual thing and you will have the best sex in your life. The first time I was fucked when I came out six years ago the guy had an eight inch cock and it feld uncomfortable as he was thick aswell.But now I love it but go for not so thick cocks rather than the thick onces.....It just feels better.

    Just go wih the flow bro......

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    Apr 03, 2008 12:25 AM GMT
    Sh*t happens.

    I know when it's a good time and when it's not. A regular diet is helpful.
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    Apr 03, 2008 8:41 PM GMT
    Enemas definitely kill the mood!!

    We take showers very regularly but sticking a tube HIGH up your ass right into your intestines just isn't very sexy.

    I can close my eyes but the pong really makes me sick.

    I'll try out the candle idea...

    Thanks for helping out, guys! ;)
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    Apr 03, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    Clearly, you haven't had sex with me. LOL!
    I will reveal my trade secret for a shit-free bottom experience that will guarantee you a repeat purchase, erm, engagement.
    If I know I have a fuck appointment, I will start fasting and initially do a no. 2, even if it's forced. An hour before the actual fornication lol, I'd use a minty gel toothpaste (about an inch on your index finger) to clean my anus. With a moist arsehole (make sure you flush with lukewarm water at the start), gently massage the toothpaste until you reach the inner, superficial wall cavity of the rectum. OH IT JUST DOESN'T FEEL MINTY FRESH BUT THE RIMMING PARTNER WOULD GO CRAZY OVER THE GREAT CLEAN SMELL AND TASTE OF YOUR ASS!!!
    The toothpaste will actually irritate your bowel until it flushes EVERYTHING that needs to go, even the 'pre-mature ones'...then like brushing your teeth, gargle your bowel (ideally with that hose thing near the toilet... the water pressure always helps). Try not to flush it all at once. Flush and hold, flush and hold until no 'debris' is seen or at least the water coming out from your anus is clear.
    If you think it's exhausting to be a top, think of the hard work the bottom has to endure before, during and after the fucking... so be kind to us you bitchezicon_razz.gif
    Oh this is exhausting!
    ALL BOTS, PLEASE TRY THIS AT HOME AND TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK.
    In advance, "You're most welcome!"
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    Apr 04, 2008 6:46 PM GMT
    zimatar saidClearly, you haven't had sex with me. LOL!
    I will reveal my trade secret for a shit-free bottom experience that will guarantee you a repeat purchase, erm, engagement.
    If I know I have a fuck appointment, I will start fasting and initially do a no. 2, even if it's forced. An hour before the actual fornication lol, I'd use a minty gel toothpaste (about an inch on your index finger) to clean my anus. With a moist arsehole (make sure you flush with lukewarm water at the start), gently massage the toothpaste until you reach the inner, superficial wall cavity of the rectum. OH IT JUST DOESN'T FEEL MINTY FRESH BUT THE RIMMING PARTNER WOULD GO CRAZY OVER THE GREAT CLEAN SMELL AND TASTE OF YOUR ASS!!!
    The toothpaste will actually irritate your bowel until it flushes EVERYTHING that needs to go, even the 'pre-mature ones'...then like brushing your teeth, gargle your bowel (ideally with that hose thing near the toilet... the water pressure always helps). Try not to flush it all at once. Flush and hold, flush and hold until no 'debris' is seen or at least the water coming out from your anus is clear.
    If you think it's exhausting to be a top, think of the hard work the bottom has to endure before, during and after the fucking... so be kind to us you bitchezicon_razz.gif
    Oh this is exhausting!
    ALL BOTS, PLEASE TRY THIS AT HOME AND TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK.
    In advance, "You're most welcome!"



    icon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gif Erm, thank you for the tip, Zimatar.

    That was the frankest thing I've ever heard in my life.

