For me, my life is about connecting with people who have similar interests. Being gay is a very small part of my life and I like it that way. I don't mind my straight life because I have a lot more in common with straight guys and find them to be way friendlier than the gay guys here. I will say that if you live in a town with a big gay population, it may
increase the odds of you finding a guy with whom you'll have a lot in common and that is what you should focus on more than anything else.
Its just like race. I am black but that doesn't necessarily mean that I need to be in a town with a high black population because blacks don't all necessarily have the same interests. So I look for people of any race that like the things I like. Unfortunately for me, I love sports and Austin just isn't a big sports town so I'm kinda screwed in that department (no pun)