    I never knew being a bottom takes so much work!! I guess I'll stay being a top (it sounds selfish I know)! I love rimming a guy, well now my guy, because he would wriggle with pleasure. I give him that bit of enticement before I plough him for the next 30 minutes. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 06, 2008 11:58 PM GMT
    Eating a High fiber diet fixes that. It also helps to take probiotics or eat yogurt daily. That ought to tighten that shit right up and make for easy extraction.
    Enemas in certain situations do more harm than good. Shit is only present in the colon shortly before evacuation. So if you don't flush out the whole bowel, you just break stuff lose and have to deal with it, and also, it's wet and really messy.
    If I have a big all night or all weekend date, I take a series of retention enemas. I lay on my right side in the tub, insert the enema, always use filtered water with some sea salt to maintain salinity and insert the nozzle and let it flow. This allows the water to be gravity fed all the way through the bowel.
    I hold it in for 15 to 20 minutes and then evacuate and do it all over again until the water comes out clean. It's very time consuming. It feels great though.
    For a quick cleanout with a new guy or a quickie, I just excuse myself, go to the bathroom, lube up a finger, put it in, if I find anything unwanted I pull it out, throw it in the toilet, and repeat until clean.
    Then I wash up and please my man. The high fiber diet helps, the shit is somewhat hard and all together and isn't very messy at all.
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    May 10, 2008 4:56 AM GMT
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    what are you talking about? you don't even need lube when you have shit and blood. just hold your nose while you fuck him, that's what you should do! icon_smile.gif[/quote]

    There is some truth to this, and it happens more often when you are in a relationship I bet. Sometimes you really dont give a fuck and just go for it.

    The thing is I really just dont get the anal sex thing, it doesn't seem to make any logical sense, but then why are we into it so much? Is it just because just what we have to work with? If there was no asshole, then would it be like under-arm fucking? Is it not really about the act but the role reveral? What really is driving all these bottoms to want to get fucked? It seems like role reversal is stronger than the physical part, since there is not really a whole lot of feeling down there and certainly not as much as a woman and here pussy I bet. I dont know if the same can be said for the top since there is more of a feeling with the dick, but not as much from fucking a man as a woman, but then if you are into men more than women, it is more of a turnon to do a man.
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    May 10, 2008 5:02 AM GMT
    studd said[quote][cite]Johnny_Sunshine said[/cite][quote][cite]



    what are you talking about? you don't even need lube when you have shit and blood. just hold your nose while you fuck him, that's what you should do! icon_smile.gif[/quote]

    There is some truth to this, and it happens more often when you are in a relationship I bet. Sometimes you really dont give a fuck and just go for it.

    The thing is I really just dont get the anal sex thing, it doesn't seem to make any logical sense, but then why are we into it so much? Is it just because just what we have to work with? If there was no asshole, then would it be like under-arm fucking? Is it not really about the act but the role reveral? What really is driving all these bottoms to want to get fucked? It seems like role reversal is stronger than the physical part, since there is not really a whole lot of feeling down there and certainly not as much as a woman and here pussy I bet. I dont know if the same can be said for the top since there is more of a feeling with the dick, but not as much from fucking a man as a woman, but then if you are into men more than women, it is more of a turnon to do a man. [/quote]


    I won't get into a whole anatomy lesson, but to sum it up.... theres a whole lot of nerves in that area and then obviously theres the prostate. so long story short.... top + lube + proper angling/positioning = happy bottom.

    as for the poopie days... eh part of the territory. get him to take in more fiber and not pig out on on indian food before doing the deed...
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    May 10, 2008 5:27 AM GMT
    HereNBoston said[quote][cite]studd said[/cite][quote][cite]Johnny_Sunshine said[/cite][quote][cite]



    what are you talking about? you don't even need lube when you have shit and blood. just hold your nose while you fuck him, that's what you should do! icon_smile.gif[/quote]

    There is some truth to this, and it happens more often when you are in a relationship I bet. Sometimes you really dont give a fuck and just go for it.

    The thing is I really just dont get the anal sex thing, it doesn't seem to make any logical sense, but then why are we into it so much? Is it just because just what we have to work with? If there was no asshole, then would it be like under-arm fucking? Is it not really about the act but the role reveral? What really is driving all these bottoms to want to get fucked? It seems like role reversal is stronger than the physical part, since there is not really a whole lot of feeling down there and certainly not as much as a woman and here pussy I bet. I dont know if the same can be said for the top since there is more of a feeling with the dick, but not as much from fucking a man as a woman, but then if you are into men more than women, it is more of a turnon to do a man. [/quote]


    I won't get into a whole anatomy lesson, but to sum it up.... theres a whole lot of nerves in that area and then obviously theres the prostate. so long story short.... top + lube + proper angling/positioning = happy bottom.

    as for the poopie days... eh part of the territory. get him to take in more fiber and not pig out on on indian food before doing the deed... [/quote]

    man all he eats is fiber, he is hardcore, steamed veggies and nothing else. I am not sure that there is much in the way of nerves going on down there, and the prostate is not really that sensitive at least for me when the doc does that exam. Man he is a happy bottom, more like a happy bottom slut really.
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    May 10, 2008 7:13 AM GMT
    studd said[quote][cite]HereNBoston said[/cite][quote][cite]studd said[/cite][quote][cite]Johnny_Sunshine said[/cite][quote][cite]



    man all he eats is fiber, he is hardcore, steamed veggies and nothing else. I am not sure that there is much in the way of nerves going on down there, and the prostate is not really that sensitive at least for me when the doc does that exam. Man he is a happy bottom, more like a happy bottom slut really. [/quote]

    veggies are pretty high residue. go with oatmeal, flax seed, whole grains that kinda stuff. being physically active helps too with getting everything- uh... moving smoothly.

    the sphincter is pretty sensitive because of the nerve endings there. some guys just aren't into it though... just gotta relax and enjoy it really and not think so much
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    May 10, 2008 9:50 AM GMT
    I think it is a perceptual problem with being gay. Having been both "straight" and married twice before I was recruitedicon_wink.gif, I can attest that vaginal sex is no more or less appealing than anal sex. Far too many women don't maintain or clean it properly, it oozes blood for a week out of every month, sometimes has yeast colonies rage out of control, get orders of magnitude more rank than a foreskin, and looks like pulling a grilled-cheese sandwich open the morning after sex.

    There's your alternative. How's that ass sound now?
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    May 10, 2008 10:15 AM GMT
    Thanks for that very descriptive comment on lady sex. Bleurgh!
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    May 10, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    yeah nothing like some vaginosis stink to wake you up in the morning icon_smile.gif
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    May 11, 2008 10:23 AM GMT
    Well, someone had to say it. Sex on both teams is generally messy, you just have to learn that the mess is part of life.

    I mean really, the Spartans used to fuck in the days before soap.

    redheadguy saidThanks for that very descriptive comment on lady sex. Bleurgh!
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    May 11, 2008 10:41 AM GMT
    JustJohn saidI think it is a perceptual problem with being gay. Having been both "straight" and married twice before I was recruitedicon_wink.gif, I can attest that vaginal sex is no more or less appealing than anal sex. Far too many women don't maintain or clean it properly, it oozes blood for a week out of every month, sometimes has yeast colonies rage out of control, get orders of magnitude more rank than a foreskin, and looks like pulling a grilled-cheese sandwich open the morning after sex.

    There's your alternative. How's that ass sound now?


    Oh tasty, could we spread it on toast as a morning snack?
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    May 11, 2008 6:22 PM GMT
    If it ain't dirty then you ain't doin it right.
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    May 11, 2008 6:24 PM GMT
    Great advice guys!

    In my shower I have "body sprays" that are adjustable so that you can have the warm water shoot up your hole as gentle or as forceful as you like.
    Using that before and after really helps!

    Many guys use the hand held sprayer to accomplish the same thing.